How I should react to this situation?
@chaitra001 (3278)
Bangalore, India
November 6, 2009 3:11am CST
Hi friends.. I am in a very bad situation right now.. I want this to share with you friends and get your thoughts and proceed further.. I am in dilema.. please share your opinions help me..
here goes my current situation..
In my current job.. I was working with my Senior from past 1.5 years.. Since now I am bit capable of working myself my company is assigning work for me directly.. so my senior should be out of the scene now.. but here comes the real problem.. Since he doesnt want to let go the control over me he is interfering with my part of work.. If I dont update him anything then he is not talking to me.. I dont know how to react.. sometimes I may need his help in future.. but if I let him interfer then I may not handle work independently in his absence.. and also I cant get good image in company because management thinks I still need someones help inspite of working for 2 years.. So please friends solve this situation for me..
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14 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 09
Hi Chaitra!
It appears a difficult situation to me. I think you will have to be bit diplomatic with him. On the one hand, you may allow him to interfere and on the other hand, if feasible, you may not act upon his suggestions, you execute the work, as per your own wisdom and experience and do not let him know that you acted as per your own wisdom. You should not offend him or sour the relations with him, as you said, his help may be needed in future. Gradually, you should see to it whether it is possible to talk to his boss/superior or the Management to apprise them that you need an independent hand and you be allow that. Best of Luck!
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
10 Nov 09
I can understand, just be patient and polite with him and don't lose your temper. You will have to find a way, which could work, without offending him.
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@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
9 Nov 09
Hi Deepak.. thanks for the suggestions.. you are right.. but some times it will be very difficult for me to execute work according to my way because he will come and sit next to me and ask me to work as he said.. If I refuse he will take my place and he will start working in his way which makes me not working in others eyes.. and he is so elder to me so I cant be more diplomatic to him..
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
6 Nov 09
Hi Chaitra,
I am sorry to learn that you are facing a problem in your office. I know it is difficult to handle because we need the cooperation from our colleagues irrespective of their status (senior or junior) for a peaceful environment in our office. I know your nature; you don’t want to hurt your senior at the same time you want to prove your professional skill too. I think it is better to talk your boss directly, if she/he can understand you well then your problem will be solved. You can request your boss to provide independent works to you, so that you can prove your professional skill.
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@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
6 Nov 09
Hi Sreekala.. you are right working environment must be peaceful to do efficient work.. yes my boss wants me to work independently so he is assigning me jobs directly.. but my senior doesnt want to loose his power and credits from my hardwork.. so he is acting like this.. inspite he was a good friend to me before.. dont know how people change on time..
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@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
6 Nov 09
Hi chaitra. I understand your problem. I have seen this happen many times. My suggestion would be to approach the company manager (the one who assigned the work to you) and ask for clarification of your duties. Tell him you are not clear as to your position and that of your senior and you don't want to do the wrong thing. Ask him plainly just what your position is. He should appreciate your honesty and desire to do the right thing.
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@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
6 Nov 09
Hi friend.. I think this is good.. Let me see for few more days and approach my boss.. and get a clarification..
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@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
6 Nov 09
Letran Knight, I agree this is what is needed, but Chaitra has no control over what HE does. If she goes to the one who gave her the assignments, he can clarify the situation and remedy it.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
can the guy just let her go and let her be independent so that some day she can help others as well instead of holding her back. i know it can be a bit insecure but if she made a mistake then it's her decision not his, risk if part of being independent in the company
@SouravRC (247)
• India
6 Nov 09
Many people here have given you lots of advices, for your help; but believe me there's no way out. It's a catch 20 situation. You cannot runaway from it or change it. At best you can try to sort it out with your senior by some talking but believe me again that'll not help you in a long term. Because your senior will be doing the same thing after few days. You have to face the situation. Or leave the job and get new one. But things would be different from now... well, there's no guarantee.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
6 Nov 09
Hi you are right.. but I dont want to change my job because this company is good and I have got into a good project.. timings of the company and the traveling distance everything is just fine for me.. and also now a days no much opening s outside if I change also risk of loosing new job is very high at this time..
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@lyte_face01 (64)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
I'm sure many of the members here can give you tips on how to work out that problem. As for me, since its like you are torn between your senior and the one who directly assigns you with the tasks, if I may suggest, you may provide your senior with the list of those tasks and their status just for his/her information, not necessarily depending on his directions on how to do it, since instructions were already given to you. Because normally, your senior should know your activities. He still deserves to be part of the loop. Hope this helps.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
6 Nov 09
Hi friend welcome to mylot.. I can explain him the assignment I got for the day.. but the thing is he will compell me to follow up his ways and he will run and update boss..
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@lyte_face01 (64)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
That's really hard! And it takes a lot of COURAGE for you to have it talked about of how you feel with the situation with your senior and the company. In as much as you want to be efficient worker, you don't want to mess up with anyone.
