Do you like to air your dirty laundry or do you prefer to keep it in the hamper?

Hello, Jesssp. I tend to get people spilling their life stories and there woes to me, simply because I'm a good listener and I don't pass on things which are obviously private. For myself, though, I definitely keep the laundry in the hamper! I have a trusted friend and a couple of family members I discuss really private things with, and I can talk to my husband about almost everything, so I feel I have enough backup when I need it. Even if I didn't, I don't think I could air my problems to all and sundry. As far as online revelations go, I may vent about something, or use my experiences to try and help someone who is troubled, but I'm quite careful what I say online. There's obviously a degree of anonymity, but if there's something I don't want to discuss with those closest to me, I don't feel it's appropriate to discuss it online either. That's just my take on things - I'm not saying that those who react otherwise are wrong, just that we all do what's best suited to our circumstances and personality.

I too am a very private person, my business is my business and I like it that way because being private like I am it keeps my life drama free. There is one person who I have been friends with for about fifteen years now and she is the only person that I will share any personal business with but I know that she won't tell anyone else and even at that there are still certain things that I don't tell her either. there are just some things that are meant to be kept to yourself. The thing I hate is when you go onto places like Myspace or Facebook and see that people are airing the dirties over these social networking sites for everyone to see. I mean I think it is funny and don't mind reading it but in the same I think it is the wrong place to put your business. And then these people wonder why the talk around town is all about them and why their lives are so full of drama.

It depends really on the type of laundry I have and the degree of dirtiness LOL. I admit that I love gossiping with colleagues and for that, one needs to share some part of their lives with each other. So the common topics like kids and food and school and the occasional tiff with hubby all goes under gossips but the more intimate ones are definitely no-no. as for online, yes, the anonymity it provides is wonderful but I somehow don’t feel like sharing my most private thoughts and incidents online…I don’t know why but I kind of feel that the privacy is gone once I speak out about them to somebody else, even if online.

I don't keep my lips sealed, nor do I wash my dirty linen in public. I choose the middle ground. I try to keep most things and issues to myself, as I don't like other people to worry about my problems. But sometimes if I am too stressed, I do find comfort in opening up to my loved ones. Venting can really help. Else, I might feel like I will explode at any point in time.. Not a good feeling at all..

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I think I am quite open, too much so sometimes, but I do tend to be a little more selective who I tell personal things to now. There are certain things which I have deliberately been very open about which are quite personal - for example, most people around me know that I had an eating disorder for 12 years. But this is for a reason. I run a recovery support group in my church and when we started it I spoke in my church about my own experience, because I wanted people who might come to know it would be a safe place where there were people who understood from experience. I also do a fair bit of issue based theatre and so a lot of myself often goes into that, and I suppose I express things more that way than directly talking. I have one very close friend who truly knows EVERYTHING about me!

I don't usually tell other people my problems, not even to my friends because I want to solve it without the help of other people. I'm a very secretive person. But sometimes I need to release the tension and what I'm feeling inside so I tell it to my boyfriend and closeist friends and write here on mylot. I'm a good listener than a talker so my friends usually come to me when they need someone to listen to them and it helps also the other way around.

I am more the in the hamper person. If I vent/air, it is generally only to my mom or hubby. But I do try and keep an open ear to friends. A person never knows when they may really need help.

I guess I do air my fair share of dirty laundry. But honestly I don't have a life I'm a SAHM mostly & it gets awfully lonely especially when your best conversations are all with lil folks under age 7. I'm starved for some friendship. I do say alot more online than I do IRL & you are right being anonoymous helps.... but eventually someone knows you pretty well in time even if they don't know you by your real IRL name. I love general topics to chat about. Sometimes I worry I'm turning into my mom she'd walk up to strangers in stores and chit chat with them once in a while. Now that I have kids I"m used to old ladies pestering me about my kids ect so no big deal. But to bug someone about a coupon they should of had today ect no...

hi jessp oh I come on mylot at times and cry on all your shoulders but I am pretty private. I only talk about my problems to my son and to my best friend. I do not tell my whole life history to the people I live with hereits nobody's business but mine.

I tell people things if I need help figuring things out. But I don't tell everything to everybody. Just certain people that I trust. I probably do talk too much about personal things here on the lot though.

LOL Here I was getting all excited to talk about my laundry habits! I talk, but I don't blab and I tend to listen more than talk about myself. I'm better at it - I don't really like venting to others about my private life (unless they're very close to me - or like you said, online - where you don't know them in person). I also think it should be noted that there should be a median in between "airing your dirty laundry" and "keeping it in the hamper". Keeping in the "hamper" (keeping it bottled up), obviously isn't a good thing..But "airing your dirty laundry" - talking TOO much and not keeping ANYTHING to imagination is not a good thing either. I think we need to know when to talk to others and when to figure things out on our own. That's just my opinion though, if it makes any sense!

I do not tell everything about my problems to people. I have always been a shy person and do not like to tell everything about myself to people I do not know in person or even online. No, I do not like to tell different people about all my problems.

i prefer to tell them rite away, i think keeping them with you will create problems later so i am a person that tell the mistake or anything that i feel about the other person on his face and not keep it for later references.

just depends, if i know the person well enough i'll talk. talking can help sort out problems, by chucking round ideas. i mainly talk to my boss and work mate about things, and we usually end up with a good laugh about it. then it's good online cause none of us can see each other and we can share experiences. just read my other posts on what i'll say about my partner. i know my aunt bottles it up and it doesn't do her much good.

I think there is a time & a place for everyting & certain people u talk to about most anything but just to air your dirty laundry to everyone is uncalled for. I don't think most people would be very interested in hearing all that to start with.

I only air it online no one knows the real me so I feel free.