can you love both?.....................
By acie_21
@acie_21 (5633)
Philippines
October 20, 2009 8:08pm CST
can you???i mean to love two guys....you cannot choose who do you really love..
you are not sure who do you want to be with???
loving two person in same time???is it possible???
have you experienced this already???
may i know why???
hard to decide who's best for your heart???
what you think???
loving both is it a sin???lol!
feel free to share!...
have fun!..
keep on posting!..
take care!...
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34 responses
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
21 Oct 09
YEs, one can be loving both at the same time.. haha =D However, i'm not the one, to be loving 2 ple, rather, i'm one of the 2, being loved by someone.. lol =D
Love is just a strange feeling, because the more we think that we wont stray, the more likely it's gonna happen.. For we are shutting ourself from all temptations, changes, and ple.. Thus, when we are faced with it, unexpectedly, we do get touched by their actions, and falling for them unknowingly.. haha =D
Just like, u are able to get a sense of security, responsible husband, which makes u happy.. BUt along came another guy, who's funny and able to make u smile, laugh, always, and that happens to fill the void in your heart, thus making u loving him too.. haha =D
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
hahahahah!kun...
so whose that guy???you??bwhahahahha!
were very happy with our married life what more can i ask for...
but to be a good wife to my hubby!...
heheheheh!
but maybe you are right..we can never say..
love can make do us crazy things..
but we just need to know whats best and whats right..
and we must take good care to our loved one's heart who sacrificed the love and respect in our relationship....temptations is just around but we must remain strong
and faithful..right kun???
thanks!lol!
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@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
21 Oct 09
It is understandable that young people might struggle between two, but better stop before go too far, especially for girls. You have to think clearly before selecting the right one for long relationship. Otherwise, you may fall into trouble, because normally human beings are selfish in terms of love. Few would like to share, if he or she is serious.
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@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
thanks for sharing zhuhuifen...
yes know a days young people tends to be confusing..lol!
cause their is to much temptations..hehehe!
you agree??
so thats why they end up find the wrong one..
or never finds there one true..love...
just for my own opinion..
thanks!
@vernapple (84)
• China
21 Oct 09
if you have enough space for both of them. but i think it also depends on your date. you have to make sure another one feels the same way to you. then decide.
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@vernapple (84)
• China
21 Oct 09
make some tests. we must face some problems in the real life, see what they will do. you just have to feel. for me, just one is enough. i am still looking.
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@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
I exprienced it once when i was in college. I loved two men but i know I had to choose only one. I go to the one that i know love me most so i leave the other one. It hurts but i have to accept it because loving two persons is like cheating them both and yourself. If they know that they were not just the only one in your heart they will be hurt. Same as you know that you were not the only one in your lover's heart, does it really feels bad? yes of course.
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@sunlight365 (24)
• China
21 Oct 09
Hi, acie. Is this your situation? I have not loved two girls at the same time, i have a girlfriend now and she is my first girlfriend and i love her very much. so i do not know how to answer your question.
But i can give you my suggestion. Time can prove everything. Now you do not know which guy you really love, as time goes by, you will know who you love most or who love you most. You can only choose one of them, you will find your true love.
Hope my suggestion works, and hope you get your happiness!
Happy mylotting ?????
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@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
i really appreciate your post sunlight..
but this is not my situation..just making up ...get this from movies..
thats why i post this discussion to see mylotters thoughts and ideas..
care to drop by again in my discussions!..
thanks!
cheers!
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@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
i don't think i can love 2 guys at a time. if i'm in a relationship with someone then i don't have eyes for others. all my time are dedicated with my partner only. i'm a one man woman. hmm..lol. i believed in karma that's why i don't want to try it myself. (",)
happy mylotting!
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
hi there tatiana...
yes your right..im afraid of karma too..
thats why why temptations are around i always
stay away avoid for the better..
and so that i wont carry the conscience ...
nothing will bother me...
stay happy!
keep sharing!
have fun!
