sometimes my wife buys something i dont understand why

Philippines
October 26, 2009 12:31am CST
she once bought reading glasses that cost around 4 - 5 dollars. and now she has 5 reading glasses and i dont understand why she has to have five of that. she has a lot of shoes also and sneakers and rubber shoes but we dont go out very much. we have a three year old son so when we go out she wears more of sneakers. ok i will pass the shoes (she has a lot of flip flops as well)for i know she loves foot wear, but the reading glasses? im confused. i knowwhen we go out she will buy again. do you have anything that your partner/bf/gf/wife/husband buys that you dont understand why?
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18 responses
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
26 Oct 09
I think perhaps your wife is stressed? Or is she trying to seek your attention? If I'm wrong, then perhaps she has a tiny addiction to shopping. Have you talked it out with her; perhaps she doesn't realize it..
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
27 Oct 09
Oh yeah.... I've never thought about that..
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
there it goes zed, i guess patofgold said it loud and clear. i can not agree that my wife does it because of stress and not for seeking attention. for i can say that me and my wife is a good relationship. i guess she wants to have it in different colors and style as i can say. i read also all the response here and i guess a few women wanted to have a certain things with different colors. since it is just cheap then now i am not much confused though a pair or two is enough already. har har har thanks a lot for the response
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
zed! stressed or not... women love to buy stuff! lolz....
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@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
my husband sounds like your wife . he buys polo shirts then the moment he gets enough money to buy clothes he buys again forgetting or choosing not to use the old ones. sometimes he says it's the color he doesn't have. sometimes he says the shirt is deformed already. i say why doesn't he buy shirts in colors that would work out for him and stick to brands we know has quality ?
• Philippines
31 Oct 09
your husband sounds like a woman.har har har. i knew woman who buys things and complains about it. lucky my wife is buying eye wear that are cheap, andshe does not complain if it has a low quality. maybe she likes to have a variety or something that can match her clothes. it i funny when people buy something that they dont use. i buy somethings that i dont use too but save it to rainy days. thanks a lot for the response
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
27 Oct 09
Well, I have about 4 pair of reading glasses and I'll tell you why. I have a pair that I leave at my work. I really struggle with small print without them and I have forgotten them at home before....makes for a pretty rough nite when I don't have them. I have a spare pair that I leave by my computer ...just in case the ones I normally wear get broken, left somewhere, lost etc. Then I have a 4th pair that I just kind of liked. They are different from what I normally would wear but once in a while I wear them just for a change. Not sure if that is your wife's reasons but it could be. You should ask her.
• Philippines
31 Oct 09
yes my wife leaves one of her reading glasses beside the pc, on the pc table and one she use when she is doing her cross stitch. but a couple of pairs will do. i ask her already but she said i please buy me more har har har.since it is not expensive then its okay. thanks a lot for the response
@lampar (7584)
• United States
27 Oct 09
Pal! Since your wife is a woman, and it is quite common you don't understand her side of reason of the need to have 5 reading glasses; after all , you are a man. Having said that, i am confused with her behavior too and also many others women buying habit in our society, think of it from the bright side, it is mainly because both sexes are wired differently inside their brain circuits that gave rise to this illogical/incapable understanding of a man over the action of a woman.
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
har har har. i guess that is what makes life more intriguing. when you hear women speaks with her girl friends you can hear them sy that guys are wierd, and when you hear men speaks with their friends you can hear them say that women are wierd. but just like you said there are both wired differently inside the brain. that is a cool scientific way to explain that but a good way to understand situations like this.
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
27 Oct 09
It is quite normal for your wife to buy many reading glasses if she has a passion for it. I have two reading glasses and I am planning to buy the third one because I am fond of specs and I don't have any eye problem to wear a power glass. I also buy lots of foot wears, purses, and handbags. I have two purses and a handbag just sitting at my home which I have never used. I think it is fine for her to buy that if she earns. I mean unless she makes you spend for it. Most of the women are fond of purses, handbags, and footwears.
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
she does not work. since she gave birth she decided to be a stay a home and hands on mom. buying her things is not a problem to me, for she is not like other women who wanted branded and expensive things to buy. since it is just cheap then it is okay. my wife does not go for expensive things even during the time when she was earning. thanks a lot for the response
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
27 Oct 09
I like to buy stuff too...lol..Some women have an obsession with certain things. My daughter loves shoes..I like purses..and my little one has yet to develop anything yet although I do see a shoe thing starting with her..lol. There are just certain things that we want a variety of I guess.
• Philippines
31 Oct 09
yes there are things that women like with variety that sometimes even they dont use it as long as they have it. har har har. lucky my wife is not the type that would love branded ones. there are women who loves branded things right? but there are guys who loves branded things as well. thanks a lot for the response
• United States
26 Oct 09
A lot of people have compoltions on things. My husband is into flashlights. He is always needing one more. Oh well, we just have to love them as they are, as we are not perfect either.
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
i need to have another flashlight as well. but with reason and valid one. last month we are badly hit by a storm and water raise in a very high level. no electricity during the storm. the only flash light a have at hand was a small one, so i need to buy a bigger one. dont worry i love my wife together with her imperfections just a little confused on why she has to buy more than two pairs. thanks a lot for the response
• United States
26 Oct 09
honestly coming from a woman, i dont think you will ever be able to understand why we do some of the things we do. Just like my husband, i am always buying purses and i havent even begun to wear half of them. he asked me why do i buy purses and i simply replied the same reason you buy jordans that you barely wear. Just to have them when it is time to wear them. And sometimes i will admit that i will only want something just because another female has it. lol
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
lucky i dont buy jordans or any gadgets. i can say that i like looking so i know whats hot and whats new but i dont buy things that i know i wont be using. maybe i really wont understand why does woman do that, but ican say that some men do that as well. since my wife is just buying cheap ones then i am not worried. thanks a lot for the response
@msedge (4011)
• United States
26 Oct 09
Oh, just like me.Woman,woman,woman!!!lol!Most of us love shopping and if we can see something we like we would really love to have it.We have this hobby on collecting something that we love.I do collect watches.I don't know but whenever i see watches i really tempted to buy the one i like.I dont really go for the expensive ones but for the affordable.My daughter loves shoes also.She got more than 10 maybe.Its not that how she wears them but she just love looking at them.Although shes been using them too for school.SO i could completely understand your wife.
