How Would You React
By ~Jodi~
@jeanena (2198)
Bucklin, Kansas
October 24, 2009 5:48pm CST
To finding out you had been left money by someone in your family that you seldom think of? And how do you think your friends would treat you if it was a sizable amount? Do you think they would still treat you the same way? Or would they be coming up with ways to get you to loan them money?
Okay the reason I am asking these questions are , I recently had one of those instances of (country song) you find out who your friends are. As some of you know this past few months haven't been really good at all for our family. And when you are down on your luck you kind of find out who will back you up and who wont .. who cares and who really doesn't. Who says they are a friend and who really shows it.
A little more back ground here , I have always been one of those people ya know who if they find out you are going with out and I have it , well I will share thats what friends are for. I had a friend who a few years back (still my friend by the way) that came and borrowed money for gas and cigarettes , but she always paid back the money when she got her check I never had to worry about that. Well this same friend received an Inheritance from her grandma , A pretty sizable one at that. What I haven't mentioned was this friend had lost her children to the state and was having my hubby work on her house so she could get her kids back. And owed him money for the work he had been doing. Our van broke down about a month after she got the inheritance , the part for our van would have cost less than 100 dollars , I asked her if i could borrow that or if she could pay him part of the 200 she owed him. Her answer was well I loaned so and so 5,000 dollars to start a business so there isnt anyway I can do that. Well she never did pay him that money and we were lucky enough that one of his other jobs he had done paid to where we could get the van fixed. Needless to say next time she asked to borrow money I told her i didn't have it. Sounds mean I know .
I would like to know what you think your friends would do if you can into some money? and you would you pay off your debts or just go spend crazy?
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4 responses
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
24 Oct 09
It is not nasty and I am glad that you did not lend her
She should not have asked you to lend her anyway, what has she done with the money
Personally I would pay my Debts and yes a Friend in need I would have given the money to, not lend, but given, if I would lend it this would mean my Friend would have to pay it back and I would not put a Friend in that position, if I had ebough money to keep me going
To me she is not a real Friend, it is one sided only, you lend she takes ok she pays back, but, she was not willing to help you in your need, what makes it worse, she owes this Money to your Husband anyway
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
25 Oct 09
I know you would have Gabs. I really should have when i went online on my laptop at the store should have came in and posted to let my friends know I was thinking about them and why i was gone offline for 3 months. But I was kind of Embarrassed by our situation,I don't know why I was , it couldn't have been helped. I just didn't want people to think what people always think when you tell them you are in a bad way(them thinking I was asking for help) . I seldom ask anyone for any thing like that.
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@CornishAustin (147)
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24 Oct 09
I would say that a friend is a friend and will treat you the same way no matter how much money you have or what material things you have in the house. A friend who wants to get something out of you all the time is no real friend, and yep I have had friends like that in the past but not too many thankfully.
If I had a huge lump sum of money I would definitely pay off all the debt and enjoy the rest of it, or save it. Otherwise if none of the debt was paid off then it would be regretted in the future as the chance to pay everything off earlier (and not incur higher interest) would have gone!
@CornishAustin (147)
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24 Oct 09
I think there's a fine balance between helping someone out, and them constantly trying to take advantage of a good nature. It's difficult sometimes to know how other people think but people can learn through observation of other people and through experience, though learning through observation is probably better!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Oct 09
hi jeanena If I came into a goodly sum I would pay back my best friend first then think about my son and getting into an apartment with him. As for my friends I hope that they would not come around asking for this and that. They are all better off than I am.It would be ludicrous for them to ask me for money.
As I have not had much real money in almost a year I would be very careful with any large sum I might get.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
25 Oct 09
I would be humbly grateful, though maybe a bit puzzled as to why I'd be the beneficiary. I'd pay off all my debts, invest wisely, help other loved ones in true need, give something to my favorite charities, and save the rest. Properly saved and invested, barring any more crashes of Wall St., a large amount of money could last someone my age the rest of my life and leave some to pass on to my kids and grandkids.
There are a few things I would purchase or people I'd hire to make my life less difficult.
Karen