@Lupin3d (225)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Hi Chaitra, I would suggest for you to just go along with him for the time being. I would be unacceptable for you to go against your senior at this point, however, as I am sure you are able to communicate with your big boss, you can inform the big boss your work done and the things that you have contributed to the company.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
6 Nov 09
Hi Lupin3d.. I can do that but if my senior informs the boss before me then its a waste of informing boss from my side.. boss will think senior had done most of the work and I just did small things that to with his help..
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@Lupin3d (225)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Hi Chaitra, let him. In any case, the person who pretends will always be caught when the time comes he is tested. For the mean time, tolerate as much "Crap" (Sorry for the word) you can get from your senior.
Believe me when I say you will get you chance soon but you have to make sure you make it look like you do not know what your senior is doing.
@Lupin3d (225)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Oh. BTW, please make it look like you do not have something against your senior. Example: "Boss, we are currently working on improving our agents performance and have been able to increase their resolution rate by 5% for the week. What I did was..."
No need for you to tell your boss, "I am the one who did that".
@samson1967 (7414)
• India
6 Nov 09
The seniors will always fee unsecure, when somebody can handle the job independantly, to thwart the seniors interfearance, ensure to give a daily report at the end of the day, and make it clear that you cannot perform to the full extent, when there is a interfearance. All the best.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
6 Nov 09
Hi samson.. I am mailing him the report end of the day but he interfers in middle.. If I solve anything he will go and update boss.. so in the boss's eye he will be the issue solver and boss thinks I am not working properly even a very small work.. this effects my future hikes and promotions..
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@paleorainy (630)
• Italy
6 Nov 09
Then go talk to boss and say exactly what you have said here. I think this situation shouldn't be dealt at your level nor at your Senir's level, but the boss should.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
hello, i believe some one doesn't want you to rise from the trenches and instead tries to get credit from all of your work. that's not what a senior should and i consider that an abuse of power. it's either you file a complaint to the boss of what you're senior is upto or record both of your works and his updates so that you can have evidence to show that you don't need his help anymore
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
6 Nov 09
Hi friend.. this seems to be a good idea.. I will try this out..thanks for your suggestion..
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@lindiebiz (1006)
• Canada
7 Nov 09
What you should do is talk to your senior and tell him that you would like to grow and be able to handle jobs by yourself. let him try to understand your position and how you feel. Let him know that you would appreciate it if he would let you grow in your job. If he does not change his behaviour, then you have to take sterner measures by report to higher authorities. Wish you the best
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
9 Nov 09
Hi friend.. thanks for your suggestions and wishes..
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@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
14 Nov 09
Hi chaitra
This is a very sensitive situation. You neither take your own decision to do your assignments independently nor listen to your senior for everything and dance according to his tunes. It is better to talk with your boss and request him to do some thing for this issue.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
16 Nov 09
Hi vathsala.. Thanks for the suggestions.. I will try to handle it as you said..
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@artistry (4152)
• United States
7 Nov 09
...Hi chaitra001, I think if I were in your situation, I would have a little talk personally with your senior, in a very respectful way, and tell him that you feel that you are now capable of doing your work assignment on your own. That if you run into any trouble, you will contact him immediately for advice. Hopefully he will leave you be. If he does, then shortly after that just to stroke his ego, I would ask his advice even if you don't need it. If he doesn't leave you alone to go your own, I would discuss it with the person who is in charge of the two of you, for a resolution to the situation. If you are not allowed to work independently, you will never gain enough confidence to do the job on your own, and that is self-defeating. Take care and good luck.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
9 Nov 09
Hi artistry.. thanks for the suggestions.. you are right to gain enough confidence I need to work on independently.. so that I can survive If I change my company some day..
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@dsnachiever (250)
• India
6 Nov 09
It's a common problem which comes in corporate life. Do not think much about your senior because the problem is with him not with you. Do not allow him to interfere in your work but do talk to him offline. Offline means like people do general talk in the office. You behave with him like a colleague and concentrate on your work. He wants you to get tense with his behavior and commit mistakes in your work. So don't allow him to rule your metal situation. Keep it cool!
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
6 Nov 09
Hi friend.. If I dont mind him much then he will not speak to me at all..he was a good friend to me.. only thing he is having is professional jealous upon me..
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@Joseph_Ryuki (90)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
yes, I do understand how you feel because it's your job on the line and I would suggest that you talk with your Senior heart to heart so that he/she may voice out some likes or dislikes to you and you can likewise do the same by telling your Senior about the way you feel it would be nice for you because at least you are sending a message that at work there must be a distance between personal decision-making and your relationship with a co-worker/employee,another suggestion I would make is that why not go to your other superiors in the company to inform of your situation so that in the near future you wouldn't be intimidated by other people like your senior, I hope you will take notice of my suggestions and may these help you a lot in your decision-making.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
9 Nov 09
Hi joseph_Ryuki.. yes sure I will consider your suggestions before taking any decision.. thanks for suggestions..
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@starfish29 (35)
• India
6 Nov 09
Chaitra, just talk to your senior. You say you are friends with him then you should be able to. If he doesnt co-operate, take the matter to you boss. Don't make it seem like a complaint. Just discuss it with him.
Hope things go better!
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
9 Nov 09
Hi starfish.. I think this seems good.. let me try it out..
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