i should have married a seahorse?

@jb78000 (15163)
November 2, 2009 8:28am CST
now it is possible that male seahorses make better husbands than men. they are not only committed but also are the ones who get pregnant. then again they are fish and the chances of intelligent conversation are remote. so moving slightly on from seahorses do you think men generally are worse at relationships than women? personally i think it depends completely on the person - there are some great men and there are some horrible ones, as with my lot. but i'd like to know your views... oh and here is a link about erm seahorses: http://www.guardian.co.uk/environment/2009/nov/02/seahorses-mating-males-pregnant
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@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
2 Nov 09
that is quite interesting. i think a lot of men have issues with committment to be sure but hubby and i have great conversations. i love his sense of humor so i think i will keep him.
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@jb78000 (15163)
2 Nov 09
so not swapping him for a seahorse then?...
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@sunny68 (1327)
• India
2 Nov 09
men have always been the dominating ones. i find it difficult to assign a reason for that...but throughout history this has remained a fact. (except for some cases where some women had strong manipulating powers). but times are changing and people are becoming more aware and understanding of all the wrong ways that had been followed. things are moving towards equality. although many times this equality leads to confrontation but i think with time things will balance out. btw - who is the lucky seahorse......do i get an invitation..??
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@JodiLynn (1417)
• United States
2 Nov 09
"men have always been the dominating ones." You haven't ever met my ex mother in law!
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@jb78000 (15163)
2 Nov 09
actually there is something in this and it is true for most animals - the males are more aggressive. it's, partly, to do with hormones. hopefully we are intelligent enough to get round it. and this is being seen now in some although not all countries.
@JodiLynn (1417)
• United States
2 Nov 09
yes, but all the SMART species, like Whales, Elephants, Chimps, lemurs, dolphins, are all MATRIARCHAL. somethin to that, ya see?
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@JodiLynn (1417)
• United States
2 Nov 09
OMG! DO NOT LET THE MEN FOLK READ THIS!! http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20091031/ss_livescience/surprisingsexbehaviorfoundinbats
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@jb78000 (15163)
2 Nov 09
, ok so now all the men are going to wish they were bats.
@JodiLynn (1417)
• United States
2 Nov 09
if bats hang upside down, does the male or female hold on while engaging in said act?
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@jb78000 (15163)
2 Nov 09
jodi, i think you are a little too interested in the personal lives of fruit bats
@JodiLynn (1417)
• United States
2 Nov 09
A sloth would make a wretched mate, I'd assume. I think maybe next time around I'll be a Queen Bee, and have zillions of drones to do my bidding.... People are people, male and female, I don't think one side has it over the other. Some folks do relationships well, others don't. My X is a three time weenie, finally found a woman who doesn't mind being his Mommy...whatever floats their boat.
• United States
2 Nov 09
Yeah, but I would think that having a sloth for a mate would eliminate the whole "too quick" problem that some women complain about.
@jb78000 (15163)
2 Nov 09
you could take it too far the other way the i suspect.
• United States
2 Nov 09
Yeah, I guess you are right, because then you have the whole "wake me up when you are done" scenario, huh?
@ZephyrSun (7382)
• United States
3 Nov 09
Men have the attention span of a nat, think that seahorses have a long attention span? Men also have no memory, have you ever seen that movie "First 50 Dates"? I live in a house full of the male species and I feel like I'm living with 5 of those guys that had the 5 second memory. So I'll take the seahorse.
@jb78000 (15163)
3 Nov 09
hiya, ooh, good sexist one there. seahorses, like believe it or not most fish, can remember things. anyway while i'm not altogether sure that seahorses are that keen on ducks i will try and matchmake you...
@ZephyrSun (7382)
• United States
3 Nov 09
I bet ducks would eat seahorses. I had an accident with 100 goldfish in my garden pond. When my duck in the picture was done, I had 2 goldfish.
@jb78000 (15163)
3 Nov 09
and how big was your duck by then?
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
3 Nov 09
I do know about this fact, and you are right. It depends on the individual totally and some are worse off while others are better. The thing is early detection... If one's original behavior can be detected as early as possible in the beginning of the relationship, all the more better.
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
3 Nov 09
Hmmmmm.......it's best to sniff it early then..
@jb78000 (15163)
3 Nov 09
no - i meant it is the good ones with faults that can do that, e.g. if you have to dump them. the nasty ones - well you just need to run fast.
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@thea09 (18316)
• Greece
4 Nov 09
Hi Zed
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Nov 09
Depends on the person and on who the person is matched with... Intelligent conversation is overrated anyway. Can't believe I just said that.
@jb78000 (15163)
3 Nov 09
intelligent conversation is indeed overrated. better off with erm well just squeaks will do (i know seahorses don't squeak). with the occasional growl.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Nov 09
haha I was kidding about the intelligent conversation...
@jb78000 (15163)
3 Nov 09
i wasn't.
• United States
2 Nov 09
Oh, there are so many ways to respond to this one, but as it is Monday morning and I am not really in the mood to fight, I guess that I will go with a serious one. I know, not that much fun. I think that you are right about it depending on the person rather than the gender. All people have good and bad qualities, and I think these qualities in there entirety determine whether or not a person is good at relationships, regardless of gender. I wouldn't mind, however, if we could take turns with the guys in the childbearing aspect of the relationship, though.
• United States
2 Nov 09
Yay me! I am first at something for a change!
• United States
2 Nov 09
I would never want to miss out on all those first milestones, Lamb, but it is wonderful that you got to be there with your kids for all of them. I wouldn't want to miss out on the whole pregnancy experience, either, but I wouldn't mind experiencing it from the other side for a change - lol.
@jb78000 (15163)
2 Nov 09
congratulations on being first purple
@thea09 (18316)
• Greece
4 Nov 09
Well I've never come across a seahorse not even in the sea and always presumed they were rather like mermaids. Anyway they won't be able to make any conversation at all because if they take their heads out of the sea they'll probably die. But I'm sure that tortoises evolved from marine life originally and you should see a male tortoise literally run when he's been having a his way with a female one. No stopping around there for a nice chat afterwards or to ask if he thinks he got her pregnant.
@jb78000 (15163)
4 Nov 09
or helping her with all their little eggs? hmmn.
• United States
3 Nov 09
.. lol... well i actually havnt met any of the good one yet.. i guess thats why im single... any of the good guy ive met are either not strait, taken, or soooo much older.. im just going to go ahead and say women are better.. lol
@jb78000 (15163)
3 Nov 09
i think maybe you have been unlucky believefast.
@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Nov 09
hi jb blue bunny I really think it depends on the guy some men are lousy husbands, and some are really great but I have to think that men would make lousy pregnant baby carriers. I do not know of many husbands that are really great with nausea, and morning sickness, and back aches, and going to the bathroom at least ten times a day, and all the little niceties of being pregnant would make a lot of men get down on their knees and beg the good Lord to deliver them. But in relationships I have known a lot of great husbands that made their wives really happy because they truly loved them and cared about them. I think my own husband was one of the great ones as he helped me with house work and caring for the kids, because he wanted to, not because I nagged him, for I would never do that. So I have missed him all the years I have been a widow.
@jb78000 (15163)
3 Nov 09
i know there was a bit of silliness at the start but you've just said what i tried to when i began this - it really depends on the person (not their gender). you could have a point about men not being very stoical (seen what they are like when they have a cold? ) though... your husband sounds like he was a wonderful person and i am sorry he is now gone hatley.