Is it dangerous to be a dreamer in today's world?

Lithuania
October 29, 2009 5:34pm CST
Is it dangerous to believe that people are good by nature,wait for a prince charming, for a pretty and loving princess,dream about love and happy life?Dream about perfect future?Dream that someday your life will change, the world will change?In my childhood I was taught like that - to dream, to believe.Later I faced the reality and It wasn't that sweet.Do you teach your children to believe in fairy tales?Or if you don't have children - would you like your child to be a dreamer?How it is important to accept reality as it is?
19 responses
• Boston, Massachusetts
30 Oct 09
It's okay to have dreams it's free LOL. Dreams can serve as an inspiration to reach ones goal and be successful in life. Anybody who dream should make extra effort to make that dream become reality. Nothing is impossible in this world you just have to believe in yourself that you can make it! This happened to -- it all started with a dream now i am a fulfilled woman and make all my dreams come true. I really worked out for it with God's blessings!
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
I like free stuff.Who knows maybe one day someone will start trading dreams and they will become too expensive for me! I'm glad you learned to fulfill your dreams.
• Boston, Massachusetts
31 Oct 09
Again, nothing is impossible if you just believe in your dreams. Why not if ever that will happen that is something so unique...so start saving today so that you'll have more when that trade happens. Now if there be free trades much better. Goodluck!
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
there's nothing wrong for a person to have dreams. it gives one something to hold on to when things get rough. something to look forward to when everything seems going wrong. dreams give a person... HOPE. we just have to face and accept reality and not be bitter with life's disappointments. life has its good turns and there would be bad ones too. if believing that there is good in every person, then i am a dreamer too. but my feet are on the ground because i live in reality. we don't just dream. we do something about our dreams to make them real. dreaming for a better future should not remain a dream. it should be something we continously work on... to inspire us to one day achieve it.
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
Hope is something we all need.Sometimes it is the only thing we have.
• Philippines
1 Nov 09
yes... and sometimes it's the only thing that keeps us going.
@maximax8 (30098)
• United Kingdom
1 Nov 09
I think it is valuable for a person to have dreams. There is a saying that "where there is a will there is a way". I dreamed about traveling when I was a child. I made sure that dream came true. Even when I was doing a paper round I saved up to travel to Greece. I dreamed about buying a home to live in. I realized that dream too. I dreamed about having my own children and I have three of them. I would love it if my children could be dreamers and achieve some or all of their dreams. In relationships there might well be some Prince Charming like men out there for some lucky ladies. A 40 year old man watching the news will hear reality and a child of 7 years old reading a fairy tale will be developing her imagination.
• Lithuania
3 Nov 09
You've hit 10 000 posts,congrats.You mentioned good thing - to fulfill our dreams we need strong will,that's undeniable truth.
• India
30 Oct 09
no man its not dangerous its most dangerous to be a dreamer in todays world. if you don't work hard you will be ignore by other. its not a generation to be a dreamer its a generation to do work first and then watch dream is i will reach there or not?
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
That's pretty strict, but I do get it.
@gloamglozer (1285)
• Australia
30 Oct 09
Having hopes and dreams are very central to todays world. The dreams that you were brought up with are rather unrealistic for today's time. Often, you will face many hardships and the world around you will never be in peace. If I had kids I wouldn't want to bring them up with airy fairy views and expectations of life but rather having a firm and set goal that they want to achieve. To find their purpose in life and live it. That, I believe is much more important.
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
Another nice realistic point of view,Thanks for sharing.
• China
30 Oct 09
I don't think so.Every one shoud dream a dream for relaxing the busy life.Dream sometime give us happy and imaging.
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
I heard this funny phrase:"Women dream while men work to make their dreams come true".
@jackbill (22)
• China
30 Oct 09
It might be a good thing to be a dreamer, but link dream and reality will the better
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
I agree.
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
Hello silvercoin. Your discussion is very interesting for me and I have not thought of that for a while because of so many things in my mind. Children are children and I think it is okay to let them read and enjoy the pictures as well as moral lessons of fairy tale stories. They are still children and it is our duty as adults to develop the foundation of their character and morality. It is our responsibility to guide them and let them know that this world is still a beautiful and safe place to live in though in reality it may seem no more. It is their right to have a healthy and secure environment therefore it would not be advisable to expose them about reality. It will inculcate fear, terror and pessimism in them and that is agains the law on Child Protection. I am not yet a parent. But I let my nephews and nieces to read and watch fairy tale stories because I want them to enjoy their childhood. And that doesn't mean that I teach them to believe in these fairy tales but to take only the moral values in the stories. For me, this world is not as bad as it may seem.There are bad things but there are also good. And I am determined to live my life to make it a better place to live in even to a few persons only. That makes a difference.
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
I don't know how I would teach my own children.I think I would try to protect them from harm when possible, but I wouldn't like them to have unrealistic dreams.My niece's mother is too realistic and it's funny when you hear 6 year old talking about economic crisis and money.The child is involved in adult problems.I want children to stay children.They will be adults their entire life.
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
In today's world, I may say, it's not that dangerous to be a dreamer for as long as you keep your contact with reality. Dreams is where we escape when we're feeling low and down but let it remain as an escape not the actual reality. It is very important to know how to accept reality even if it bites. Accepting reality will make you a tougher person. It's like hoping for the best but expecting the worst in all scenarios. Also, learning to face reality makes you a more strategical person. Why? Because if you'd accept the fact that not everything will go your way, you'd be able to plan ahead of time, expecting anything can happen and always has a back up plan.
