Is it possible to be just friends after a break up from a long relationship?

Trying to be "friends" with your ex if ridiculous. It is only going to cause problems for you and your new man. I have never associated with any of my ex-wives. If there isn't enough between the two of you to have continued the loving romantic relationship you had, then in my opinion, there isn't enough for you to be "friends".

Depends. It is possible to break up with someone, and still be friends. However, there are some issues that can hinder that. First, does it bother your future husband? If it does, then you have to choose between being friends with someone who obviously will not be your husband, and someone who could be your husband. Second, will he tempt you? If you are being tempted away from your future husband for someone who will not, then that too is not good. If you are well grounded and there is no temptation, and if your future husband is not hurt by this, than yes. Otherwise, you should make a clean break from the past. You can't be with two different men at the same time, and nothing but pain will be on that path.

I would like to say without question yes, sure, its possible. In all reality the chances of a lasting, meaningful friendship are almost nothing. You may break up and be able to be civil or cordial to each other. To be a friend is a different thing. You must remember you shared intimate feelings, and discussions with this person. The chance of being a real, true friend is low. I dont think they'll be able to make any decisions without a bit of biasness somewhere in the mix. So my final answer is I do believe you can be civil to each other. NO, I dont think a real, true, friendship is possible. However, it's not impossible. Nothing is impossible. Happy MyLotting dl

There is a saying that it a couple of lover depart from each other,they will never be normal friend at all.If they do friend as usual there are only two reasons ,one is that the they had't love each other so much deep ,and the other reason is that one of them maybe had't really give up in heart.So i think may be is really hard to be just friend.In your heart that guy may whatever different from others.

for me it is possible to be just friends after a break up from a long relationship but it would take time. It is posiible when all the pains and bitterness to him is already gone in order to start a friendship again. Forgiveness is a tool for a new friendship.

There's nothing wrong in making friends with your past love, though to others it sounds awkward but its not really that so bad to hear making him or her your best friend. There are really a lot of times that we need someone who will listen to us that knows us and also we know. In which you can tell how you feel and why feel it...Its even more comfortable to get more closer with the past for he or she can be the person you can turn to when you really need somebody to listen to you... BUt of course, he can understand because youve been together and have build bonds in those times, just be practical and dont put so much malice in your mind, the past is just the past and what's important is the present...hehehe!

Yup, it's possible to be friends, but I don't know about being close and best friends. You should be careful because your current boy friend would get jealous, especially you've got a past relationship to him. Just be careful and think whether your actions would benefit your present relationship or would either destroy it.

Yes, it is possible. I am best friends with my ex of 21 years ago.. he even rents a room from me in my house. we went out for about 6 months but lived together for 7 years. Then we went our separate ways and stayed in touch. when he needed a place to stay I let him move in and its been about 6 years that he has been here- we go out to eat to the movies have discussions and arguments.. but it is all platonic and we are best friends.. In fact he really doesn't have many other friends as he is somewhat of a loner. I am sure that each situation is different -but it IS possible!

I think if your ex is your indeed friend, he should not keep in touch with you very oftern. And he knows you love your new boyfriend, he should be aware of it and not to cause dispute to you and your new boyfriend.

I think being friends is better for some people,but do not work with all people as sometimes there are reasons why a person still wants to be in your life.I would never go out with a best friend as girl friend and boy friend as it seems that you never get the same kind of friendship back again.

Yeah why not...well it sometimes depends on the situation cause normally,after a break up ex-lovers tend to be enemies instead of being friends or just a closure for the both but with your case...it's really possible as long as you know that his motive is really clear that he wants you to be his bestfriend cause he might be just making it as an excuse to have you again or to broke your relationship with your man and you should let your man know about him and the thing that your ex wants you to be...

in my case, yes, it is possible to be friends after a break up from a long relationship. after the hurting, the quarrels, the love that turned sour.. i can still be friends with my ex especially when my partner was really sorry for what he did. After all, he was not just a husband but most esecially he was the father of my kids.. for the kids sake...

It is possible to be friends but it does get complicated at times. For me, when faced with a similar situation for me. It seemed that feelings would come and they would go. And being honest with you, I did kinda feel a little guilt at times to be involved with a different woman and then a rush of feelings would fill me for my best friend, whom happened to be a woman that I had known for a long time. Being honest with you, it is kinda like playing with fire in a way in which someone could very well possibly get burned. Be careful though as there are at least three persons whose feelings can easily get hurt.

Hmm... In my own opinion, I don't think it is possible to be friends after a break-up but it varies from people. It is just my opinion. But in your case what I can say is that having a new love and your ex wants to be your best friend, I don't think it would work! Of course your new love will expect that he will be your best friend. Don't you expect the same thing? You need to tell your ex that he needs to let go or else he would be a threat to your new relationship.

No, you can't be friends after a break-up. This is a lie that most women believe. Men and women just don't think alike, and you have to except that fact. to a man, remaining friends means that you're still interested in him, and you might consider coming back. That's what we do. We, those of us who don't date just one woman at a time, keep a woman in the bullpen to be called out later in a pinch. But friendship is out. If you really do care about him as a friend, cut all ties with him and force him to get on with his life. All you're doing right now is causing him to remain in relationship limbo.

I think it depends on what issue both of you have broke up. If the issue is trivial then you can be friend with your ex. But at the same time breaking a relationship for trifle matter is a big mistake. Also if you broke up with your ex on the basis of some serious issue/s or argument then i don't see how both of can be good friends. How can both of talk? I think people are taking relationship just for granted nowadays. that's why they want to be friend with their ex too. Remember once broken that's gone. You can't hang on to two boats.