Teenage daughtors

@JIMBOH (62)
October 29, 2009 9:14am CST
What can I do to control my teenage daughters? They are having troubles in and out of school. I can not seem to get a straight answer out of them. They seem to be more interested in cell phone and computer time then anything else. Anyone have any ideas to make them realize they are part of a family?
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@hvedra (1619)
16 Nov 09
Remove the cell phones and turn off the computer. Having access to those is a privilidge that should be conditional on their good behaviour. Organise some family activities and designate family time each day - let them know that if they are upset or having problems it is okay to discuss this with you but that it must be a discussion and not a shouting match.
@JIMBOH (62)
16 Nov 09
Thanks for your response. We have been trying a few different things, one of which is taking away cell phones and are actually getting some better behaviors out of them. We will keep plugging away.
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@hvedra (1619)
17 Nov 09
Good to hear you are making some progress. Sometimes kids get wrapped up in "virtual worlds" and communicating with people outside the home and forget that the people nearest to them care about them. Good luck.
@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
well take things at a time.perhaps you can plan for some activities that will fit to the likes of these teenagers like camping or watching movies in big screens. maybe all of you are not used to bond frequently and that's the reason why your kids just resort to other stuffs than be with you. i just wish this helps.
@JIMBOH (62)
29 Oct 09
Thanks for your response. I have really tried to do things with them but they just don't seem interested in doing the things that I bring up. I will keep trying though and hopefully find something that we can do together.
@rhan04 (307)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Well, I don't really have kids...but I'll try to help as much as I can. First of all, as a parent, try to find out why your daughters are acting that way. As far as I know, kids who rebel are usually the ones who are being given less attention by their parents. Do you spend time with your children? How old are they? Try to talk to them a bit more. Start a conversation with them. Ask them how was school, how was their day, etc. As much as possible, try to avoid questions that are answerable by yes or no so that you can have a good flow of conversation with them. Or maybe, they are just going through a phase? Usually, teenagers would want to spend more time with their friends and try to "fit in". Just try not to let them slip away too far from you. Try to reach out to them. Talk to them, and maybe in time they'll open up to you.