How do you mend a broken heart?
By foisgras
@foisgras (205)
Sweden
November 2, 2009 12:30pm CST
I find it very childish that I have fallen in love again after a long marriage and got divorced 4 years ago.
I met a man and we enjoyed doing things together. We had similar tastes and activities in mind. The complication started when I got double meanings on his statements.
An example is that he has special feelings for me, but can't utter the magic words!
Okay we are adults I have to accept this difference between male & female attitude.
We lived together for a month to test if we would find out if we will feel comfortable. Both of us have lived alone on our own hubs. One evening he brings up a discussion that things won't work with the relationship. We have tried so it has to end. He cries with tears of sadness and sorrow? Of course I also started to cry. But he can't decide if he wants me out or not.
Another week goes we drove to the country side and spent a week together again.
We had so much fun giggling, working in the garden, and fixing things together.
We had to go back to the city because he had to work.
When he came back home after work, the same discussion arises and he is convinced that the relationship won't work. He starts crying and I asked him why the tears? What does he really want? He says he does not know? He had no answers to give! I drove back home and left him.
I really got to like this person for what he is, including the crying part and confusion in what he wants.
I have fallen in love F! Any formulas on how to mend a broken heart?
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5 responses
@darmakawasa (85)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 09
Love make a fool out of everyone, but i think that's one man with conflicting emotions, you experience a lot of things together, even spent a whole month living together ans spend some time in the country side and still saying it's not working out twice with tears fall down, this guy got issues, he's definitely hiding something, i suggest you find out what makes him acts like that, otherwise you might ended up alone again.
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@foisgras (205)
• Sweden
3 Nov 09
darmakawasa Hi,
Yes, I have considered this issue of that he might be hiding something.
But he says he does not, I just have to rely on his answer.
Honestly he said he does not understand it as well and there are no words
to explain what he feels.
I do not mind being alone as I have been alone for quite a time.
I might reconsider to look f or a new friend.
Thank you for responding.
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@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
I am really confused to your partner, i dont have idea why he acted that way but you had said that you always have great time together. it seems that he hides something from you. i feel that he really loves you but there is something bothering him. If he continues in that way, i think you should move on and forget about him.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
2 Nov 09
Maybe it is different kind of love that both of you are experiencing in your twilight years. Unlike when one is young falling in love has no boundaries. The meaning of love in veterans may have different kind of meaning, more to companionship. Looks like both of you are in love but stop short of confessing it to each other. Maybe you just take it for granted that love works by itself in this two adult hearts. You should be honest with your feelings and tell him how you feel about him so he can make his feeling known to you. Time is running short and you should make the first move to return to him. This is the only way you can find comfort in your heart.
@foisgras (205)
• Sweden
2 Nov 09
Thank you Zandi458 for your reply.
I have told him about my affection and was very clear about it after knowing him 2 months before the 1 month experiment began.
Yes, I agree that at this stage of our lives it will clearly be companionship.
But U guess we have quite high expectations on the relationship that it is why it
won't work in his own eyes.
I have now left him and will try to forget. It is like getting another divorce! I did'nt expect it to be in this manner.
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@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
he sounds weird but i guess he is also confused with his feelings if he was really in love with you or if he only wants someone who'd be willing to be with him with no proper commitment at all.
mending a broken heart is very much easy for me because i know very well myself. i beautify myself a lot whenever i'm depressed and i'm loving it because i can boost back my confidence again. it depends on you. you know more yourself more than we do. so good luck!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
2 Nov 09
We should never give up on love. Even though love can break our hearts we have to keep it alive. One day we will find that extra special someone who will be our soulmate. The best thing to do when you fall off the romance horse is to get right back on. This is the best thing you can do to ease the mending of a broken heart.
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