How Do You Know When Its Over???
By sexyposh
@sexyposh (575)
Philippines
October 29, 2009 9:54pm CST
It is so easy to see that you are falling inlove. You're happy and excited to see him/her always, you just can't stop thinking about him/her, and you always call him/her up and talk and talk and talk... All of us really like the early phase of relationship, we're all on high and wish that it will last forever.
But when trouble shakens the relationship, only a few face the challenge hand in hand and the rest they choose to do it in separate ways...
If you're in that circumstance, how will you know that is over? How will you know that you're falling out? or vise versa... How will you know that he/she is falling out of love?
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15 responses
Just kidding.
You'll know what will happen next because you can sense... 
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
Well i am falling out of love when, i dont think of him anymore, i am not excited to see him, i can see his flaws, i dont miss him, i dont care about him, im not happy being with him, i am not inspired anymore, i dont want to talk to him and i stopped dreaming of us anymore.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
Well, that is the saddest and most difficult thing to do. Actually it happened only once in my life. What i did was, i avoided seeing him first for a few days to gather my strength. I did'nt have the courage to tell him. After few days i could not avoid him anymore so i told him that i had to focus on my studies first (that was during college days) and having a boyfriend will distruct me from my studies. I told him i might not have time for the relationship and i offered friendship. Good he understood and told me that he can wait but i told him that he is free to start a relationship with other girls if he found someone better than me.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
30 Oct 09
this is what i know works. if you really love that person, you will do everything you can to make it work. and if you have to walk away because it didn't. then at least you can walk away knowing that you tried everything you can. you know when it's over when what you have done is not working. when you don't see that look in that persons eye when they look at you. when he/she touches you and that spark is gone. that's how you know.
@vincyk (198)
• China
30 Oct 09
I think to know you are falling out or not is as easy as you know whether you are falling in love.We all know ourselves feelings though st it will cheat us but most of the times it is telling the truth and especially for the lovers .If one of them feels falling out of this love affair,the other one can must feel about it.So just trust about your feelings and if he is not so often to get touch with you or he is different from the begginnings maybe you'd better to have a sense about...
@akotalagato (1334)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
yes i agree. you can definitely feel it. it is usually the little things that was usually done but are done no longer. you can feel that the bond between the two of you is slowly fading away. and it will come to a point that you are both indiferent to each other. if you are inlove you usually notice the little things your partner does. and it is these little things are gone once the relationship starts to break.
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
I think cheating is a sign that you're already falling out. You never show respect to your partner's feelings anymore. You can trust you feeling but when you're in that relationship, it really is hard to tell... I guess if you already have the hunch, its better that the two of you should talk.
@rhan04 (307)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
Sometimes relationships end not because you fall out of love. Based on my own experience, there was a time in the relationship that I felt like love was not enough to continue fighting for it. There are other factors that make a relationship work and love, although it is very important, is not the only basis that we should consider. For example, in a relationship, once the trust is broken, it's hard to regain it again. This causes arguments and in the long run, people just get tired of it and decide to separate. And then they just wait until the time comes that they don't feel anything anymore. You'll know it once you are already there.
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
I know someone who broke the trust of his girlfriend. But still the girl accept him a million times. Weird huh?? lols! Anyway, my point is TRUST can still be mend but respect-never. Once you lose ones respect, there is no reason for the two of you to be together again...
@snowy22315 (170018)
• United States
30 Oct 09
I think when you lose respect for the person the love is soon to follow. Excitement and the initial attraction phase in a relationship is bound to fade, but you can still love and be in love with the person but when everything they do irritates you
it is a pretty good indication you are no longer in love, or that you are no longer seeing their good qualities.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
30 Oct 09
When you've tried everything and one or both of you are still unhappy...or the problem(s) still exist, it's over. Many times couples hang on too long, hoping that something will happen to change their circumstances but the wise person looks at the reality of the relationship and knows when to move on.
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
I admit that I'm one of those who "hanging on too long", maybe because I still hopeful that everything will work out. I still believe that there is still a little love that needs to be showered. But if my partner no longer cooperate or no longer willing to work things out... then so be it.. There's nothing more I can do... Usually it takes me 3 months before I start dating and jump into new relationship...
@buping (952)
• China
30 Oct 09
hi sexyposh, i think love can be lasted forever as you cherish each other. i was with my ex for 5 years. and every with him was very happy, it did not show that we were with 5 years. i think you can do something that made your boyfriend realize that you are still in love. romance never out of days. you can do something for him, such as making him a dilicious dinner and tell him how much you love him.:)
@lichee_china (506)
• China
31 Oct 09
When there is not feeling between each other anymore,It means over.if he doesn't ring you just because of teeny affairs,It means over.and you don't care about whether he will ring or not,It means over.A break from my ex-girlfriend and me after a period of lack of attach each other.
@sarwanever (435)
• India
31 Oct 09
yes what u say is really correct when i fell in love days went like heaven then after one year problem shooted up its like we almost got separated but i know how my girlfriend loves me she wants to me change so i give up things mostly in a relationship one has to give up or it will lead to problem only ...but both will have that ego why should i give up that ego will kill love
@marcelinka (113)
• Chile
30 Oct 09
I think it`s easy to know when love is not there anymore... but not easy to accept!!! inside of u there is a voice that tells u when love is gone, it`s up to u to listen to it, I never do, and probably that`s the reason i`m always hurt at the end.
@LisaGuo (241)
• China
31 Oct 09
When I'm thinking of him,I'm not excited and happy any more.When I don't see him.I dodn't miss any more.I'll no long think about what he's doing when I'm not with him.I missed every second when I'm in love with him,and now he comes to my mind only several times a day.In few days,he'll come to my mind several times a month.It shows that I'm going far away from him.
When he begins to say no to me frequently,it shows he's falling out.
@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
2 Nov 09
When love appears,just hanging around makes the two happy and satisfied and everything is all right;when love vanish,they demand more and quarrel more.
