is there any regrets of losing your virginity to someone whos not deserving?
By amyson
@amyson (3498)
Philippines
October 22, 2009 12:39am CST
well,i have my best friend that share her experience that is unforgettable that sometimes he has nightmare of happening that situation that she make-up with the man whos not deserving that lost her virginity.she being haunted by what happen to her and afraid of falling inlove again.how can she recover from this traumatic event?
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9 responses
@sonuherenz (258)
• India
22 Oct 09
Hi Amyson..
I have been obseving you...you mostly come up with things saying my best friend has this n that ??? Does your friends really say those things to you or you come up with topics this way....Im sorry if im wrong, forget it.
Is it real or a dream....Im confused...
Take Care
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@sonuherenz (258)
• India
22 Oct 09
Ok so it did happened...
one more question : was he a good friend or lover of her, at that time ?
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@frenzybabe (92)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
From what I understand in the situation, it seems the girl had given her virginity because she loves the guy too much. And the guy just ditch her after she has given herself.
Let's face it. Guys are guys. Or should I probably say boys are boys. Little boys actually. Some men are really born immature even if they reach past their 60's.
What I can just say to your bestfriend is, she should never regret it. because looking at it, she loved. and that is what's important. you loved the person. maybe it was a bit hasty for her to give her virginity to that guy for just a month of relationship. yet the fact remains that your bestfriend indeed loved the guy as she is still hurting until now. i don't know if she is hurting because of the deceit or maybe she is hurting because of her stupidity of not realizing it was way too early. nevertheless she has to move on. One can never correct the past. what can only be done is change the present so the future would be better.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
well your right frenybabe,it has consent so i think it is just one lesson to learn that she will know the person very well and not giving herself again to feel the love.but we cannot blame her for that is just i will support her as her friend and she will forget the past and deal with the present slowly because it is difficult to forget it for an instant..thanks for responding.
@frenzybabe (92)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
that is correct.
If she keeps on dwelling in the past, she will never appreciate love anymore.
The hurt are there to make us realize how beautiful it is to love. She gave that man her body because her heart told her so. If she can't face the fact that that guy did not love her back, then let it be a learning. Learn to distinguish lust from love. Learn to differentiate a man wanting her body from a man who wants to mend and tender her heart.
That experience should be her eye-opener. A reality that will guide her to find true love. She should not say that that guy did not deserve her virginity because in the first place she had given it with consent. The guy may not deserve her love yet at that time they may have loved each other even if it's not that deep.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Hello friend,
Losing virginity to the wrong person?
I feel confused about this my friend,how can she gone to bed and had s*x and give herself too muc her virginity to someone she think is not deserving?
Was she raped ?..if that is the case..then,i guess she needs a psychiatrist.
If not...then,she has to moved on,what could have she done with the past can't never be put back again.So,she really need to move on with her life...life has so much to give and not just sadness,but also happiness if she knows how to deal with problems and trials.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
ok,so they were lovers then.
there is no reason for her to grief about it,she also like what had happened.
The guy did not raped her,so,it means,she willingly gave her body and virginity to that guy.
Why should she feels sad,it is her fault,becoz she trusted so easy and sleep with that guy.
i am not blaming her...how old is she then?
If she is still minor..i could say,she can sue the guy for "corruption of minor"
But if she's not a minor anymore,sad to say,she is in her clear mind when she sleeps with him.
What was done is done...all i can say,she should be careful next time.
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@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
shes not a minor,well that is her fault but we cannot blame her because of that it happen and she fool by her lover.and she regrets this so much and keep asking me why me?why not to others to happen.she so depress and all of that because she wants to give it to the right person not the wrong person.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
shes not been rape but she use by the person that she trusted after using her and he got what he wants he leaves my best friend.he just pretend that he loves my bestfriend but his not after what he got he leaves my best friend.so sad and i am trying to help her out about this traumatic experiences she had in the past.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
22 Oct 09
The men took the vigirnity but not willing to marriage should suffer oneday as they treated love as the game only. I look down upon that kind of men. Girls should be strong after she suffered that kind of misfortune and take it as a warning next time.
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@lyanne (60)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Of course there can be a lot of regret especially if the person we thought loved us really doesnt do loved us at all and just wanted one thing from us which is lust of the flesh.. I think one thing that we can learn from your friend's experience is to get to know the person more and not to trust at once and give everything we have. We should learn to pray for the person whom we would love to get loved back. take care my friend and godbless..
@mrnischalgurung (424)
• India
22 Oct 09
I dont regret. I guess past is something from where you learn and maybe what i did maybe wrong or rite. i leart something from it so there is nothing toi regret
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
At first, I regret much before but it happened and I can turned it back time for me to do what is right. I regret but I don't want to absorb too much on that because I can still be valuable and I move on. I just don't want to look back from the past because I have learned from it.
