what should i do if my boyfriend love the computer more than me?

China
October 30, 2009 9:29am CST
he will sit on the front of the computer immediately after everyday's dinner.then he will be like that until sleep. i even think he loves the computer more than me! it is a terrible feeling to bear this. what should i do ? how can i help him and myself ? is there the same situation in your life and how did you done with this?
6 responses
• China
31 Oct 09
Everyone has his interest .It is difficult to control his not do the thing that he is interesting .I think the only thing what can you do is discovr more interesting thing you boy friend like to do ,and in the meanwhile you join him .
• China
31 Oct 09
hi yangbixue thankyou for your response. may be what you said is a bit reasonable.but i still don,t think it is a good habit to be in front of a computer all the time.it is bad to his health i think.
@mrfdg1972 (3237)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
have you tried UNDRESSING, beside that computer?
• China
31 Oct 09
Hi mrfdg you are humorous in my opinion anyway thankyou
@akotalagato (1334)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
love is enjoying the company of each other whether its doing something together or just sitting on the sofa and doing nothing. i think its pretty obvious that your boyfriends does love his computer more. i think it is best to get your feelings about this in the open. talk to him. ask him why he is hiding behind his computer rather than spending his time with you. there must be a reason other than him loving his computer more. because for me, if you love someone you would want to talk to them often, see them often, know everything about them. but if he spends his time more on the computer rather than talking to you, there definitely is something wrong. i urge you two to sort it out.
• China
31 Oct 09
thankyou my friend.what make me so worry is that i think the computer will cause some negative affect on his health. i would like him to do some beneficial sports or other things. i shoul talk with him about this .
• Bangalore, India
1 Nov 09
u cn try this, keep your photo(to be hot) as desktop setting and screen saver. thr is chance tht he feels hw sweer u r looking. make him feel to ask u and abt u. try it, if nt work out v wl find out othrs. thnks, ur new frnd. india bangalore 9242160441
@Wizzywig (7847)
30 Oct 09
i realised years ago that I was no competition for the computer so I just got on with my own stuff and left him to it. It used to bother and upset me but I really dont care now. You could try just cutting the plug off or pulling out one of the main fuses before he gets home. You could have the house lit with candles etc & maybe he'll realise what he'sbeen missing Good luck with it.
• China
31 Oct 09
thanks for your sincere response.what you said is so reasonable.may be it is time for me to do sth.
@SouravRC (247)
• India
30 Oct 09
I don't think it's clear that your boy friend loves computer more than you. He may be doing some work. Or some kind of research. If he is doing something positive and good then you can't blame him. If he is doing just for the sake of entertainment and by doing so not giving you time then you can say 'he loves computer more'. But even then it's not right to say he doesn't love you or loves less then anything else. Sometimes this type of thing happens. Talk and sort it out. It's a very minor thing.
• China
31 Oct 09
Hi sourvRC,thankyou for your attention what make me feel a little sad is that he use the computer just as a gaming consel. i am so worry about his health of both his body and his spirit.