How will you feel if your boyfriend hit you and what will you do?

@lindiebiz (1013)
Canada
November 5, 2009 11:25pm CST
Hi everyone, Rihanna for the first time spoke about her ordeal in the hands of Chris Brown in February this year. It was really emotional and touching, she even acknowledged the fact that she was acted wrongly bu going back to him. No woman would like this to happen to her but we dont know. It is a lot easier with a boyfriend than a husband However, if I find myself in a situation like this, I will fight back and call for help. It is a crime against humanity. What about you, what would you do?
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15 responses
• United States
7 Nov 09
I would leave him because I know that he will eventually do it again. For men who are abusers, it is very hard for them to change. They have so much emotional anger and frustration built up inside of them, and you never know when it will come out of them. If any woman is hit by her boyfriend, she should leave him. No matter how much she loves him, she should leave him.
@jayzelle (76)
7 Nov 09
if my bf or any man would hit me I will get hurt not only physically but also emotionally. every man has a responsibility to respect every woman. So, if ever this would happen I will leave him than giving him another chance to hurt you again.
@o_utsider (372)
• China
7 Nov 09
If my boyfriend hit me,I will broke up with him,and never go back to him. But I believe my boyfriend will never beat me ,haha~
@bucketkid (239)
• Australia
7 Nov 09
i dont know, ive never been put in that situation. it depends on how i feel for him and the specific situation. most likely, id leave him and wouldnt see him. the thing that worries me is that my brother and dad have strong feelings towards violence against women and they are very protective of me. god help any man that hits me.
@Theresaaiza (10539)
• Australia
7 Nov 09
I guess when a man starts striking or hitting or hitting a woman, it is most likely to happen again and again until it becomes a vicious habit. A lot of women actually struggle in those situations and even end up thinking or feeling that it is their own fault why they are being battered. That is why a lot women cannot go out of the relationship. As for me, at the first attempt or deed, I think I should act on it fast. Everytime a man hits a woman is always possibly fatal so why wait for a second episode? People who are guilty of battery have psychological issues and must undergo some sort of therapy, or anger management sessions.
@artistry (4153)
• United States
7 Nov 09
...Hi lindiebiz, If I had a boyfriend and he hit me, he would not be my boyfriend any more. That is first hand abuse, and if a man hits you, and you go through this dance of , "oh I'm sorry, I won't do t again", it always happens again. You will start to lose your self esteem, then you begin to feel that maybe you deserve it and the craziness escalates. Not a good thing, not a good relationship. Leave them if they hit you. Only exception would be if he sought counseling, and it never happened again, but most of the time they don't think there is anything wrong, you just made them so angry they had to hit you, yeah. Bye birdie, my good man. Oh, I would not fight back, as someone could get killed. People do crazy things when they are angry. I would walk away. Take care.
@carmelbg (521)
6 Nov 09
I would like to think that I would leave as soon as my partner struck me. I understand how difficult how it can be to leave a relationship especially if there are children involved. I know women can often feel trapped and even scared thar their partner will find them if they leave and hurt them even more than they have before. My instinct would tell me to leave but I know love can make you feel like your partner doesn't mean it or believe them when they say they won't do it again. I am not sure I would fight back as this would probably cause more pain for me in the end, I think I would move out at the first oppotunitu.
@Keola12 (717)
• United States
6 Nov 09
If I had a boyfriend who hit me, I'd put him in jail and have him locked up for a very long time, so he couldn't do the same thing again to me or to anyone else. No man has the right to hit a woman. Any man who does this is nothing but a pathetic loser and a coward.
• India
6 Nov 09
If my boyfriend physically abuses me, i will break up with him. But i wouldn't be sure if that would be my immediate response if i were married. I believe in the institution of marriage and it would shatter me to break it like that. But i guess if it won't stop, i would leave.
• India
6 Nov 09
If a guy -- husband or boyfriend, hits you, you may be sure that he will do it again. If it happened to me, I would call in the cops and definitely call it a day. In India most women are conditioned to believe that it's all right for a husband to hit them once in a while. Even if they suffer, they cannot leave the guy because they are not financially independent.The cops take such things lightly, calling it a "family matter". They don't want to interfere. My advice will be to make sure you are financially independent. This way, you can leave. And don;t ever think that the guy will change even when he swears he will. It's you who must change.
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
I would definitely feel bad about this. Even if I'm the one who did something wrong, it is still not fair to get hurt physically by my boyfriend. I would definitely fight back and call for help. Anybody doesn't deserve that. And if my boyfriend really loves me, then he wouldn't do something that would hurt his girlfriend, may it be physically, verbally or emotionally.
@agv0419 (3027)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
I watched her interview she said because of she love Chris Brown so much that time even if he hits her she tolerates it and she was blinded by love. If that were going to happen to me I'm going to sue him and call a police. Women should not tolerate this violence and we need to practice our rights.
@yan_blue8 (1438)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Hi Lindiebiz! Its so sad to hear Rihanna's story. But i salute her for her courage! I agree with you. I will call for help but definitely will not try to fight back. Men are more stronger than us so we really don't know what else could happen if we try to do that.
@rmuxagirl (7559)
• United States
6 Nov 09
If my man ever hit me in anyway playful or not I would break up with him and not return. I would of course fight back and once i get away call the cops. There is no reason for a man to hit a woman or even a woman to hit a man. I dont condone hitting in either gender.
• United States
6 Nov 09
My first marriage was abusive. Before we said our vows, he was wonderful. He literally changed into a different person on our honeymoon. Gone was the love of my life. In his place was this stranger. I stayed with him for five years. I finally got the nerve to leave him when our daughter (we had a son and a daughter) started acting scared of him. She was four. Our son was only seven months old, and was too young to know that anything was wrong. Thinking back on it, though, he would cry every time D would pick him up. I stayed with him because I was young and scared. I didn't know how to stand up for myself. Well, I did, but only when it came to other people. When it came to my husband, I would take whatever I got. When I finally got up the nerve to leave him, I swore to myself that I would never go through that again. I refuse to let either of my daughters see me as weak. I refuse to let either of my two sons grow up thinking that it is ok to hit a woman. I have learned how to protect myself, and I have taught my oldest daughter who is now 12, how to do the same. But the best thing to do is to not get into the situation where you have to defend yourself. There are always warning signs. Sometimes, you just can't fight back. And if you do, it can make the situation a whole lot worse. And calling out for help doesn't always work. My neighbors would always turn a blind eye. They never saw or heard anything that was going on. I can't even begin to count how many times I called out for help. There was never any. But now I know what to look for. A bad temper is the first thing. If I am dating a guy and he loses it over nothing, or he gets a little too angry for what the situation calls for, that is it for me. I'm not afraid to swallow my pride and run away.