How do you tell your spouse they really need to get a job?

United States
October 22, 2009 11:40am CST
I just married a year ago (10-18) On January 3rd my husband was laid off. All along while we were dating and living together everything was separate, he paid his bills, I paid mine. So now we are married and he has no job. I am having to carry all of us on my paycheck and the child support from my ex has stopped too (he's been laid of) So now I'm out $400 a month in child support, and I have to pay my husbands credit card bills and insurance. He was sick for a few months but is doing much better now and still is not looking for a new job. I don't want to argue with him, and I can't get a second job, but I need to tell him it's time to get off his butt and be productive. Any ideas on how?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
22 Oct 09
#1, U shouldn't have to tell him , he knows that but as long as u are paying his bills doesn't sound like he's too worried about it. It's really very simple, stop keeping him up & tell him to get up off his lazy a$$ & GET A JOB. oPEN YOUR EYES, GIRL.
@marguicha (136516)
• Chile
23 Oct 09
I second the motion, Jo!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
23 Oct 09
We know what to do, huh marg?
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
7 Oct 10
tHANKS FOR THE BEST RESPONSE. i HOPE THINGS ARE BETTER AROUND YOUR HOUSE.
@asliah (11140)
• Philippines
1 May 13
to tell to their spouse that they need to get a job of course in a was that they will not harm or hurt their partner,speak with words that is UN-offended,maybe in a right way and in a right time and place,calm and of course well explained.
@rmuxagirl (7554)
• United States
27 Jan 10
Sit him down show him monthly intake and monthly outtake. Simply tell him you cannot make it on just one income and he needs to get a job to help out whether it is part time for now at McD or something. Remind him he needs to do somehting to help pay the bills and maybe save for the future in case one of you loses their job again.
@lelin1123 (15635)
• Puerto Rico
27 Oct 09
I can't believe you would have to tell him. How about tell him that you have no money to pay his credit card bills this month. See if he then says, ok I will start looking for a job". Or just come out and say I don't want to be a nag but "I can't continue paying all these bills by myself, you really need to start looking for a job. Good luck to you in your decision of what to say to him and I hope he gets a job real soon. Take care!
@jugsjugs (13038)
22 Oct 09
I know that you do not want to argue,but he must know that he should be out there playing a bread winner as well as you.I do not think that you should get a second job either.If you tell him how you feel,it will cause you to argue but then at least he will know you have had enough of him being lazy and then he may go find a job.