Why do we all love facebook and do you think its a problem in society?

October 28, 2009 8:46am CST
I have got to admit I love facebook. It keeps me in touch with my family in Liverpool who I don't see and I have also found lots of friends on there that I had lost contact with. But in the news all the time just recently is the damage these online social sites are causing to those that use them. In the news this morning a teenage girl was found dead and is believed to have been killed by a man she met on facebook. www.clickliverpool.com/news/national-news/126670-liverpool-links-to-man-accused-of-facebook-murder.html Do you watch your kids when they go online and use facebook? I would never personally meet anyone I spoke to on the internet, but I know people that have and have enjoyed the time spent with them. For example my sister travelled to America and stayed with people she had met on Facebook. She travelled with friends so wasn't alone and she had a great time. But how safe are these networking sites and should children even be allowed to use them. Just thought I would find peoples views on the matter
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@dlr297 (5409)
• United States
28 Oct 09
I joined facebook a few weeks ago, and i love it also not only being able to communicate with family but also playing the games that they have their. Parents should always be monitoring their children's activities weather it be on the computer or not. Their are predictors that will use any means that they can to get to our children. Parents just need to be aware what their children are doing all the time to help keep them safe.
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28 Oct 09
I knew it. It's like it's always been about the apps. A lot of my fellow Filipino teenagers are really hooked with Farmville, which I think, in contradiction, is a waste of time.
• Indonesia
29 Oct 09
First, I joined facebook because I like the advantages of this site that connecting us with our old friends or our family, even get new friends. It's more simple than other social networking. in facebook we can find the person just by type her/his name. compare with other that the member use nick name, it's make us difficult to find our friends. Moreover....the display screen of facebook is simple. Just white.... But i like it. not make my eyes getting hurt and tired.
@mommaj (23011)
• United States
28 Oct 09
I personally do not do a lot on facebook. Fortunately, my children aren't old enough to go onto the site. I watch what my children are doing on the computer because even playing toddler games you can go into all kinds of sites that aren't a good thing. Commercials pop up and chat things could pop up. I think it is a parent's responsibility to watch what their child does on a computer. Especially if they want to see their child alive tomorrow.
@mommaj (23011)
• United States
31 Oct 09
Exactly. Things need to be censored on the computer.
31 Oct 09
I use pop up blockers when my children are playing on the computer. You have to be so careful of the content they see as even putting innocent words in a search bar can come back with nasty content
@trixyteddy (1070)
• India
31 Oct 09
I love facebook too. I think it all depends on how the person uses it. I use in on the same grounds as you do. I guess we just have to be sensible in our usage. Parents have to keep an eye on their teens and give them a lot of love.
31 Oct 09
I think if parents also have a good relationship with their children it also helps. If your child feels they can talk to you about anything then they wouldn't have any reasons to keep secrets so avoided the girls senario. I'm not saying its the parents fault but I am saying that to be able to allow your kids to talk to you helps a great deal
@hora_fugit (5831)
• India
31 Oct 09
I think all social networking sites are far good as long as you don't go overboard and provide too much of personal information. Someone here tried to do that!
31 Oct 09
I love your pic with the blinking eyes by the way. lol Is that actually you? Thanks for replying, it seems that common sense is needed for sites like facebook.
@maezee (42248)
• United States
28 Oct 09
Well, I think that parents should definitely educate their children about the DANGERS involved with meeting people online. In Facebooks' defense, they strongly discourage anyone to add anyone they don't KNOW personally. In my opinion, Facebook wasn't the problem - because it does so much good for people like me. It allows me to connect to friends and family and co-workers without having to call or write or whatever. People should definitely only add people who they know PERSONALLY. I think in this case, the teenage girl was being reckless online and not following many safety measures that I'm sure her parents would have loved her to. These things are really out of our control. I would imagine that common sense would tell this teenager NOT to trust strangers, as that is something we learn at a very young age. But people sometimes get manipulated into trusting others, on Facebook or not, so I can understand how something like this happens. Do I think it's Facebook's fault? No. Is our society wrong for spending so much time on Facebook? Maybe, but that's another story entirely. Society and Facebook didn't cause this girl to get killed..The psychopath killer did!