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
if there is something that my ife buys that does not use that would be the foot wear. but its okay for again my wife does not spend too much on those things. she only buy things that are marked down and on sale. so i guess as long as she is not going over the budget for i am the only one who is working right now then its okay. thanks a lot for the response
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
well maybe because she likes to collect those different design and color of glasses so i think it is her hobbies to collect what she likes.but she is becoming impulsive buyer in due time instead of saving money or but that really priorities the needs of the families.so i think it is not also right.but if you are wealthy i think it just fine as long she has the money to buy what she wants.
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
i think you got it all right. what is the use of buying a few pairs of eye glasses if she only can wear it one at a time har har har. so i guess your reason is correct. she wants all colors to match maybe the clothes she will be wearing specially when we go out. cool. thanks a lot for the response
@winiepu (42)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I think it is just the hobby of your wife to collect different reading glasses. In fact people always have some special interest that other people may find hard understand just like your wife. Since the reading glasses do not cost too much, you do not have to care about it too much. If you really want to know why your wife wants to do this, just talk with her and ask for real reasons. Communications can help understanding between people a lot.
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
welcome to the wonderful world of mylot. yes it is just cheap so i dont really care so much but i am just confused. there is a responder who said that maybe my wife wanted different colors and style then i guess that is precisely the point of buying a lot of glasses. dont worry winie me and my wife has a good communication relationship we talk about anything and everything. thanks a lot for the response
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
Yeah, some woman are hard to understand. My wife use to buy fancy earings which she doesn't used at all. She has lots of them in her jewelry box but never use it even once. I tried to ask her whats the use of buying something but never use. Never had a convincing answer.
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
har har har that funny if we ask and never had a convincing answer while a few of mylot members response said that we need to communicate with our wives. me and my wife has a good communicating relationship so sometimes even we ask we wont get any answer that will make our confusion go away. thanks a lot for the response
• United States
26 Oct 09
I am a lady, and maybe she has extra just incase one breaks or a child gets a hold of one see women like to have alot of something because if something happens they always have extra and about the shoes I have alot of sandels I like sandels and there is alot of cute sandels out there. lol! Also maybe she likes to have them in different colors a different color for everyday. lol!
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
welcome to the wonderful world of mylot step. that is a convincing response you have there. yes we have a three year old child that can possible hod on that reading glasses of her and break it and a back up is a good idea. and your input about having it indifferent colors is a good one as well. so she can wear it mtch with her clothes. thanks a lot for the response
@Rondita (92)
• United States
26 Oct 09
i think women just like to buy things because i am a woman and every woman loves to shop i dont know why but a woman thing
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
welcome to the wonderful world of mylot. there are guys also that loves to shop... gadgets and shoes. lucky i am not one of those. i just like looking on whats in and whats hot. thanks a lot for the response and hope to see you more at mylot. good luck
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
7 Nov 09
Hi se7, MY hubby loves to buy pieces for the computer and for tv, he has a lot in the house and I know some will still work but he loves to replace it whenever he likes too....
@buping (952)
• China
26 Oct 09
hi, it is an interesting discussion. most men would be puzzled about their partner's shoping and buying. my boyfriend sometimes be angry about what i have bought, such as i would buy a jacket that silimar to what i have bought yesterday. women tend to like shopping. when i am shopping, i am very happy, if i buy something i like it very much, i would excited.
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
yes i guess a lot of men get puzzled why women buys things just like you did. buying jackets that looks alike. but if the reason is being happy, since my wife buys cheap things then i dont need t get puzzled after all har har har. thanks a lot for the response
@lilyliu (31)
• China
26 Oct 09
Hi,se7enthbird: i'm a lady and i can totally understand your wife.As everyone's known,woman loves shopping.it's very differnent to man.Man will only go shopping when they have to buy something for their daily life,while shopping is the nature of the woman. woman will buy the stuff for many reasons:it's so pretty;it's so lovely;it's so cheap and so on.but there may be no reason for necessary--the most important one. they will enjoy the happiness of shopping.once they own this stuff,they will not like it that much.that's sort of wasting money,but just can't help doing that. try to advise your wife when she wants to buy something unnecessary.woman is not that wise when they go shopping.:)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
do i have the guts to stop her... no. har har har. she does not buy expensive unnecessary things so i guess i will not stop her. i am just confused. actually my wife is a wise spender and she budgets our money very wisely, so buying cheap things for herself.... i wont stop that just confused. and since you said it is normal for women then i have to live with it. thanks a lot for the response
@bluray (408)
• Singapore
26 Oct 09
Hi friend I am a woman too and I feel all ladies like to shop.If they have dozens of clothes ,they will not hesitate to buy one more ,if they find the best bargain. But I like to add too sometimes these addiction can make hole in the pocket.If you think your budget is getting unbalanced,you can talk to her and make a solution for it!
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
i agree that women tend to buy more if they it on sale, bargains or marked down prices. happy to say that my wife does not make this to the extent that it would hurt our budget. she always buys what we need first, like food and make sure that bills are paid on time. since it is just cheap then i am not bothered just confused har har har. thanks a lot for the response