My friend got depression after see his rating what sholud he do?

@rucrazy4 (785)
India
November 2, 2009 9:32pm CST
My a friend start mylot with enjoy and do quality post ever time when he reach on 100 post then he see that he got only 4 star while.. he is good talker .. so he not browse mylot... due to its rating system... advice him to what should he do... share some positive review for him.
6 people like this
17 responses
• United States
3 Nov 09
I have some good advice and some advice your not going to want to hear. If your friend cant except what others think about his opinions, maybe he should keep them to himself. No one group is ever going to agree with everything and anything someone says; we all have our rite to opinions. But in the same tocken a very wize man once said "Those who Judge do not matter" and "Those that do not pass judgement will not be Judged." I hope this helps.
@angelajoy (1836)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
But according to the mylot rules, you can't rate someone negative just because you did not agree with him or her. In fact, rating someone negative because of your different opinions is a mylot abuse. I hate it when shallow people rate others negative because they don't agree with what those people said. The negative rating is only used for abusive posts. It should not be used as a rating of who agrees and who doesn't.
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
3 Nov 09
Yes , i also dont like to give negative rating to anybody for his opinion in any topic where i have different view.. from that we can get more idea about the topic which are little from us. I see a task where one person give $10 for any amount donate on his website. Means who one donate him lost self money for a greed of $10. So i abuse it. But never rate negative for any discussion on where some idea different to me.
1 person likes this
@inedible (768)
• Singapore
3 Nov 09
Why does he care so much about what people here think of him? We're all strangers to him. I don't know who your friend is, so I don't know whether or not his posts are really good. But, I see that most 9-star and 10-star people have tons of posts. A lot more than 100. I think it takes time to get to a decent rating, so he should just keep working at it. If his posts are really good, then I'm sure he'll get a high rating eventually.
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
3 Nov 09
i write my other views in below response of you, but you are example for him because you have same points and try to encourage him to do mylotting. Thanks for support
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
4 Nov 09
Mr. 10 stars , all member can grow up the star but you cant ... it is also amazing... but maintain 10 star is very hard and i am praise you to maintain this high rank.
• India
3 Nov 09
At 6000+ posts I am at rating 9 so I don’t really know how this rating system works. However, it in no way affects how people think about me, how my friends respond to me and how much I earn here. So if your friend is here just to enjoy the experience and earn some honest money, then rating should not be a problem really.
2 people like this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
3 Nov 09
He enjoy the giving answer and getting the best response.. so get best response he tried to write best view of self , he is very good in yahoo answer and hopes to mylotter that they also give positive rating, before getting rating he sure about is star , that he will get minimum 8-9 stars but get 4 stars so he dont do mylotting more.
1 person likes this
@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 09
Don't be demoralized by the rating you get here. It shouldn't be used as the yardstick to measure the quality of individual strength. The rating is easily abused as it is all manually rated by other mylotters here and not from the admin. Some people rate based on emotions. If they find you not to their likins they can simply rate you negative and that affects the star you get. Just stay active here and it will improve as time goes by. Do not surrender as the star position is springy. Enjoy the fun here and things will change of the better.
@coolsudan (313)
• India
3 Nov 09
hi tell ur friend that these ratings also increase rapidly. the thing is if u stopd postins and get depressed then ur rating are not suurely going to increase but if u continously post then atleast u will have a chance to improve it. somehing is better than nothing.hey i am a really bad writer . my writing sucks . and still i am posting . u r definitely better than me . if i expect to score more then u definitely deserve to score more than me .good luch buddy . and cheer up
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
4 Nov 09
No one is bad writer if he can help to other and explore view truly. rating are varies ,i don't know about people thinking.... while rating are important.. i write some his view on this discussion before... i send a copy of this discussion to his email so he realize about mylot
• India
4 Nov 09
it is really nice of u for thinking for ur friend . i am sure if anything doesnt help him ..seeing this discussion will surely help him a lot .
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
4 Nov 09
Ya here in discussion many people grow up from starting low rate and now in top rating .. these success stories can change his attitude about mylot
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
Oh no?! I got nervous too, I'll be reaching 100 posts and don't know what will be my rating. I hope it's not that too low. uhu. Did you tell him to look at his grammar? Or maybe the discussions that he made didn't have a lot of responses? Or another is that he didn't get any best responses? Just like mine. LOL
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
3 Nov 09
You got 9 stars my friend well this discussion have many fact which be help to my friend to again browsing on mylot and start discussion and response.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
Yup, I've just reached 100 posts a while ago because I was curious what will my star be. Now I don't know how the rating system works, but still encourage your friend that continue mylot and he will earn not only an extra income but a lot of lessons and values here. Hope it helps.
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
4 Nov 09
I also thinks so... and really get many important information m from mylot.... My friend is beginner of mylot , May be he understand the vale of mylot member.
@voldrox (7200)
• India
3 Nov 09
hey rucrazy it is alright to get a 4 star rating when someone has just reached 100 posts, when i was at 100 star rating i just had 5 stars myself and look now what it has become, it will get better with time my friend, call your friend up coz there is nothing to feel bad about... your ratings will increase gradually, this is only a start.... so call your friend and enjoy this site.
