are you ready for marriage?

@buping (952)
China
October 27, 2009 5:25am CST
hi there, one of my friend invited me to her wedding party, it shocked me. she said half year ago that she would not get married in next 2 years, she had to enjoy her single life happily, and she was not ready for marriage, by the way, she had no boyfriend at that moment. how could she change her idea in such a short time? and how did she get ready for marriage in half year?
9 responses
• Malaysia
29 Oct 09
Hi, buping! That is what love can do. Love can change one's point of views in a relationship or marriage any time. Maybe at the time she said that she would not get married in the next two years because you said that yourself. She was single and she's happy for what she has at that time. However, when someone knocks on her door, the feelings might develop naturally and she could feel that the man she's going to tie the knot with is the man who she wants to spend her life with. So, she can plan yes, but she can't control her feelings and unless she is not force to get married, that is really good news. Congrats to her!
@buping (952)
• China
30 Oct 09
hi corrycrystal, i am also happy for her as she is happy with her mr.right. :) happy mylotting
• Malaysia
31 Oct 09
Thank you so much for the BR, buping! I truly appreciate it. I wish your friend would have a great wedding and a long lasting marriage, and I hope you will be having fun as well.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
6 Nov 09
Well my daughter is doing pretty much the same thing. She met her fiance about a year ago and she even said she didn't want to settle down. But now in less then 6 months she's going to be married to who she calls the love of her life. I don't approve of it right now myself but this is what makes her happy. I think she will prove me wrong. To see them together they're so happy. Don't judge love by the time. It could just hit...at any time.
@buping (952)
• China
9 Nov 09
hi sizzle, congratulations to your daughter! you said that they are happy being together, and the man who made your daughter made a decision to settle down, it easily prove that your daughter loves him, love could just hit. what you can do i think is to prepare for her wedding, and teach her so much how to be a good wife or mother in the near future.:)
@kezabelle (2974)
31 Oct 09
Maybe she loves him? Maybe she grew up a lot or had something that changed her mind on her single life to be honest i think a lot of us eventually come to the point where we realised a single life is just not for us and I think finding someone you love can make you change your mind really quickly.
@buping (952)
• China
9 Nov 09
hi kezabelle, most of us would eventually evolved in marriage, and marriage is necesary to me, i can not understand some women that successful in their carrer, but they do not have a successful family, i can not suit this kind of life. i would do my job successfully, on the same time, i need a happy family to surpport me.:)
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Getting married can never be predicted. Your friend stands two years ago must be based on her status that time (NO Boyfriend) but as the days goes by, she didn't realize that cupid will eye her heart of his arrow. It is really true that if you find your man, everything will be put on place like being prepare to say yes when he propose.
@buping (952)
• China
29 Oct 09
hi larish, i think it is very excited to every girl when her mr.right propose to her.:)happy mylotting.
@jugsjugs (12967)
27 Oct 09
I think alot of people feel like they are going to be left on the shelf and never get married,perhaps that is why your friend is getting married.I think alot of people that get married like you say in 6months tend to think it is a good idea at the time,but lets face it perhaps it seems a good idea now,but then in say a years time she will regret it.Alot of people get married as their friends or relations are getting married only to find out that things do not work out.
@buping (952)
• China
29 Oct 09
hi jugs, i think i know about your life a little bit as you told in another discussion.:) a mom with 6 kids, so i think you have married not short, you have more life experience, so your words seem to be more right towards life. we youngs do not consider much about the meaning of marriage, some as you said, only to find out that things do not work out.
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
well,I guess when you just find the right one, then you'll be ready no matter what. LOL. I think I am really ready to get married.. though I still need to save more money to be able to pay for it. hahaha.
@buping (952)
• China
29 Oct 09
hi friend, try to save more money for a romantic and dreamful wedding.:) happy mylotting
@akotalagato (1334)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
you dont really choose the time you are ready. it just comes to a woman's life that she thinks she has met her other half that she suddently thinks she is ready and would like to settle down. it is the heart that talks. in my case, i did not think i would get married but it just suddenly dawned on me that i would like to get married and i envisioned spending the rest of my life with this special man. looking back on my life, i am now wondering if i had made a mistake or rather if my heart had made a mistake.
@buping (952)
• China
29 Oct 09
hi there, marriage is so important to human, especially to girls. girls always dream a romantic wedding with her mr.right. after the wedding, they live happily forever till life apart them. but this only exists in dream. we need to consider so many factors in reality. so we have to think wheather this guy is apporiate to me as my life partner.
@SACHIN2708 (1634)
• India
17 Nov 09
See I am ready for marriage but I should see myself that am I able to get all responsbility on my shoulder ,because marriage is not only fun it is very big responsbility and your friend was trying to acheive something thatwhy she set time limit but suddenly she acheived what she wanted so she became ready for wedding after all this is life and it changes in every moment............
• China
27 Oct 09
Sometimes some people like to live seperately but some do not.The real reason for some people why they don't want to get marry is they didn't meet their right persons. It also took us only half a year my boyfreind became my husband. Maybe now I tell some freinds who I don't contact for long time will be surprised too. In fact,if you met your right person, to get married will be soon.
@buping (952)
• China
29 Oct 09
hi wuxiang, good luck to you find your mr.right. as you love each other, you think that he is my mr.right and i feel so happy to be with him. true love can conquer everything, i can see your happiness and satisfied with your present life from your words. and i know you love him very much, so does he.:) anyway true love is the most important, maybe time is not that important.