spouses, commong sharing
By BART78
@BART78 (2927)
Canada
October 23, 2009 5:13pm CST
my wife and i usually share some informations, like, accounts and passwords, we don't mind each privacy, but we make sure that this informations are safe on each hand...we have deepest trust to each other, almost we don't hide any secret. so how about you guys do you have this commong sharing thing with your spouse or just keep it in your private vault?
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@gemparado (71)
• New Zealand
23 Oct 09
You're doing the right thing coz when you got married you vowed to become as one. I think that's the reason as well why you now have the same last name. Your relationship will still grow deeper just try hard not to break the trust that you two have. Me and my husband's like that as well.
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Oct 09
Hi Bart: Even with my last statement i just want to say that if this works to you, that's ok and you should be proud for sharing almost everything with your husband without any problem from any of you for doing this.
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
23 Oct 09
Sharing passwords with spouses means that you are fully trust them. But here is the thing. what happens if your spouse doesn't trust you. They have the freedom to check up behind your back.
This happened to me a few times with different situation.
One situation was checking up on what I had been saying on a chat program. I use to keep a history of conversation because my hubbie was working shift work. Any time I wanted to tell him something from the conversation, I could look it up. One day, I was out of the house and he was at home. My own desk didn't look right. I didn't want to accuse him, so the next time he was at home, I had set up my desk so that some one would have to move things around to operate my computer. My hubbie fell for the trap I set. He admitted he was at my computer checking up on what I was saying on the chat program. To me that showed he didn't trust me. My hubbie does have his own computer so the question would be, why did he have any reason to use mine. He had no need to use mine and as I said he was checking up on me because he didn't trust me. Since then the histroy has been removed.
There was another situation where he had a pin for my finanical account phone teller. He transfered money to his account without tell me. The most annoying bit was, I had money in my own account to pay for a bill. I couldn't do it. I was not happy about it.
So unless your spouse can trust you or have good communication, it is not good to share things like pass words or pin numbers.
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
Yes to almost all information.. We share bank accounts too.. I can browse to his files, emails, and cell phone carefreely and vice versa.. I can let him open my account in Friendster, Facebook and Multiply if I've never got a chance to go on net. I guess there is nothing more I can hide from him.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Oct 09
No as i think sometimes there are things that need to be kept private ie pass words.Like my facebook my husband put that i liked woman on it so i put that he wants a new man on his ever since we both got offers on there we do not give each others password.Other thing we are open with.
@lakerfanster (2577)
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23 Oct 09
If I was married I would have a joint account with my wife that we used for our joint purchases like Bills, holidays, concerts and trips and would also have my own account for everyday things. My best mate's mum and dad have a joint account and his mum is always taking money from it and her husband is the one that works.
I do think though that you should have your own email account with a secret password. For what other reason should your wife or husband know your email password other than being paranoid about whether you are having an affair.
