Do you get along with your co-workers at your office?
By aileen2008
@aileen2008 (838)
Philippines
October 23, 2009 2:06am CST
They say that in order for you to reach the top of your career, you have to have good people skills. Honor student-great, with title-cool, relevant work experiences-awesome. But you know, even if your credentials may not accomodate five pages of short bond paper (because you need more pages) if you do not know how to get along with your colleagues or go with the flow as they say, you are bound to be the office clerk in any company for your entire life.
As managers we need our people, our staff. True, but we also need other people from other departments. Who else will support our idea if the only people we know are the people from our department? But people comes in different packages, such as in my work place.
In our office, there is the office gossiper - I am afraid to speak to her. Tell a secret to her and it will be broadcasted at once. There is the office story-telling a lie - He makes up stories in order for us to have pity on him. There is the Mr. Know It All guy - he thinks he knows your job like the back of his palm.
Different people, different attitude, different personalities and different treatment. If you are the one of lucky people on earth who has the longest patience and highest level of tolerance, well, congratulations, you are bound to be the CEO of your company when the time comes.
14 responses
@shajerrl (309)
• China
23 Oct 09
yep, for sure I believe good personal relationship with your co-workers is very important for your career life...of course I am surely harmonious with my colleagues except sb, but I think it doesn't matter to me, we don't need to care everybody just most of them. Sb like to be alone, so it's Ok but don't let him/her feel that he/she is lonely...thanks and good luck.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Who is SB, your boss? A little patience and understanding and he's good. Go with the flow...
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
24 Oct 09
ohh, really? Hmm, then ii will not able to be a ceo, because I don't have a good social skills. I am mood follower person, but I tend to ignore people if they are totally not in line with me. I can help even that person has back stabbed me, kill me, but to have any attachment with that person will be a big no no. I kind a person who high level of tolerance and patient and I will not retaliate, because I let the nature takes it course. You do good, and you get good, and vice versa too. happy mylotting
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
Nice one! What goes around, comes around. I like that saying.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
I can say I can easily get along well with my co-workers. I have no problem dealing with other people with different attitude and personalities. I can easily adjust, but it doesn't carry with it that I have to be nice to everyone. I believe more to convince my employer or bosses than to impress my co-workers. It is enough that I have to be myself.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Good for you, you get along with your co-workers. I like your attitude towards work.
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
23 Oct 09
In modern society, skill of communication has become one of the key qualifications for successful career. Rarely anything could be successful without teamwork, and good atmosphere makes working a pleasant mission. It is true one has to stick to the good values while maintain good relationship with co workers. Where the positive is not dominating, we have to keep silent, which is better than following the evil. But if possible, executing your influence, and try to show your leading skills to gear the team to the right direction.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Maintaining a positive disposition in life can help in coping up with stressful people. Sometimes as simple as keeping silent will do the trick. Thank you for your post.
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
LOL.
I think I have the patience and the tolerance for those kind of people. But I also have my limit.. I usually am the middle person in the office. Would join you in your days of fun, but would also be serious when work needs to be done. Sometimes too I am quite the introvert and anti-social, preferring to be on my own rather than join my teammates. And I think they respect me more for that.
My team mates, though we are only 10 in my team, are quite the personalities. They often clash, and actually now, there are 3 of them not on speaking terms. lol. But we, ( the other team members and I ) managed to stay friends with all 3 of them, without giving prejudice to the other. I just hate it though, that the root of their problem is incredibly shallow...
Sometimes the reason why I prefer to sit alone, is that I don't want to listen to them ranting about how the other person is this and that.. hehehe. It's just too much specially on a monday morning. 
I think I have the patience and the tolerance for those kind of people. But I also have my limit.. I usually am the middle person in the office. Would join you in your days of fun, but would also be serious when work needs to be done. Sometimes too I am quite the introvert and anti-social, preferring to be on my own rather than join my teammates. And I think they respect me more for that.
My team mates, though we are only 10 in my team, are quite the personalities. They often clash, and actually now, there are 3 of them not on speaking terms. lol. But we, ( the other team members and I ) managed to stay friends with all 3 of them, without giving prejudice to the other. I just hate it though, that the root of their problem is incredibly shallow...