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@okoyskabo (186)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
yes. before, i thought it was impossible. but now, i have personally experienced loving two different guys at the same time. it's like in the movie "the notebook" wherein the woman said, "when i'm with you i am a different person and also when i'm with him, i also feel like a different person".
but of course, i love the other one more than the other. :)
@sharlionse (739)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
It's difficult to choose and dictate the heart who to love. It's not a sin anyway, it's a blessing that two men came and made you feel loved, but the world dictates that you should only have one partner. As of now you don't really have to choose yet, but when the time comes that you want to settle to one, then you choose the one who loves you more.
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
hi there sharlionse...
what if you have chosen the man you love...
but in the end you realized that you love the other one???
but its hard take the risk if you are tied to the man you had chosen wrongly..
what you think about this??
keep sharing!
thanks!
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@phoenix1344 (698)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Well if someone loves two guys and both guys know and are okay with it, then I suppose there isn't anything wrong with it. But if she is dating one guy and then also dating another guy behind his back, then yes, that is very wrong.
Personally though, I cannot understand how anyone can love two people at once. I've been caught between feelings before, yes, but never to the point where I loved both and wanted both at the same time. For me it has to be one or the other.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Well if someone loves two guys and both guys know and are okay with it, then I suppose there isn't anything wrong with it.
oh absolutely it can;t be secret..I'm a very openminded person and even I'm not cool with that sort of thing at all...In my situation both my hubby and bf knew about each other, have talked on the phone and so on LOL...but no I would have never cheated/kept either a secret..
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
hi raven...
didnt quite understand your story....
hope you can reply in my other post..thanks!...
hi phoenix...
maybe your right..but very confusing!!!hehehe!
maybe thats what you called selfish love...
you agree???
just for my own opinion....
quite confuse here..lol!
@Gongfuboy (130)
• China
21 Oct 09
A funny saying goes Men always think who I love best while women always think who love me best. You know, the problem concerning about private emotion is really hard to discern clearly, I'm not able to help you a lot based on your simple description. Anyway, I suggest you give both of them a chance to show their affections to you and make your decision at once, or the rest one of them will be severely hurted after a long-term marathon of love, though it must be difficult to make a choice.
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@mielshare (265)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
I think you can love both but of course not of same degree. you may love the other one more than the other. I think it wouldn't be a sin if you are not commited to both, if yes..that is a problem I guess..
LOL!!!
@mielshare (265)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
I'd chose the one who loves me more, i love him anyways and maybe if I choose him and let go of the other one my love for him will grow eventually
@snurre (17)
• Sweden
21 Oct 09
Yes, one can love more than one person at the same time. It is called polyamorous. The Wikipedia page http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory has a lot of information and links to more.
Many of my friends are poly, there is nothing wrong with that.
@snurre (17)
• Sweden
22 Oct 09
It's illegal to marry more than one person, so they are not married or only married in pairs even if it actually is a triple (or more) relationship.
No, I am single. But I wouldn't have any problem with me and/or my partner having other partners besides each other, as long as we are honest about it.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
21 Oct 09
yes you can love two ppl at the same time and yes I have and do....My husband and my now ex bf (yes we were together while I was married)...Was it a matter of not being able to decide which one? no not at all...Is lovign both a sin? LOL no but I dont believe in that whole "sin" thing to begin with...
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
23 Oct 09
LOL oh my...so many questions!!
may i know the whole story??
well its a long one..basically I met the ex bf through his sister who moved in next door to me and thought he and I would hit it off..He wrote me a letter, I wrote back, we hit it off amazingly (he was in prison btw which is why we wrote to each other), kept writing and then talking on the phone etc...about a yr later I met my now husband....about a yr after that the bf and I fell in love but I also loved my now husband..when the ex got out on parole I went to see him to see if my feelings were true..they were, I got home from my trip, told my hubby..we talked abut it and decided that a closed open relationship would be the answer..
this is very interesting....
