When do you know its time to end a friendship?
@incredibleDNA (1742)
Philippines
November 3, 2009 8:35am CST
It takes two to make a true friendship, there should be consistent give and take. Sometimes one friend requires more from the other for a while if they are going through a rough patch, but otherwise there should be a lot of back and forth. You met these people in the summer and it is now mid-way through fall, they have had plenty of time to show friendly qualities and take more interest in you, for whatever reason they have not. You have already made an obvious effort, it's time to step back and let them come to you if they want to. Maybe they should just be friendly acquaintances. It may not necessarily be that they are uninterested or don't like you, some people just take other friendly people for granted and are either too selfish or too insecure to give back into a friendship, in which case they don't have much potential to be great friends without a lot of work anyway.
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11 responses
@incredibleDNA (1742)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
thanks for sharing this.. i know that trust is really hard to regain if it's been broken but if you really are forgiving and you really are so much into him/her, than time can find a way to refresh your friendship. :D
@ayshaparveen (125)
• India
4 Nov 09
I guess trust,same wavelength,common interests and thoughts make up a gud friendship...If any one of tis is missin...then its time to move on and just be friendly...
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
I end my friendship to my former friends before because they don't understand me and I don't feel that they are sympathetic with my situation. I felt that they are only using me because they keeping in touch when they need something. They abandoned me completely that's why even it is painful for me I stop communicating with them. I better find someone out there that willing to listen to me and understand me.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
On my own way of friendship i know when to stop or ended that relationship by means of i couldn't feel good with him or her. When i fell am still happy and the relationship goes strong it doesn't create any problem to both parties. But if i feel it was too boring and i feel it's not quite good better to end it up.
@mommyjewel (39)
• United States
3 Nov 09
I have ended friendships when there seems to be more drama in the friendship than is worth it from what we both get out of it. I have had friend's get married and their husband's don't like me or my husband and then the husband starts the drama saying that my friend can not be friend's with me. Life is to short I want friend's that I can share things with and enjoy life.
@incredibleDNA (1742)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
i used to have that dilemma with my college friend.. i didn't want her boyfriend and our relationship as best buds had stopped because of that guy.. though for now, i figured out that i should just be happy for her even she's with that guy.lol we're now still communicating but rarely meet because we're miles apart.
@ronald11 (22)
• Kenya
4 Nov 09
Friendship plays a vital role in building one's social life. it may at times become unproductive and straineous to the individuals who put in much effort to secure a long lasting relation thou the traffic towards them is only one way. when such an occurence takes place and you find yourself on the same situation most of the time, as being the one showing initiative with no positive results of expected attention then this should be your wrap up code to begin ending the friendship.
@euniceeleanor (5967)
• Singapore
4 Nov 09
i got a bestfriend whom i've treated like a sister for 18 years. i can even sacrifice my life for her. she started going out with this guy, who got a problem with being committed a couple of years back. gradually, i see this sweet, nice, selfless girl turns into someone who's calculative, shrewd, bitter and ugly. the new year of 2009 is also the end of our 18 years of friendship. Reason? she lied about being hospitalised on my wedding day, when she's suppose to be my Witness in church. i thank God that i managed to find someone to be my witness at the last minute.
@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
4 Nov 09
I think that when it is time to end the friendship depends on what kind of a friend a person is,if they are a regular friend then they might not care and would not put up the effort to make the friendship work,if they are a good friend they will try to make it work and it is right to end it if after so long it does not work,and a true friend is the one you do not want to get rid of,and you never truly end the friendship because they always come back no matter what,even if you stop being friends,and I have two friends like that who I would not want to get rid of.
@sujuwonder (212)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
its time to end a friendship when trust has been tested so many times and that both parties do not have honesty among them. Friendship for me is loyalty and truth . And so without these two, friendship may not exist anymore. Another thing is the acceptance of each others weaknesses as friends. We may know how much our friends love us by their acceptance of our flaws and sticking to us despite all these. Friends are siblings one never had.
@workingmommy (67)
• Canada
4 Nov 09
I try to get rid of those that don't accept my son for who he is or is always needing me to do for them but when I need help are never around. I don't mind helping and I am pretty understanding but if they mess with my son they mess with me.
