My so-called evil step-mother?

What you were told should not really influence your decision one way or another, do you think? Depending on who told you I guess, but my question is this: Is she asking you to be a FaceBook friend knowing who you are or by accident. I'm sure that if she is seeking you out intentionally you will not have to wait long to start hearing her version of events, but I would be careful of giving her much information. She is, after all, a stranger. I would not pry right away for her version of events, but would wait and see. You have not said what kind of memories you had of her from when you were 9--whether she was mean or good to you then. If you have bad memories of her based on your own knowledge then you certainly do not need to accept her friend request. On the other had, you can always accept her and then delete her later unless that would give her access to personal information that she doesn't need to have about you. Good luck in deciding. Say, maybe she is here on myLot too!

Maybe it was her first step to get close to you. Perhaps she wanted to get along with you. Maybe, you should talk about many things to patch things up. Let bygones be bygones.

The heading is right she is a evil step mother. I wonder how any sane man can stop seeing his biological daughters. Even if the woman had asked your father not to see you, he had not right to do so. Let me put it this way, they are a evil couple, evil father and evil step mother. I am sorry, if my wordings are harsh and are hurting you. I just cannot accept the fact, that any man can stop seeing his children.

You were young then and I'm sure there's another side of the story. But, I don't think it's the right medium to go asking that kind of topic. Perhaps by just knowing her (if she does give an effort to know you) you could confirm or contradict what information they have told you before, instead of slapping that issue on her the first time she contact you. You get what I mean? If I were you, I would accept. There's nothing wrong with accepting. Further, just curious, aside from thinking that she kept your dad from you, has she done something directly to you that made you think she's the evil step-mother?

If it was me, I'd accept it, then see what she has to say to you. I might be that in her old age that she's having a change of heart? I know that you haven't seen your biological father since you were 9, and you blame her for that. But your dad went along with it, so he is also perhaps to blame. That has to hurt a lot, reopening old wounds. If there is a possibility that her (their) feelings have changed and you decline the overture of friendship, then the fault for continued lack of contact is now on your shoulders. Is there any possibility that your mother asked him not to have contact with you? In remarrying she replaced a husband, it isn't unheard on her part to request no contact so that you could bond quicker with your new step dad. Back when they got divorced, father's rights were not as established as they are now. Or, going back to placing the blame on his shoulders, perhaps he though he was doing the right thing by bowing out of the picture. If you've closed the book on your biological father, and you are comfortable with that, then maybe it should stay closed. Since you are asking opinions, my guess is that it's not as closed as you think or had hoped. Nothing can give you back the years that you lost. But perhaps there is hope for the years that remain? And the added bonus, good or bad, of finding out why?

Yes, this is your chance to ask her that. It's been my principle to always do something to anything that bothers me. Whether it will make me more mad or not I would rather find out than wonder about it. Ask her nicely and see what she says. From how you summarized the story up she does seems like an evil step mom but wouldn't it make you feel better to know her side of the story from her own words? I would accept her friend request if I were you but I'd let her talk to me first and then go from there. Take care.

Stepmothers have never portray a good image in the eyes of their stepchildren. Even the fairytale stories write bad about stepmothers and often nicknamed them the 'wicked witch'. Being a stepmother as she is, she rule the roast and influenced your father in deserting you and your sister. If she had send you a friend request, you should allow her in and make known your feelings to her. Let her tell you the side of her stories and maybe that will open up more can of worms. But there is no point of digging into the past as it won't change your present situation or relationship with your father though blood is thicker than water.

why not? nothing will really happen bad if you will, that would be the perfect time to ask her wither or not the thing you've heard is true. beside I really believe in the old song that goes "Nothing is permanent in this world but CHANGE" If ever thing in the past is really true, then we'll never know if she had already regret it and would like to change for good. Give her chance. It's really up to you if you will accept her of not, but just a piece of advice, try to at least forgive. :) happy mylotting, hope your doing well.

Depends on your history of her. Granted, you say none, but hey maybe she is trying to reach out to you now. Then again, maybe she is just trying to cause trouble nad see what you are doing. I'm a cynic about things usually as that is usually what comes my way... but in this case... if you accept her as a friend, you can always delete her as friend if things don't go right. I have a facebook for friends and one for family and don't mix the two.. not that to many even want to be there, but whatever. Depending on how/what you use your facebook for... give it a try and see what happenes. YOu can always delete her and you can always do things like pick and choose who you want to see what. Think of it as a storyline on GH!

I would be wondering why she's trying to be your friend on facebook if she surely knows that she was talked about, was made to be a "mean woman" and isn't your biggest fan. I would be worried though that maybe she needs to get in contact with you. I'd accept the friend request and see what happens from there, if nothing else you can accept it and see if your dad has a facebook and contact me, and kind of not pay any attention to her. Before I asked any questions, I'd wait to see if she contacts you. Sometimes people just add you to have another friend, and that's it.

I would say that it matters on if you would like to have a relationship with your lost family or not. Also if you are willing to hear what their side is. If you aren't ready or will immediately take your mother's side for the fight with out really listening to what they have to say then there is no point. Since she did ask you to be a friend I would believe she is curious and either regretful or wanting to mend the relationship. If you are ready to listen with an open mind then by all means ask and let your healing from a painful life event.

I think you better accept it. This might be the chance you have long been waiting for. You can ask her anything you want without talking to her face to face and that's a very good idea, isn't it? You can have all the answers to your questions.

If it has happened coincidentally, just ignore it. Or if you feel that the request has come deliberately, then talk to your father. Many a times we tend to avoid sad pasts. If you are of this nature, then dont pull the past again in your present days. life is a peculiar place. Many things happen arround us everyday, we cause all of them but we cannot culture much control over them.

I've had evil people of my past sending me friends requests on facebook. I don't accept and set my profile as private so they won't even find me anymore. I think that's a safer thing to do.

Better ignore her request so that you won't get to know what she's up to. You would get a bad hair day everytime you see her activities in facebook if you accept her friend request. Ignore or do not accept that friend request for you have no reason to be friends with her.

You are the one that needs to decide if you want her as a friend on facebook. If you decide to accept her as a friend maybe you can get to know her better. You though do need to ask your father why he stopped seeing you and your sister. He is the once who made the choice to stop seeing you so he is the one who knows the real reason.

For me I would not accept her request because i do not know her reasons for wanting to be friends with me. If she is sorry for what she did to you and your sister, she should meet with you face to face to apologize so that you can see for real if she is really sorry. I would advice you to forgive her but be careful to ensure she has no ulterior motive because i dont trust people who are this wicked and inconsiderate of other peoples feelings and needs. Enjoy my lot

She is so mean why and your father is stupid to obey her. You are your father's own blood and he just stopped seeing you because your evil step mom said it? i cant believe it. if i were you i will ignore her and i will say bad things about her but i know I may sound stupid also just ignore her if you want.

If you are uncomfortable then i suggest you ignore the request. But if you have moved on and is open to communication then by all means accept the request. What's past is past who knows, something good will come up with this development. Cheers!

Well sometimes surprises come along in life, even to those who think every day will be the same. Love is unexpected at times. Is it dangerous sometimes to love? Probably. You have a choice. The choice you are faced with this time is quite a bold set of events and you can see the possibilities clearly. Socially, things may be a little strange. Otherwise, perhaps you are curious. I don't think people are purely evil or all good. So you could expect a strange and exciting time if you start talking with her.