LOL yea I guess to some it is..
[i]so now your married...till now your with your ex??
does your husband knows about it??[/i]
my husband and I got married 7 yrs ago (the bf came into my life 12 yrs ago and the hubby 11 yrs ago) and yes he's known all along about my bf..they've spoken on the phone, the hubby would stay home with my kids when I would go see the bf and there were times when he actually drove the 8 hrs to pick me up after a visit..
you have kids already??
Yes I have two kids from a previous relationship and my husbnad and I had a son together but he passed away...IN FACT the night we buried our son my two older kids had gone to their dads for a week and my husband and I took off in the truck to get away, we ended up near the prison my bf was at, the hubby took me to go see him..that was the first time we met..
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
may i know the whole story??
this is very interesting....
so now your married...till now your with your ex??
does your husband knows about it??
how will you handle that..
thats so hard....you have kids already??
feel free to share!..
this is interesting...
waiting for your reply!..
thanks!
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
hello acie_21,
i don't think that is possible. for you need to choose between the two. ofcourse the best man and the one who you really love more will win. for you can never in-love with two guys at the same time. both of them will not agree for sure if they found out. or even you for that matter.
it's hard to decide if you both like them. but it's just easy if you give them a test. this way, you will find out who is really worthy of your love. have not tried or experience this in my entire life.
i think so, it is a sin in a sense that you are not true and faithful to only one person.
it's hard to decide if you both like them. but it's just easy if you give them a test. this way, you will find out who is really worthy of your love. have not tried or experience this in my entire life.
i think so, it is a sin in a sense that you are not true and faithful to only one person.@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
I think love is not enough in a relationship. 
It will involve a lot of sacrifice and respect. 
You will both have to work it out to make it work.
It will involve a lot of sacrifice and respect.
You will both have to work it out to make it work. 
@d_red_madelaine (528)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
You can love both but in one way or another you have to give-up one and choose the other. Luckily I haven't experienced it LOL. Its not a sin, you don't know who you will fell in-love with, it just happened. If I have to choose, of course I will pick the one I will the most.
@d_red_madelaine (528)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Thats... I will pick the one I love the most and can't live without.
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
heheheh!thanks friend..
how about when your married...
i saw this move..HIS JUST NOT INTO YOU...you saw that movie??
he was married already but found out he loves another woman...
if that situation happens to you what will you do???
stay in touch!..
thanks!
@haiershen (1080)
• China
22 Oct 09
i'm not sure keep in touch with two guy is a good idea.so i suggest that you should be know very well how is your real lover quickly, as if all of guy love very much with you,when you know which one is you real lover,one of them would be wound.good luck and have a nice day!
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
22 Oct 09
Well, if you are in that situation, you better be careful, because you can end up with nothing. If they found out you are actually cheating on them, that's they reason i will never do that. But if you did not give any promise to both guys, it's okay to wait and see or maybe a little tests.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
21 Oct 09
I can not love both as it will be unfair to any party of the guy if you just give them the wrong sense. I think loyalty to love is very important in my life. My heart is too small to hold both at the same time. It is quite ture that we have space to choose when both of the guy love you, but you should make the decision which one you prefer to date. Otherwise the only result is that one of the guy will be hurt due to your greedy to love.
If a man love me but love another woman at the same time, I can not accept it either. Love is the sole thing that we can not share with others. Let's say we are all selfish on this. If you think that you love both guy, it is not a sin, just because you did not make the determination at your heart. Just let your feeling tell you which guy you choose.
Happy mylotting.
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
lol..thanks sasalove...
so have you tried this???
when will you know if this person is the right for you???
i believed like i saw in the movies that every time you pick the person who you think is right for you..ends up loving the wrong one....
and too late to love the one you really love for he has another person he love most..lol!
relate????heheheh!
thanks friend!
keep posting!
