No Toilet, no Bride
By bhanusb
@bhanusb (5709)
India
November 3, 2009 11:53pm CST
Most of the Indian villages there is no sanitary latrine. So women have to go to nearby crop fields or jungle to perform their natural call. For this reason very often the women have to face embarrassing situation before the men.The bitter experience compelled the affected women to rise the demand- 'where no latrine and toilet they will not choose bridegroom from that house for their daughters'. The slogan is like
this: "No Toilet, No Bride". According to Indian Government statistics,in India 67 percent people are deprived from sanitary toilet.
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10 responses
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Nov 09
oh that is so sad. maybe im just dumb but WHY? why does not everyone build some sort of toilet? we had them even outside in the country. i would like more insight into why they dont build a little toilet even outside if there is no plumbing. could you let me know the reason?
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Nov 09
i believe he is not saying for the wedding cerimony. he is saying when the bride goes home to live with the groom. she needs to have a toilet. not have to go behind something or in the woods.
@SACHIN2708 (1634)
• India
17 Nov 09
Dear why you are saying all this things here ,It is not true have you ever been in India in any wedding ? There are all facilities of everythings dear plz India is not like that what you are thinking it is most traditional country
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
4 Nov 09
I can understand why that demand has been made. It would definitely be very embarrassing for ladies not too have any sanitary toilet. No latrine and toilet can really be worrying for a lady, I can only imagine. Hopefully in this way some will be made so that the brides to be will give consent to their groom to be.
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
4 Nov 09
Not putting in a simple "outhouse" is just plain laziness. They do not need to have "indoor plumbing"; but, what they are requiring both the men and women to do is very unsanitary and potentially embarassing. Even the men are being exposed to stinging insects (and, that is a very sensitive and embarassing area to be stung on).
I grew up in the US; but, the area I lived in had little "indoor plumbing" and plenty of "outhouses" - very small buildings with wooden seat with a hole in the center above a latrine (hole in the ground). I never lived in a house with "indoor plumbing" until I was 15 years old; so, I am very familiar with them.
If a man wants to marry, he should be able to support his wife and any future children. That means - food, clothing, shelter, and an outhouse. The women are right!
If space is at a premium and each house does not have room for their own outhouse, the village should get together and put up a communal outhouse.
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
7 Nov 09
You are right; I do live in America. But, that does not mean that I am stupid, ignorant, and unaware of conditions in the rest of the world.
Outhouses do not have to be made out of modern materials that cost money. All an outhouse requires are something to dig the hole, materials to make a seat with a hole in it (and actually they can squat over the hole without a seat; but, the seat makes it easier for the old and infirm to use), and 3 walls with a door/screen for the remaining side with a covering to keep out the elements. If these people plant crops they have the ability to dig the hole. The walls and door can be made out of many different things - handmade mud blocks, woven vines and leaves from the jungle or wood from the jungle. These are the same things they make their houses out of; or, do you really think I am stupid enough to think they do not have any shelters to live in???
"they have no sense of sanitation and healthy living." Modern ideas have been filtering out to even the poorest villages. That is how the women came up with the slogan - "no Toilet, no Bride" in the first place. Modern ideas are reaching rural areas!
"Yes the Indian government should arrange communal outhouse" - if the people wait for the Indian government to do this they will be waiting for a long time. The Indian government has a lot of other priorities that they are working on - clean water, food, employment, and basic education.
Projects like this are best accomplished when the people of the village get together and do it themselves. Then, the people who will actually benefit from it are volunteering their time and the materials; and, they will do a better job of meeting their own needs. They will also maintain it better if they build it themselves. Waiting for the "government" to "fix" things and make everything better is just plain lazy when you are talking about something this simple and basic.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
7 Nov 09
You live in America. You can't imagine the living condition of rural India. India is called an emerging economy. But it's the picture urban India. Rural people of India
are very poor and they have no sense of sanitation and healthy living. Most of the Asian countries are same as India. Yes the Indian government should arrange communal outhouse.
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
20 Nov 09
Surely the educated urbanites who return to their villages can take on the education of those in the villages regarding sanitation as a necessity. Poverty does not prevent the making of facilities, just ignorance through lack of education. This shouldn't be a task of the government when there are plenty of Indians who have the ability to educate the villages in these basic requirements.
Here under the militay juanta around 1970 it was declared that everyone had the basic right to a toilet and money was provided for everyone to build an outhouse. In some parts of India I read that the government is giving away free televisions, maybe those recieving them should insist the money would be better spent in the villages on basic hygiene matters.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
20 Nov 09
Yes it's first the Indian government duty to make sanitation in the villages and educate people about hygiene. If Indian government can give free television to the
villagers why not make toilets. In India there are many rich people. They should come forward in this respect. Thanks thea for your thoughtful response.
@SACHIN2708 (1634)
• India
17 Nov 09
Hey dear what you are talking about this is not true I am not saying about villages but In cities there is absolutely fantastic arrangement In India .and there are less villages now and there are also good facilities now so plz dont say that there is no proper arrangement of latrine in wedding for womens
@MissKatPegasus (155)
• United States
4 Nov 09
I'd change it to "No toilet, not a chance". I remember my parents remodeled the bathroom in my house when I was a kid and we were without a toilet for like 2 days and it was absolute hell to use the little potty thing they had. Could you imagine going in a field? With nothing to wipe with?? Ewww I won't even go in the woods.
@MissKatPegasus (155)
• United States
10 Nov 09
I wouldn't go there because I know I wouldn't get a proper toilet or shower. I'm just prissy like that.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
wow, I don't think I would last a day without a sanitary toilet. I don't think I would ever dare to just hide behind the bushes or something like that. It is about time that they take consideration of female needs.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
4 Nov 09
We are taught that inadiquate sanitary conditions mean very poor health practices, so almost everyone has latrine indoors if not they will have one outdoors in a seperate building called an outhouse. We only go outdoors when camping or hiking where there are no other choices.
@wmraul (2552)
• Bucharest, Romania
4 Nov 09
I just wonder .. the space is so limited on each one's house yard so they can not build a simple toilette ?
Make a hole on the ground, about 1.5 - 2 m deep, aproximately square with a 1 - 1.5 m side; make a foundation of concrete or timber, with a round hole of half meter in the middle; take a toilette pot and install it above the hole; build 3 walls high enough to allow a person stand, a roof and a door as a 4-th wall.
Such a "construction" will be ok to use for years .. Actually, on villages, all people who want to build a house, this the first thing to build ... initially to be used by workers :-P
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
a very good suggestion, a lot of people all over the world consider their bathroom (toilet) as a special place especially women. It's about time that women in your area will make this as a requirement because this will not only benefit them but the environment in general as well. Cheers!