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
3 Nov 09
Thanks.... you statement is really good for you , where you grow up 5 level... then he can also... i showed this post to him... and he big yahoo answer giver so he compare both mylot and yahoo answer.
2 people like this
@voldrox (7200)
• India
3 Nov 09
hey you know what i was a yahoo answerers too and left it with 919 points and 16 % best answerers but i left that site for good, though i liked that site i had to come here coz it is as just better than that and above that you will have lots of fun earning as well... so have a nice time here both of you!
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
4 Nov 09
you are right .. after seeing this discussion .. I hope my friend is reliaze .. that is starting and he make a lot of good discussion and enjoy in mot compare to another discussion forum.
1 person likes this
@maximax8 (31165)
• United Kingdom
3 Nov 09
Your friend should be told that stars can change to any member that is on My Lot. I would advise him to get more friends and to respond to their discussions. Hopefully then they will respond to the discussions that he starts. Your friend writes quality posts so members should soon respond with +. I think it is only a matter of time before his My Lot reputation increases. You could ask him which star he would like and then he could attempt to get it. Good luck to your friend.
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
3 Nov 09
If i give him positive rating for every started discussion or response then ,is it illegal to policy of Mylot. I think is illegal ... whenever i read his discussion i must follow the rule of mylot.
• Australia
3 Nov 09
That friend of yours really should not be depressed. If mylot is seriously going to make him depressed in life, well that's totally not worth it, even if he only get's depressed when he goes on mylot. Your friend has quality posts which probably means his post is long and he likes to really explain his point of view. Alot of dumb people in mylot start rating people negatively straight away if the person does not agree with there point of view. Tell him or her to ignore it.
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
3 Nov 09
My depressed from mylot ... now he is not happy with this rating I also explain him that is user's rating where are some user make negative response without any reason... he still on 100 post and may be he will continue after some time.... he do yahoo answer most and get many best response so he... depressed from mylot rating.. just. thanks for advice.
1 person likes this
@sid556 (30986)
• United States
3 Nov 09
He shouldn't let the star rating get him down. It goes up and down and often takes a while to build it up. He should just get on here and enjoy himself and not worry about it. Is he fairly new here? Did his rating drop or is he just feeling that it should be higher?
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
3 Nov 09
Yes it correct but he till comparison his performance b/w yahoo and mylot where in yahoo he get many best answer and levels.. so he is stopped mylotting when i got 4 start rating. Sid, Thanks for advice.
1 person likes this
@rsa101 (32160)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
Well he should not be depressed by just looking at the rating system only. If he truly enjoys this site then the rating system, is irrelevant to him and continue on enjoying it by time it will rise if he is really good in writing. To avoid being pulled down in ratings, he should always see to it that he writes positively or even responds not to hurt someone with his writings. I guess from there he can find good friends in here that might give him positive ratings.
1 person likes this
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
3 Nov 09
Yes, it is depressed by rating while he is good performer in yahoo answer and now compare both so.. he stopped mylotting ...
1 person likes this
@jndlponti (2406)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
Is that so??? I guess those rating is base on how other members have rated him. That is base on the quality of the post. Some are also conscious regarding on the spelling of words and the grammars. tell your friend that he just go on with the activities and later his rating will just go up higher. Have fun MyLotting.
1 person likes this
@lindiebiz (1013)
• Canada
3 Nov 09
He should try to improve on his posting. There is no need getting depressed, it would not help him, all he would be taking one step forward and two steps back
@getbrowser (1715)
• China
3 Nov 09
get despaired - It is really unnecessary completely to get despaired
It is really unnecessary completely for your friend to pay much attention to the rating. You see, I have to say that the algorithm of reputation in myLot is fair and it is next to impossible that he has just gotten only 4 star if he doed quality posts all the time. Of course, the Discussion Rating System allows users to rate the usefulness of topics, responses, and comments on myLot and members here should rate discussions, responses, comments, and photos based upon quality and usefulness. If he have worked hard all the time, people here will keep a good relationship with him. If your friends can keep posting high-quality concents here and I believe that he will succeed sooner or later. Good luck!
1 person likes this
@solared (1209)
• United States
3 Nov 09
Hmm who is your friend I'll be sure to send some positive stuff his way.
• United States
4 Nov 09
Tell him not to take anything personal here. Just to relax, and enjoy his time with his real friends.
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
4 Nov 09
You are right but.... he is too crazy for high ranking and rating.. and he get very high level and point is yahoo answer so... his hope is down then he see self rating.... I am also sure when he again start mylot , he can earn enjoy more than money. And I am waiting when he come again on my lot... i send this discussion link to his email so he realize about self decision.
@skysuccess (8880)
• Singapore
3 Nov 09
rucrazy4, In the first place, I feel that your friend should not be oversensitive and forget to enjoy himself/herself here. I am sure that the discussions and friendship here should really matter more than some star ratings. Frankly speaking, these star ratings aren't going to win anyone an Oscar or an Emmy, so just relax and go about your postings. I am sure when the posts gets better, the ratings will just come automatically. However, there should not be any star rating to keep your friend away from speaking for himself and stating his prerogatives. So, I would ask him to turn a blind eye on the stars and blast away! Have a nice day and Happy Mylotting.