What would you do if you know your friend's weakness???

Indonesia
October 26, 2009 10:33pm CST
I have a friend, her voice is not really good. But, she insists to join a sing competition. So, she tries hard practising. Deep inside my heart I know that she doesn't have any talent to be a singer. The problem is she always asks me to make a comment everytime we meet about her performance in front of me. Actually, I want to tell her about it but I don't dare.. I am afraid to hurt her. What should I do?
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5 responses
• United States
27 Oct 09
I think true friends are in our lives to be honest and sincere. Obviously you know your friend would be hurt if you said she could not sing and did not have a chance to be a singer. But, that does not mean you can't tell your friend the truth. I always respect my friends more when they are honest with me. I do not always think they are right and sometimes really don't listen to what they say at all but I want people in my life who have opinions and do not walk around like meat puppets.
• United States
27 Oct 09
Also, it may just be a matter of opinion. She may have a terrific voice but you do not recognize it. Be careful when you pass judgment and make sure you have a clause in your truth recognizing that you may not have a liking for it but that does not mean others will feel the same.
• Indonesia
28 Oct 09
You are right. I just need guts to tell her and take times to tell the truth..
• United States
28 Oct 09
Sometimes the truth hurts, but usually in the end it all works out for the best.
• India
8 Nov 09
if i know any weakness of my friend then i doen't do anything because a friend never create any problem
• Indonesia
10 Nov 09
right.. but do you feel guilty because you know something that your friend doesn't know?
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
27 Oct 09
She is asking you for your opinion, so give it to her. She may be hurt, but it's better than embarrasing herself in front of a group of people. You are her friend and I'm sure she values your opinion. You can teel her in a nice way that you don't think she has talent, yet other people might. In the long run she'll probably thank you. If there isn't any harm in her singing, or no-one else will hear, just let it go. If she is trying to join a competition she probably won't make it anyway and if she doesn't understand why maybe you should tell her in a nice way.
• Indonesia
28 Oct 09
oke, I am going to tell her the thruth .. I just need to find a way how to tell her in a nice way...that will not hurt her...Thanks..The most important thing is I care about her..
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
27 Oct 09
In my opinion, you should tell her the truth. As you have said above, your friend don't have any talents to be a singer. So, although she spares no efforts to practise singging, she won't gain nothing at last. It is next to impossible for one who have no talents to gain success. If she asks you to make a comment next time, you can take the opportunity to tell her the truth. Otherwise, she will spend more time on that, which is really a waste of time. It is necessary to worry about hurtting her. For the long run, you have done her a great favor.
• Indonesia
28 Oct 09
I know telling the truth is a wise thing to do ..it is for her future but the impact for her.. I don't really like.. I need time to think what to do ..
• China
27 Oct 09
if she feels happy during the process then you should support her . the most important point is happy not the acheivement she get . if she loves music so much , you could suggest her to learning some instruments ~ good luck to you ! friend~
• Indonesia
28 Oct 09
nice tips..I will consider your advise...thanks