30 Oct 09
I totally agree with you, the girl should have learned to take the "safety measures"...
29 Oct 09
Thankyou for your reply I am inclined to agree with you on all counts.
• United States
29 Oct 09
I have this arguement with my freinds all the time. I'm always catching heat because I'm not on Facebook. My freinds will say, "You've got to get a facebook page so I can send you this, or so we can talk about that." I'm like, Dude, we're talking face to face right now, how easier could it be to talk to me or show me something? I personally just feel like it causes more problems than good. When people say, "but you can catch up wit old friends from highschool or that you don't see anyomre". I always tell them that I feel like if we were close enough that we need to "catch up" we never would've drifted apart in the first place. I'm still very close with my "best" friends from highschool and college, and I've never gone more than a week or so without speaking to them or seeing them in person. That's all the catching up I need.
30 Oct 09
I have a friend who feels exactly the same. And though I do use facebook it is mainly to stay in touch with family that live to far away to see. I think your points are very valid. Though some people are not so lucky as to be able to see their friends so often and I feel facebook can be a good way to stay in touch with people. But I do believe it should be used in moderation.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Facebook is really a good social networking sites, no doubt about that. I don't say I love facebook but I can say this social network is really good that we can do more things to make friends, promote,playing game and more application that will help our websites also...Have a nice day!
@sblossom (2168)
28 Oct 09
I don’t use facebook, so far I just use skype to contact my friends. I heard a lot about it. Just today I read a review about facebook, the writer said she worried one day people would forget how to say hello in our real life. I don’t know how powerful the site can be, but I’m curious. I suppose one day when I have time I maybe pop over to test the water. By the way as I know my friends son who is 9 years old and he has his facebook account.
29 Oct 09
Facebook will not allow accounts of anyone who is under 12, so your friends son must have put a fake date of birth in. So I guess that facebook are doing their best to stop children too young from using it, though if your friend is always with her son when he is on there then I guess that no harm is done. I think it is a great way to give another form of communication, just like writing a letter or phoning someone. As long as you still socialise with people face to face then no harm is done
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
i think it depends on us as user facebook. my tips only is never believe too early to someone in cyber. let the time will proof for me , if she/he can be my good friends for me.
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Nope i don't think facebook is a problem in the society. . . I love facebook and using it almost everyday to communicate with my relatives away from country. . . very good addicting apps to play and earn cash too.. About the teenage girl i think it's all about trust and very sorry about it... just be very careful....if possible don't meet someone you don't really know well... or meet with a friend/relative in a crowded place..
31 Oct 09
I would love to know how you earn cash on facebook
@IMEzekieL (498)
28 Oct 09
First of all, not all people love facebook. But I'm guessing that people who love it might have been, because of facebook's addicting apps. Secondly, I don't really think it's a problem in the society. Just like any social network, facebook is just a handy tool for communication.
29 Oct 09
So you don't think some people put their online friends before real life? Do you think this is just down to the individual and not something anyone can control? I must admit I do like a couple of their games, restaurant city and cafe world. I sometimes play yoville as well.
• United States
29 Oct 09
Honestly, if a person is attacked or gets into a bad situation with a person they only know from Facebook, then it is not the fault of Facebook. It has more to do with a girl being stupid enough to go and meet a man she only knew online alone. I mean, you would think there is no one these days who would not realize that is a really stupid thing to do. You hear about these things all the time. I actually met my husband online, but I talked to him for almost a year and a half before I met him, and when I went over to meet him (in America, I was in England) I actually took my Dad on the holiday and we met him together. And I was 30!(We have been married 5 years, by the way!) So I am not against meeting someone, just being daft enough to go on your own, and not check it out first, and not go to a very public place. Personally I have found Facebook to be great for me - as I said, I moved, ultimately, from England to America so it is great for keeping in touch with people back home. However I don't do Farmville and get so many requests I am tempted to burn down everyones' crops....!