Sometimes the reason why I prefer to sit alone, is that I don't want to listen to them ranting about how the other person is this and that.. hehehe. It's just too much specially on a monday morning. @aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
Ohhhh... I totally I agree with you. And we get to be in the same situation, like they keep on telling bad things about this person but when this person is in front of them, they are all smiles as if they don't get on each other's nerves.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
To some I could, and some could not. There are just people who are not really happy having you around so you could not get along with them. But I really wish to that have a good realtionship with them. I still do smile whenever I meat them. They are the ones who could not even give you a real smile.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Yes, smiling is the best to make awkward moments become pleasant. Smiling even if we are irritated can lighten even the darkest day. Thank you for your share of thoughts.
@kkanaka (886)
• Singapore
23 Oct 09
How true.... but luckily I get along with my colleagues pretty well... dont know about the outcome you have predicted..
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
LOL, just a little bit exaggerated about the CEO thing, but it is not impossible with employees who have high EQ and good people skills.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
23 Oct 09
This is a good question. I have good relationship with all my colleagues. I believe I am good at maintaining a good relationship with all my colleagues. Many of my colleagues have complaints and some of them hate each other. There are some people who won't talk each other. I also make sure that I keep a distance from most of my colleagues to defend myself from getting into troubles. There are a few colleagues who are my friends.
@asweetie (1187)
• India
23 Oct 09
hi aileen,
Well i have never done any job till now because i am still a student in college. But i know if i ever do a job then i would easily be on good terms with all my colluges and bosses as even now i dont have anyone who hates me or not on talking terms in my all classes. I am not very difficult girl to get along with and i never say bad things about anyone behind his back, nor i give my advise where it is not asked for and i like to share jokes.. so i am pretty confident i would get along with everyone when i would finally do a job.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Good luck asweetie on your working life... Good for you, you already possess the people skills, just polish your technical skills and you'll go places.
@chelley (129)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
I can say that i can get along with my officemates and bosses very well.. i want to please them and i dont want to disappoint them.. i admit that my college credentials are not that good but that doesnt matter especially at work.. At work you have to be more friendly and sociable so that the higher boss/managers will notice you and your work.. i thank Him for giving me this kind of personality to be friendly and not to be shy ;)
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Negative people at the workplace will only drag the whole crew down. It's a good thing those people were let go. I can, however, relate to your concern that "fun" will come first and "work" second. I've seen it happen before, where people start goofing around and the whole crew forgets that they are there to do a job. Focus on safety and production wanes, to the detriment of the company.
Mixing socially is fine. It's best to stay far away from it. You're not competing with co-workers for raises. You need to do you're job as well as you can, that's how you get a raise. I'm not saying you need to be a loner, you absolutely need to forge relationships with co-workers, but you should stay far away from cliques. If one person has a problem the entire group could then have a problem. You need to be an individual.
@dsnachiever (250)
• India
23 Oct 09
You should have people skill to reach to the top in the organization. When you start with lower level your success depends on technical skill that you have. But that doesn't mean you should not maintain good relation with others. People skill also matters but more emphasize is on technical skills at lower level. But as move up the ladder it is the people skill which decides your success not the technical skills. Because at higher lever your work is not to do the work at your own but to get it done by others. And for that you should good people skills.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
I agree with you, that is why top management people are the ones being depended on to go on marketing as they should possess people skills to encourage clients and investors. I have a long way to go because sometimes I really can't handle pressure in dealing with different personalities in our office.
@bluray (408)
• Singapore
23 Oct 09
Hi
When we work outside.we bound to meet lots of people.All are different in various ways..
Yess its not easy to cope with all of them and to adjust with each and every taste.
But the best thing is to avoid those people ,who you really dont like..
this will save you from lots of conflict..
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
That is a good advice bluray, but as much as I want to avoid them, I can't because I work with these people, hand on hand. I just had to deal with them and their personalities as they deal with mine.
@iamainda (10)
• China
23 Oct 09
until the last year, i used to believe i could handle the relationships with others well,won't have any problem,cause i belive my heart is kind,and i knew i cared about others.
but i was wrong.people in this huge world are so different,it contains the difference of thinking ways,life styles etc.because of the difference,it probably make the misunderstanding.i even haven't think about my workmate would hate me that much,and gossip about me behind the back of me when she smile and give the gift to me at the same time.i trust her so much...the moment i knew that,i was crying.this really hurt me,and i began to think sometimes mankind are so terrible,could not understand.at the end,i didn't let her know i knew her secret,and we stay under the pretend peace.i really think if we want to do better,we should have wonderful skills of people relationship.but there still be someone hate you in the world.for me,since that matter,it's too complecated to solve the people relationship.the way i should do is make my heart strong.
