Why not keep quiet in public?

China
November 8, 2009 2:00am CST
I hate people talking loudly in public.I mean who would ever care about your personal stuff.I feel kind of embarrassed when Im with those who love to talk loudly in the street,on the hotel hallway,or on the train,etc.Its impolite to talk loudly in public,its not only about your personal privacy,more importantly,people around may feel uneasy,they might be disturbed,or get annoyed.So,we'd better not talk in public or remember to keep your voice down.Its for your own good.What do you think?
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29 responses
@SViswan (12065)
• India
24 Jan 10
I hate it too...and I'm always 'shushing' my kids about not being a bother to others in public. I hate having to listen to the personal lives of others (people yell on their cell phones about personal stuff) and I don't like people knowing about what I have to say either. I usually avoid using my cell phone for personal chat when I am outside. I tell my friends that I'm not home and I'll call them back...unless it's something urgent about work that they need to clarify. I try to keep it as short as possible then. When I'm out with the kids, they do tend to get a little excited sometimes especially when they are with their friends. My older son is able to maintain his voice when he is reminded...but the younger one can be really bad when he throws his tantrum. I get really embarassed then and try to get away as soon as possible so that I'm not disturbing others - even if it means my shopping is undone.
• United States
17 Nov 09
I agree with you. I'm annoyed with people that talk loudly in public (they seem to be wanting attention) and I also feel embarrassed when I'm with someone talking loudly. I'm just not the kind of person who likes to call attention to myself, I guess.
• Indonesia
12 Nov 09
I also hate talking loud but just see the condition of our sorroundings whethet they need to speak loudly to be heard the otherc person
• Southend-On-Sea, England
10 Nov 09
I hate people who talk & laugh too loudly too, as the noise really goes right through my head and is very uncomfortable. I find it uncaring and insensitive of people not to moderate their noise levels in public places....bad-mannered, too.
@andy77e (5161)
• United States
10 Nov 09
Depends on what they are talking about. If they are talking about something 'adult' I might tell them directly, I don't want to hear about this. But if it's something stupid or gossip, I'll just ignore it and move on.
• China
10 Nov 09
HI,sweetyethot I agree with you.I also don't like talking loudly in public.Talking loudly is bad manners.it can affect other people around.
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
10 Nov 09
I know what you mean. I really don't care to know other peoples personal business. I try to block it out when I hear someone talking about something obviously very personal in public or move out of hearing range from the person or people. Sometimes that is impossible. It's more their problem than mine. I just ignore them. I usually have no clue to what they are talking about anyway. Some people are just loud by nature.
@rusty2rusty (6758)
• Defiance, Ohio
10 Nov 09
Not all people who talk loud, do so to be annoying. Some people may have a hearing problem. I am a person that has a hearing problem. So, I tend to talk loud. At times I do not realize how loud I am til someone else points it out. That happens when I was born deaf but have half my hearing after surgery.
• United States
9 Nov 09
I soooo agree with you. It is extrememly annoying to be around "look at me, look at me" kind of people. Manners don't seem to matter as much any more. I don't advocate that "children should be seen and not heard," but I do believe they need to be taught the value of quiet conversation. We have been embarrassed so many times by people with a lack of concern for the welfare of those around them ---- from children to the very elderly. Peace, in this hectic world we live in, is a precious commodity and I would love to see more people "using their library voice" in public places.
@epicure35 (2822)
• United States
9 Nov 09
What galls me even more is the self-important people who MUST speak every detail of their lives into their cell phones/blue tooth/whatever. It is loud and disconcerting. At first, it looks like someone is talking to themselves, and that's weird enough. But it is positively disturbing to have someone broadcast the minutia of their lives publicly. It's one thing if there's an emergency and the phone is a great way of dealing with that, but even that should be done privately. You are right; it's rude to be so loud in public that you are so focused on yourself that you forget that there are other people in the universe. It's actually "noise pollution". Take it down a notch, so as not to include strangers in your conversation, learning private details that you'd rather they didn't know if you even thought about it.
