The conflict between mother in law and son's wife, common in the whole world?

Where do you live? haha. I think it's really common, even on television. Most mom's don't like their son's wives. I think that's because they are too attached to their sons and can't accept the fact that there's another girl in his son's life. I think that's just life. :)

It is a universal phenomenon definitely because it is a human attribute to be possessive. Mothers-in-law have traditionally been domineering types, particularly in conservate Indian society. This culture they imbibed from their predecessors. Hence the tradition continues to this day. With education a lot has changed and both the mother-in-law and the son's wife have become liberal in their outlook and are more receptive to each other. I am a hapless victim of this unfortunate tradition!

Well apart from the mother in law wanting to control her son, some of them feel that thier daughter in law are not good enough for thier sons. Some of them would like to choose thier sons wife for them or if the woman does not live up to the expectation they want for thier son they dislike her. Some mother in laws feel a woman will destroy the relationship between them and thier sons. There are a lot of reasons why mothers dislike thier daughter in laws.

As long as there are mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, there is bound to be some kind of conflict. You can not join two families into one without it. Both women in a head of household position want the same thing. They want to be the one in control, and the one in charge. The husband usually stays out of the disagreements because one is his wife and the other is his mother. He won't win. Many families do find a way to get along amicably once they become in-laws. With others, it just takes more time to cross that bridge.

When it comes to the relationship between mother in law and the daughter in law (son's wife), it is very common that there are some gaps between them. It is really a common situation among all family all over the world. If the mother in law and son's wife live in a family, people have to face the gap between them and it seems that it is really a difficult task to meet an answer. For the gap between the two generations and the difference of education and family backgrouds, they may have some conflicts all the time. Of course, everytime when the conflict happens, both of them suffers from personality conflict and the son has to try his best to act as a mediator and make his mother peace with his wife.

My mother-in-law always wants complete control over my family. She offers me advice on everything from cleaning to cooking. Oh and holiday's have to be done her way or no way. There is a disagreement every year on who's family to visit first. When mine wins out, she gets MAD. I guess it's just something I will have to deal with.

Well, as what I have observed, usually the mother wants to bear the total control over her son if her son grew up dependently with his parents. As the mother always wanted to keep an eye to his son as what she usually do. I think the parents should practice their son to grow up independently so he could live normally without depending on them when he is going to build his own family. And also as a son, a future head of a family, should care to practice himself to be independent so that his parents could trust him, giving his freedom to build his won family without keeping an eye to him. In this way, maybe such case would be lessen.

I guess it has to do with not wanting to lose the control over the son. I think when a mom wants to continue to control and tell a wife how to take care of her son that is a big problem. Once a parent or the mom raise a child it is not for them to continue to control and that is where the problem arising. I have never had that problem thank god. My daughter is married and her mother-in-law and her get alone great. As for my Mom she has always stayed out of her kids business. If asked about anything she will give her opinion but that is it. I know one mother who's son is not apart of her family any longer because I believe it had to do with the controlling that the mom couldn't let go. So now the son has not talked to his mother in years. Its a terrible thing but unfortunately that is the way it is. Its a great thing though when all get along with no controlling issues.

Dear Borhan, I think this problem can be traced back to centuries. In Chinese word, back to its origin... the word 'trouble' consist of a 'house/wall having two woman in it'. This means the person who creates the Chinese character/word of 'trouble' knows exactly what is 'real' trouble is! Two women want to take charge of the kitchen and the household. Two also want to win, how?? I have seen many many cases like this. Most men nowadays choose their wife instead of mother. However, it is much better or different scenario if the wife stays with their own mother instead of husband mother. Do you notice that?

Well, it's sort of a psychology, really. Before the "wife" came into the picture, the first woman in a man's life is supposed to be his mother, right? Her opinion, and only her opinion matters. When a man marries, he also has to take into consideration the feelings and opinions of his wife. With that said, there is a struggle for power and attention from the man. It gets worse when the women do not maintain a civil tone with each other. It could be about power.

Parents are parents, no matter what country or nationality you are in. They may have different techniques in upbringing a child but still they only have one intention in mind. To be able to raise their children so that they may able to learn the lessons in life. The conflict arises between wife and mother-in-law is common too in many countries.

It's simple, a female child is a rival, therefore so in the daughter in law, she has the youth beauty and sexuality that you used to have, but a male child is not, so you fight to keep them tied to you where they can fix shelves and drive you places in your old age!!

it is very common thing. the mother feels unsecured or never want to leave her son whom she loved very much(possessiveness).the daughter in law has the same possessiveness .elder person has the responsibility to tackle this problem my mother in law never interferes in our life though we live in a joint family this is the reason our family is going smooth when elders adjust even younger ones think about it n give way to smooth living.

It is axiomatic that every mother who brought his child up right from offspring to a stage where he is responsible and can work things out on his own. A good mother who never want a lady(son's wife) to gain or to take advantage of her labor, this happens most especially when the mother only bears the cross of a child from the scratch. This also as a lot to do with the son's wife as well... Most wife miss-use little advantage given to them whereby dictating to their husband most especially tell her husband to get rid off his mother( i don't want mother to stay with us, This gift is too much for your mother e.t.c). In conclusion, i think the wife is majorly at fault when it comes to conflict between the mother and son's wife. A Youruba adage says "husband's house is a learning house"

maybe it's beacause mathers don't want to giveup to their role. and wifes...well they are the new woman playing that role... don't you think so?