Is life just one big cosmic joke? (when people leave)

@mommyboo (13174)
United States
October 25, 2009 12:07am CST
What do you think? Tonight a friend of mine had his 'going away' party, as he is leaving for the navy on Monday. We all know that everybody doesn't hit it off with everybody else. I can think of some people specifically that I have NOT hit it off with in my life, both past and present. Then I think fondly of some of my closest friends. My friend who is leaving is somewhat in the middle, I've known him about 2 years now. He has been my go-to person for a few things, and helped me in immeasurable ways. No kidding I'm going to miss him. His parents live out here and assured me they are not leaving any time soon. This means (I think) that when he goes on leave around Christmas, he will be back for a little while. I am kind of sad tonight thinking about how some people pass through our lives. That whole thing about a season for everything comes to mind. The problem for me is that I don't operate that way. Like I said before, I don't hit it off with everybody. I do try to give everybody a chance. If I do hit it off with somebody though, I want them to be a permanent part of my life. Even if that means we keep in touch every now and then on fb or call or email every week, that's fine, as long as it's consistent. Some people just come over and prop their feet up and ask me to feed them, and sometimes that's okay too. Others call me when they lock their keys in the car because they know I have AAA and I hate to hear that my friend sat at a gas station blocking a pump for 3 hours in 40 degree weather lol. No matter how you slice it, if you've crossed paths with me AND I consider you a friend (someone I've invested in for some reason or another), that means I want you to stay in my life, meaning you don't just disappear into another state, another country, another dimension, and I better not hear that you got abducted by an alien. I'd get that sucker's license plate and have it run by CHP. What do you believe the actual point is of making good friendships when people are always LEAVING? Maybe those of you who moved a lot when you were young have some input. Maybe those of you (like me) who only moved a lot BEFORE they put down roots want t weigh in. I can only think of a very very few people I have grown apart from whom I considered very close, and one of them I just have nothing in common with her any more. I guess I am also worried about things politically and the direction the government has gone in lately. The military is not the safest place when you are considering how to plan your retirement - because what if that never happens? I'm just venting and tired. Cheer me up please.
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Opal26
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
25 Oct 09
Hey mommyboo! Sorry to hear about your friend leaving! But, as we get older it happens more and more often. People come and go in our lives and there just isn't much we can do about it. But, you can still stay in touch and that doesn't mean your friend will be gone forever and you can't see him again! People pop back and forth into our lives and we meet new people also all the time. As we get older we just get used to this because we have no other choice! Friends have to move away for once reason or other and things happen that can't be helped. My best friend married someone who was in the Air Force and they moved to London for a few years and then to Ohio and then back to New Jersey! We managaged to keep in touch throughout the years! Now she is divorced and we had a "falling out" for two years which I didn't speak to her and now she is back in my life again! She has been my best friend since we were 10 years old! Now that is a damn long time considering our ages! So you just never know what life will throw your way and you just can't dwell on the inevitable! People come and people go and you just have to try and hang on to what you can and make the most of it!
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Patsie Hatley
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Oct 09
hi mommyboo I think its always sad when a friend goes off into 'the service. I am like you once I like someone I want them to'always be in my life. I am a diabetic and so is my best friend Nelda.We formed a close knit support group of Donna and her mom and Shiv and his wife, and we saw one another all the time. okayl my son and I had some bad financial trouble , were evicted and my son had an internet friend who swore and bedamned she would put us up in an apartment for three months to allow my son to find a new job and get money ahead., but at the very last moment she reneged and we could not get into the apartment. so we were homeless. but before she reneged and we thought we were movin to northern ca. my support group had a reunion withme, and we were all buddy buddy. Now for the last 11 months myson has had me put here for safety in this retirement center and he was placed in a gov.sponsored apartment with three other men all out of wo rk so they had an address. now my support group friends know i am here at gold crest yet i have not seen one of them in all 11 months,.what gives? I was their friend when they thought I was leaving but now because I did not leave, I am no longer their friend? I do not understand. So maybe life is one big cosmic joke.
derek_a
@derek_a (10874)
•
25 Oct 09
Looking at your title there, yes I would say that life is a sort of cosmic joke, except that most times, I don't get to see the funny side of it. People come, people go and that it the way it has always been in my life. Back in the late 1970s I came across Zen and that changed my whole perspective. I quit trying to make things happen if it was obvious that they weren't meant to happen. The fear of the "unknown" started to become a lot less because through zazen (Zen meditation) I was training my mind to be focused on the here and now. I am very aware that everything I have here, including my body, belongs to the planet and will go back into the planet. Yet I get glimpses now and again that I exist whether or not I have a body and mind. That helps me to see the cosmic joke and laugh at all my pointless struggle to change things from the way they are to the way they are not.. - Derek
prakashdhole24
@prakashdhole24 (6)
• India
25 Oct 09
hi there, I hated when people close to me leave. It is real though to say good bye to some one you love and adore. I have always moved from one place to another with my family. And every time i have lost my good friends and buddies with their wonderful memories leaving behind. However i now realize that I have the most number of friends. Many of them whom i need to talk and share my feeling. I have not met with some of my friends for years and still receive a mail or a phone call. Now i feel lucky to meet so many superb and intelligent people. i love to have so many close friends to cheer and celebrate.
wl519615150
@wl519615150 (44)
• China
25 Oct 09
People,shut our eyes,opened his eyes,a day off, People,shut our eyes,not eyes open,his life gone, To leave people,all the best.