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
We may call it a "safe dreaming".When you hope for the best and are ready for the worst.Great idea.
• Italy
30 Oct 09
Yeah, I think it's important to realize life is not a dream, totally different. I don't know really how to take it with kids to not hurt them but I don't think they should live in dreams. Having dreams and being a dreamer are different things. Everyone has dreams and they're essential. But for a dreamer, dreams are the only things he has. Dreams fall, then he falls too. I definitely think we need to stay grounded and accept/realize how things are in reality.
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
Yes, it's important to have something more than just dreams.
@littleowl (7157)
30 Oct 09
Hi silver, No it isn't dangerous or bad to be a dreamer, sometimes dreams do come true, but you have to help them along. I have never stopped my children from dreaming, it does give hope and a more positive outlook on facing the hard reality of the world,but not to dream and hope you can become a very hard and bitter person...LoLo
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
I watched an interview with famous Russian singer who told the story of his biggest dream.One cold winter afternoon he was crossing the bridge and whistling the new tune he created himself.A car passed by.Suddenly this thought crossed his mind:"One day I'll be driving a car like that and listening to my own album!"Five years later his dream became reality.It's worth having a dream.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
30 Oct 09
I think it's dangerous NOT to dream in today's world. If the world, collectively, believed in the worst possible outcomes, then that would be all there was. I taught my son to dream and believe and have no regrets in that department. He has managed to work hard and turn his dreams into reality for himself. I would rather believe the best in people and situations and be wrong, than to believe in negativity and be right.
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
I like your positive thinking.I believe that positive thinking often brings positive results.Not often,actually, ALWAYS.
• United States
30 Oct 09
It is never bad to be a dreamer in life. As long as dreams do not get in the way of reality, there should be minimal danger as long as a person uses caution and commonsense. The world is a more violent place now then it was when I was growing up. It is good to dream, but let someone earn your trust first before your emotions make you vulnerable.
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
Good advice, because I often get vulnerable when it comes to love.
@andy555 (216)
• China
30 Oct 09
I think that if you want to do someting or make progress first step is to have a dream. You should know what you want to get or where you want to go. Have a dream then try your best to make it come true. Of course, if you only dream rather than do, your dream will be dream forever no matter how sweet it it. So dream it and make it.
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
Very nice,I like it:DREAM IT AND MAKE IT!
@malamar (784)
• Canada
30 Oct 09
There ARE good people in the world, I have no doubt of that. I also believe that dreams are important for us to have. What we cannot do is blame life for getting in the way of what we want. When the rake of reality slaps you in the face, it is up to you to push that rake aside and find another way. Sure, sometimes life can get difficult and we face challenges that we would rather not face, but it is still okay to dream of a brighter future, a perfect partner, and so on. There is one thing I have learned that I truly believe in - Your life will not change unless YOU change. In other words, don't let life bog you down, stand up and do something about it. That's what I think anyway.
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
I think that is the only problem for dreamers - they wait around for their dreams to come true and forget to act.
@mysdianait (65079)
• Italy
30 Oct 09
I think it is more dangerous if we don't dream. Our dreams spur us on further surely. Without them we become bitter. Iknow that things seem harder as we grown older but if we do not dream about something then we would have no goals and gradually stop living. Dreams are what make us thrive, Don't ever give up dreaming Silver!
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
I'll try!
@veromar (1457)
• Argentina
29 Oct 09
Throughout history, there have been many references to the importance of having dreams. Dreaming big can help you to strive harder to reach your goals. One of my favorite phrases is: "If you dream it you can achieve it. If you live it, you can become it." Can't remember where I heard that the first time but it was several years ago and has stuck with me all this time. Another is: "Without dreams, one ceases to exist." I'm a firm believer in having dreams. Big or small it doesn't really matter to me. If my child dreams of becoming an astronaut, I'll do everything I can to help them achieve that dream. It would be the same if they wanted to be a carpenter, a postal worker, teacher....anything as long as they were happy. On the other side, it's extremely important to accept reality. Sometimes you have no choice. However, there have been so many people that have defied the odds. I heard about a baseball player who lost one of his arms in an accident. His dream of becoming a major league player had ended because of that, BUT, he managed to have a respectable career in the minor leagues. I think it's more that we have to accept our shortcomings but that doesn't mean we need to quit dreaming. No danger in dreaming at all!
• Lithuania
29 Oct 09
I'm still a dreamer though I had some serious disappointments.I don't like people saying "It's impossible".If Christopher Columbus hadn't been a dreamer, he wouldn't have started his famous journey.We never thought there would be things like cell phones and internet, but now we use them everyday.
@getbrowser (1715)
• China
29 Oct 09
Yes, I can't agree with you amymore. Dreams and reality are different parts of our life. Some dreams can help us improve ourselves to a higher level. But if we spend much time on dreaming a better life, a perfect love, a prosperous future, we may have to face faliures sooner or later. Yes, there are big gaps between reality and dreams. If we don't put the dreams into reality, it is a waste of time completely. A life full of perfect dreams is dangerous if one never pay attention to make it come true.
• Lithuania
29 Oct 09
I've just noticed we started discussions on similar subject today.Yes,It's important to take action and do something for that dream.
@taztheone (1726)
• India
29 Oct 09
I don't think there is any problem in dreaming or if you have dreams. In fact it's said that a person with big dreams will climb greater heights in life. Happy Lotting
• Lithuania
29 Oct 09
I hope so!Happy Lotting