30 Oct 09
I must admit I have met someone I spoke to online, but I had been talking to them for two years online, plus I went with a couple of friends. To me that is just common sense. Though a lot of teenagers feel they are invinsible and that these things only happen to other people. Its just the monster under the bed story to stop them having fun. They are starting to learn independance at that age and feel they should try and push the boundaries or just feel their parents are being overprotective
• Japan
3 Nov 09
facebook and orkut is so popular among youngsters of the nation.That is because they attract others.It attracts them to the core.Its all fun there.There may be some minor bad incidents because we have always two sides in a coin.We must only take the possitive aspects of these sites.We can develope good network from this site and enjoy...
@jenrettn (43)
• United States
29 Oct 09
I think it is okay for kids to use them, under supervision. My personal opinion is children under 18 should be required to have their accounts set to private. Also, I feel it is the parents right and responsibility to monitor interactions that their children are having. My daughters are to young to have one. However, I go on my underage little sisters profile all the time. I check the pictures they are posting of themselves, people they are accepting as friends, and how much personal information they are provided about themselves. I have an older friend who reported one of her daughters friends because she felt the posted pictures where to risque. I feel that we all have a responsibility to help look out for the children, that we know, that use it. Maybe with the combined effort we can help make it safer.
30 Oct 09
I must admit I do this for my son. Well actually I know his password too so can go and change anything I don't like. I am also able to keep an eye on my nieces and nephews accounts and I would tell their Mum if I saw something I didn't like. So your point is actually very good it shows that if the adults looking after the teens/kids on facebook keep an eye on them to an extent then it makes it a lot safer. Though it doesn't stop people privately messageing them without you knowing.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
29 Oct 09
That's really sad; I couldn't imagine what the girl's family had to go through. Social networking sites surely have its pros and cons, but this is the second time I've been reading something related to Facebook. The previous news was of a wife whom have been killed by her husband, I think because she put the relationship status as single, and not married like she used to. More or less that was what I understood from the story. I strictly use Facebook for playing the games and use some applications there. Other than that, I don't really share too personal information like address and stuff like that. I think social networking sites are just like chatting; and there need to be a certain kind of discreet, and the general rule of not being too kind and open to strangers is important. I think Facebook can be used, but with a certain kind of usage. Not to be too open. Not just Facebook, but other sites too. The bottom line is never to reveal too much personal information, unless it's a family members or close friend from young etc..
@lindiebiz (1006)
• Canada
29 Oct 09
Social networking sites are made to keep in contact with your friend and family but some people use it for thier own evil deeds. i will not easily go to see someone i met online and i definately will not go alone. The person is a stranger so i will treat him as a stranger. children under 13 should not be allowed on these sites and for those under 18 that are allowed they should be supervised
@solared (1207)
• United States
28 Oct 09
Parents are responsible for watching their children. I have met tons of internet people, it's not something a teenager should be doing because they don't have good judgement. If anyone under the age of say 17 meets anyone from the net, they should have an adult accompany them.
@mielshare (265)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
I don't think it is a problem in the society. I also love facebook.
• Pakistan
29 Oct 09
No its not a problem rather its up to the society if they wanna make it a problem I like facebook in the sense i can communicate witheveryone of my interest,my profession, and i also i found some of my lost childhood friends on facebook so its cool.
• United States
29 Oct 09
facebook is one of the good social network, because we can make friends across the world and we can share comments, we can make discussions, and we can share photos also,and we can share our comment freely in network, according to me it face book will not create any problem to society, today millions of peoples are using facbook,because it is user friendly.