Have you ever done something you are suffering for now?
By dloveli
@dloveli (4366)
United States
October 27, 2009 6:52am CST
When I was younger my parents always told me be careful what choices you make because they'll come back to hurt you. I hung around with the wrong people who got me involved and arrested. I now have a record and its hard to find a job. I am a licensed medical assistant, EKG tech, phlebotomist and I cant get a job because of my CORI. It was almost 8 years ago but Im afraid I will never get past it. When someone tells you to make wise decisions. Trust them and do it. No hiring manager wants to hear or believe that I was there but I didnt do it. NO matter how true it is. How about you? Did you ever do something you regret now? Has something come back to haunt you?dl
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
31 Oct 09
Gee, that's bad luck dloveli. Have you not got any referees who have known you for ages who can give you a good reference that over-rides your arrest? Were you convicted?
I don't know if I ever actually made mistakes or f*cked up my life like I've always thought. Maybe where I am now is where I was always meant to be. Maybe everything that has happened was bringing me to this point, where I may not be satisfied but I am happy and contented.
How are things going with your hubby?
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
31 Oct 09
Hey, I have done stuff in my life I definitely could have been arrested for but I never got caught...and I'll bet there are many more self righteous people here who are in the same boat. Maybe they think they are better than you but the fact is they are just luckier...you got caught...they did not.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
31 Oct 09
Hey Ms.Thang! How have you been? I havent heard anything from you in a minute. Everything okay? Anyway the answer to your questions are: I was at a point in my life where I didnt give a f*ck. I allowed things that I am not proud of. Unfortunately when the smoke cleared and I realized what I had done it was too late. I had a record. Nothing serious. I would share but Its the internet and all. Maybe we can swap numbers sometime and really chat. I am a licensed medical assistant, ekg tech, phlebotomist, etc. I am actually grandfathered in so I am actually a an LPN. I also have an associates degree in OFFICE ADMINISTRATION, and minor in customer service. I can do nothing if they choose to do a background check. You know what gets me girl. Is that I start a discussion and share my issues and not one that I have read has admitted to having ever been arrested or making a mistake that they regret. If there was that much perfection in the world, we wouldnt have half the problems we have now. At least you admit you arent sure where you're at. COME ON people. I guess that's another one of my issues, I tell to much about my self. Oh well I have no shame in my game. If I did it, I must own it. Send me a PM with your email address maybe we can chat. Is that okay?dl
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Oct 09
hi lakota thats what I told her, myhusband got into trouble as a teen and although he was not armed he was with thee other who held up a service station so he was sentenced to 2years and got out in 8 months on good behavoir. when he met me he asked to have the record sealed and since it had been years, they did do that for him, and even gave him a pardon. so she should ask about this as after so many years it can be sealed. that way she will have nothing hanging over her head.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Sad to know the story. Haven't had a story like yours, but I know when I grow old I will be suffering bad from illness. Oh God, I know my illness, it is about my bones. At presents, I ignore taking care of my bones.I do not exercise , I do not drink milk as always and I have a very bad posture. But good thing I can still change and be discipline. Thanks for sharing your story. I agree when someone is advising us we should listen to them, much more if they have been there, because they had already experience it and sometimes the experience is too painful. I hope young ones can read your discussion to warn them , because they are so aggressive and the only matters to them is to follow what they want and not they want.
@derek_a (10874)
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27 Oct 09
I think that maybe we all have made choices during our lives that we later regretted, but through my life I have learned that this is such a waste of time. I tend to look at such a situation and ask myself what I can do now. The past is gone and will never return, but the future is constantly coming into our lives, and be quickly gone, so to ask myself, "what now?" in the present moment, can help me move on with the skills I have.
I was once in a relationship that I broke off and a few months afterwards I really regretted it, but it was too late. It was done. Many years later, I saw the person again and it stirred up a lot of stress - that was a bad decision coming back to haunt me. However, because we met again, we could get closure on our situation and both go our separate ways and remain friends. 
- Derek
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@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Hi Dloveli! im sorry to hear your story, I know it is so hard for you. I also have a regret in my life where sometimes I didnt fall asleep thinking about the mistake ive done. I really felt guilty about it and I am always afraid because I know that time will come somebody will know what i had done.
@beadguru (40)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Well, I've had a few. But the greatest "mistake", if that's what you'd call it, I ever did in my life is that I gave up a high promising career for love. Its not that I'm not working now, I already have my own business to run with my kids on the side, but I guess what I miss is the corporate life I have been dreaming of having ever since I was little.
However,looking at the brighter side, I have a husband who loves me more than anything else and a wonderful family. So if you'd ask me if I'd have a chance to change my decision few yrs. ago, I would still chose the same path, because having two wonderful children worth more than what I have given up.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I guess that would be now...like I said from your previous discussion, that I'm pregnant. Though I'm 24, and I have a job...me and my boyfriend doesn't have any savings. So..my parents are kinda worried and sad about it. Specially my dad, he still hasn't accepted it. So, it really hurts me to see them this way. 
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Truly the past haunts you regardless how you hide from it. It's sad that one mistake lead you to having troubles finding a job. But then hopefully something would come up soon.
As for me, I regret being too quiet and too focused on my studies when I was younger. I could have just taken it cooler and should have enjoyed my childhood more. I was surely acting older than my age and was thinking I'm one of the 'old folks', for which I am suffering (well not really suffering to the core) because I could only sigh at why I didn't get to enjoy childhood that much.
Similarly, I was told when I was younger not to eat too much and was advised by my mom to go to the gym in high school. Didn't really listen, now I am fighting the flabs that I guess don't want to leave at all. 
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Oct 09
No..legally, i never had to pay that price but I could have with the dumb things i did when younger. My daughter is going thru what you are now. She can't find a job other than flipping burgers.She too, got arrested and charged with a felony crime. She did jail time. Even tho the charges were dropped and her innocence proved... that part of the story did not make front page news. She is working hard and accepts her mistakes and hopefully learned some lessons along the way. I think eventually if she continues to stay out of trouble and works her best that she will overcome her past. You will too. Don't have regrets. Just learn from your experiences and move forward. I know you wish now that you had made better choices but be honest would you have listened to anyone who told you that you were wrong back then? Most of us only know that it is wrong in retrospect.
@ashish1487 (137)
• India
28 Oct 09
really saying this much thing i have not done i have not been to this extend but yes in my graduation for first years i have been with wrong people so could not get marks properly and now i am feeling guilty because i just miss my graduation becoming honers with few marks so in my accordance every one should take care before taking any step because that may create problems in future.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
27 Oct 09
it seem like alot right now, all the fights ive been into, all the dumb stuns i tried, and all the cars i wrecked. now my body is a mess, got so much wrong with me.
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
I have done lots of mistakes in life which my parents does not trust me anymore. I always make a wrong choice and never listened to them because I am searching my true identity. Now that I have grown mature,I still have the regrets deep within me and wanting to make up but sometimes it really hard for me to do something better.
@pandawang (40)
• China
27 Oct 09
Yes,so I did.But it happened a long time ago.At that time,I was so confused,why I have to do this?because I have choose it.Now,I'm very careful to make choices.If I have choose it,I must bear full responsibilitiy for the concequence.
@firozahmed (194)
• India
27 Oct 09
I regret that i did not enjoy my college life. I wish i could have had a better time doing the things i wanted to do. I was so busy studying. firofame.blogspot.com
