Pride Vs. Love
By rhan04
@rhan04 (307)
Philippines
October 22, 2009 11:41am CST
Have you been in relationship where your rival is your partner's pride? I've been there and it's sad to say that I lost the battle.
I've always known how prideful he was but sometimes, it's just not right anymore. I had my own share of pride issues but his is just simply unbelievable. The last line was drawn on the last few months of our relationship. Although we had broken up, we still remain in contact with each other. But when he thought that I was already having a "thing" with someone else, he actually "hit it off" with another girl. He told me that he did that because he wanted to move on first before I even become happy with someone else. Which I think is unfair and unthinkable. I wasn't even having an affair with someone else because I still have hopes for our relationship. And now, we already have our separate lives.
What do you think? Was it really pride? Or he's just being selfish?
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4 responses
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
23 Oct 09
Yeah, you are very right, pride can kill a relation, and in a relation, pride is the strongest rival; nothing can be worst as pride is; i had a experience where i were in a battle with pride, and i am sorry to say that i were defeated.
I have my pride too, and is very strong, but i know that my love can be more stronger as my p
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@nagatron123456 (888)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Rhan, saving a relationship is not bad if you are saving THE RIGHT ONE. If you keep on saving it even if you know that there is no way to fix it, you're just fooling your self. Your effort of saving it is no use, the problem is still there because you don't understand each other anymore. So boost up your girl power man, the more you are showing vulnerability to it, the more it will continue to hurt you. I hope you realize what I am saying.
@rhan04 (307)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
We have the same experience so I know how it feels to get defeated because of some stupid pride, and that they are willing to hurt you just to save it. I have pride too but if chances are, I am willing to go down if it will save the relationship. I just hoped they could do the same thing.
@rhan04 (307)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
I'm going to have to agree with you on that one. I guess that's what happened in my previous relationship. I can't believe pride had affected our relationship like that though. I never really imagined it would be the cause of our separation. Anyway, at least we've learned from it
Thanks for your respond. Enjoy!
@nagatron123456 (888)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Rhan, saving a relationship is not bad if you are saving THE RIGHT ONE. If you keep on saving it even if you know that there is no way to fix it, you're just fooling your self. Your effort of saving it is no use, the problem is still there because you don't understand each other anymore. So boost up your girl power man, the more you are showing vulnerability to it, the more it will continue to hurt you. I hope you realize what I am saying.
@nagatron123456 (888)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
I have also experienced the same thing. I am a guy by the way who always met girls with high pride. But you know what, I am not afraid to let go a relationship that doesn't work no matter how long we've been together. I your case, I would say it is better you broke up with him. It is not good to keep a broken relationship, moving on is easy if you think things won't work out between the two of you. In your situation, it simply means you are not fit with each other.
@rhan04 (307)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
I understand what you are saying nagatron. That is the reason why I broke it off. I just realized that nothing seems to be going right anymore and our arguments had been a lot more often than usual. It hurts but it was getting tiring and more painful if I continue to stay. And now, I don't have any regrets with my decision. I have accepted the fact that we don't really fit together. It's just a matter of time before we realize it.
Thanks for your response!
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
when you love someone you forget your pride. your ex is really unfair. he just remained in contact with you just to see what you are doing. for me you just have to move on without having any contact with him. he is not just selfish but he is even torturing you. he is not even worth to be a friend. live your life without him since you both have separate lives already you can mind your own business and my his own as well. hope you heal