@indybaty (373)
• Panama
9 Nov 09
Hi sweetyethot, by the way, I LOVE POCOYO! Gosh I dressed up my kid like that for a while! Anyway, here is my opinion. When people speak loudly in public you never know what it is for. It is very annoying and disturbing either way when people speak in a high tone of voice. Ive encountered people like that, and Im not talking about the hearing impaired or anything like that because they cant help it, or the ones that have speech impediment or touret syndrome (sp?), since again, they cant help it, Im talking about the ones that are annoyingly loud just because they feel the own the place. Now, unless your someone giving a public speech, other people really dont have to hear your private situation or whatever. I remember this one time, a couple began to argue in public, it began really low at first, but then ended up being loud with bad consequences. Now, I was so concentrated speaking with my husband at the time about something concerning our son, that I wasnt really paying attention that much of what was happening around me. I just noticed how upset they were before but payed no attention to it. Suddenly, I felt a scratch in my arm and the woman from the couple arguing was grabbing me. My husband threw the woman down the floor (thinking it was a crook or something) while the other guy was arriving with a very angry face. He was going to punch my husband but luckily there was an officer close by who saw everything. The couple were arguing because of how they were going to spend the weekend and it escalated into something else. The woman scratched me really skin deep, I needed a shot and a little bit of medical care, my husband and the officer just scolded them on how inmature they were and how they allowed the argument to go as far. Now a days if someone speaks loudly, I think about that incident. My husband I just go away.
@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
9 Nov 09
I tend to agree with you on this one. It really bothers me when someone HAS to for some reason, TALK on the bus as soon as they get seated, and in the loudest voice possible. I really don't give a darn about their personal issues, and don't necessarily feel, that I NEED to listen into their conversation. Some have them up so loud, I can even hear the person on the other end... and THEY'RE just as loud! Personally, I think they do this for attention, as in... "See what I've got? Mine's the new Funky-Fone. Aren't you impressed?" "Mmm-hmm. That's nice. Now keep it down, will ya? I'm trying to think, and that's hard enough as it is!" cdrxo
• India
9 Nov 09
I too dislike talking loudly in public, its so distracting but most people nowadays seem least bothered about the other fellow on the street. You see the way people talk on their mobiles while on the move…you can hear each and every word they say and they are oblivious to the stares of others. It’s a negative culture that has caught on everywhere and manners I think are more of a Victorian concept with today’s people. They are so engrossed in themselves that they wont even bother if there’s an empty seat next to them and you are requesting them to move on a little…they are busy talking either amongst themselves or on their mobiles, loud enough for the entire world to listed to. Washing linen (dirty or otherwise) seems more to be the norm than the exception. Actually I feel people around me are becoming more and more coarse by the day…small gestures of etiquette and gentle manners are actually dismissed off and laughed at!
• China
9 Nov 09
People shouldn't speak loudly not only in public places but also in common places,like dormitory.speaking loudly and making noise convey the information that one ignores the existance of others.no matter it's deliberately or unintentionally,it's very annoying and impolite.peope take keeping some distance between each other as a kind of etiquette,and keeping a gentle voice is another kind of "distance between each other".
@AndieBee (27)
• United States
9 Nov 09
There is a time and place for everything. For instance, you don't expect the same modicum of decorum in a baseball stadium (or waiting to get into the stadium) as you would expect when you are having dinner in a nice restaurant (or waiting for your table there). It's absolutely ridiculous to expect people not to talk at all in public though. The business of daily life requires communication. However, I do feel it's inappropriate to be excessively loud or discuss very personal matters in public for the most part. It's also quite disrespectful of people to boisterously conduct themselves in cramped quarters, or in hotel hallways, or during most people's normal sleeping hours, or in churches...you get the idea. Also one of my biggest pet peeves is people who conduct long drawn out cell phone conversations in public. Those of us who have these devices rely upon the convenience of being reached at all times. But it's common courtesy to excuse oneself to a more secluded area if the conversation is going to be long. Better still to excuse oneself entirely from the conversation and return the call when in a more private setting.
• China
9 Nov 09
You are totally right.... i really hate others talk loudly in public, even involves talking grumbles... really dislike hearing their words, but i can't keep away from the noise..
@thezone (9447)
• Ireland
9 Nov 09
I do agree it can be annoying when some are loud in public but in some cases you have to be loud, it might just save your life one day
@LisaGuo (242)
• China
9 Nov 09
You're knocking my heart.I do hate these guys who speak loud in public places.I do feel the same with you.I'll feel bad when I'm with the people speaking loudly in public.It's not in your room,care about the others please.
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
I have already encountered people like that. I remember while inside the bus, a group of teenagers were really talking out loud as if they own the whole bus. At that same time, I was having a terrible headache. For some reason, I managed to tell them point blank to keep quiet. Unfortunately, they did not respond to it and still continued to talk loudly as they could.
• India
9 Nov 09
Yes! I also agree with you.It is not good manners to talk loudly, shout openly in the street or any other public places. It is quite natural when two persons meet,perhaps after a long time, they start tailking to each other in a louder tone disturbing/distracting others attention.They can avoid this by going to quite place and talk over whatever the matter with them.Thanks!Happy mylotting pls.