Do You Cook For Love or For Duty?

Philippines
November 8, 2009 11:11am CST
I love to cook. I even find pleasure in whipping up something out of my own original recipe. I always believe that food is a way not just to a man's heart but to everybody's heart.There's nothing more flattering when I see that the person eating the food I served has been satiated to his/her heart's content.It is because I cooked not because I need to. I cooked because It is my way of showing my loved ones that they are special to me and that they are my inspiration while cooking.If it is out of duty, the food taste differently, it tastes like some ingredients are lacking. I wonder how you prepare your food. :-)
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@rg0205 (2638)
• Hong Kong
8 Nov 09
I cook for love. I don't get to cook much because I'm always busy but when I get the chance to, I do it for love because my loved ones always appreciate my cooking and it's something that I can do for them.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
You deserve to be given an appreciation,RG. Because despite of a busy life you still find time to cook for your loved ones once in awhile. Cooking isn't a joke,after all.:-)
@rg0205 (2638)
• Hong Kong
8 Nov 09
Thanks. I try. They do the same for me. I'm just returning the favor :-)
• United States
8 Nov 09
When my husband and I first got together he told me he wants a wife that cooks. I could only make mac & cheese at this point. So I did what any good wife would do and learned how to make any and everything. I love cooking now especially experimenting with different flavors and meats. My husband said that he wants at least 3 home cooked dinners a week and breakfast and lunch on command. No problem. Done. True when it was put that way it did feel like a duty but I loved him so I didn't mind so much even though I worked 40+hours a week and he only worked part-time. Now here is the kicker....I found out my husband was cheating on me November of last year. All rules tossed out the window now. It is no longer my duty to cook. I cook for my own enjoyment now and so that my 1 year old daughter can taste new treats. Am I wrong for not cooking now? I don't think so. However I am glad I learned how to cook ;)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
Hello, Yoninah. We did our best and gave our best but sometimes there are people who want more despite of the fact that they have everything from us. I love to cook, too, not because it is my obligation but because I love to do things for my family, but, yup, when my partner started to give me a bad headache I'm no longer inspired to cook for him but only for our daughter. I feel like he doesn't deserve that kind of special treatment from me anymore. If ever I'm cooking, it is always my daughter want that is my priority. If my husband doesn't want to eat what I've cooked, then, it is all up to him. I don't mind as long as my daughter is satisfied with it. :-) Cheers!;-)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Same here! I love to cook and experiment new recipes. I also love to watch cooking shows so I might get a new idea for another recipe. I wish I could learn more things and gain more skills in cooking so my family and friends can smile more on my cooking! I love to make Japanese and Italian dish. I love to garnish foods and I hope to learn more about food presentation. :)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Oh, good to know that, Bubblepink. I love Italian dishes, too and I often glued my eyes on At Home with Jamie.You bet, there are alt of good cooking shows that will enhance your artistry in cooking and presenting your dishes. Happy cooking and bon appetit, as well.:-)
@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
30 Nov 09
I love to cook, and I like cooking different things too. Trying a new recipe and making my own additions to it is always lots of fun!
11 Nov 09
I totally agree with your statement -food is a way not just to a man's heart but to everybody's heart .Cooking for people who relish food gives us absolute satisfaction as well as enthusiasm to take more pains to cook wonderfully.It is true that when we cook daily we get exhausted and wish that someone could serve us while e relax.But when our children come we unknowingly get the initiative to cook them what they love to eat.So the people who eat also initiate us to cook delicacies .We love to cook tongue tingling,mouth watering and lip smacking delicacies.
@2babita (1074)
• India
10 Nov 09
I go for both,i have to cook bucz i am the mother of the house.And yes i love to cook.Especially for my beloved children and husband.
• India
10 Nov 09
I love to cook.I always wants to give my family good,tasty and healthy dishes. I ever miss the cooking programs in TV.Always i will be watching the programs. I also try new receipes everytime. I never make bore on food.Some varities i will be giving everytime. I love to cook chinese dishes.
@epicure35 (2822)
• United States
9 Nov 09
I love to cook because I love to eat; therefore, I love to cook. It's cyclical for me. It is also a gift I have and my only real creative outlet right now. It is a blessing and a curse in the area of weight gain and portion control, as I always make too much. I, too, believe cooking food is a gift of love as well as nourishment. I am a food voyeur and I love to watch people's food choices and watch them eat. It's great to know that, in this crazy world, there is one thing I do that can make someone happy in even a small way. It is true that food is love as well as sustenance and breaking bread is a form of fellowship and enjoyment.
• United States
9 Nov 09
I love to cook too but sometimes I feel I need a break from it.It is hard for me my husband is from Mexico and he likes alot of thingds that are hard for me to cook even though I try to learn it is not that easy but i am still trying.I try to make my husband happy with the things I cook.Just hope he likes it:)
@smileonstar (4012)
• United States
9 Nov 09
Hello, I do both... I have children and I have to cook for them cuz it is my duty to feed them. And another one, I cook cuz I love to eat my own food and my husband also... I feel good if someone eat all my food :)
@jayzelle (76)
9 Nov 09
I love to cook and experiment new recipes. I usually cook for my loved ones because if you cook with love it is more delicious and it taste better than you do cooking because it is only your responsibilty to do it.
@hym123 (14)
• China
9 Nov 09
I also like to cook at home,basically i was the head chef in my home.We will invite friends to dinner at home every two weeks,they liked me cook,see the fruits of my labors by others nice to accept,it is also a fun.
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
When I was a kid and the only girl in a brood of four and the youngest, I felt that the household chores were all my responsibility because I was the girl. My brothers also felt the same way and up to this day they expect me to cook. Not that I hate cooking, but when it becomes a chore, it loses its charm of being able to cook good food. I cook when I feel like cooking, but don't expect me to cook on family reunions or parties. I would volunteer to bring cake and ice cream instead.
@Hazelrose (2182)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
Well...for me both,because as a wife and mom to my kids it is my obligations to cook foods for my family,and i make sure that i cook my recipe with all my love.I love cooking, and it is one of my hobby.Good day!
@bluray (408)
• Singapore
9 Nov 09
i love cooking and I keep on trying the new recipes.but sometimes due to hectic work schedule or some fatigue i simply do it as a duty.we sometimes make it shortcut by having fruits or noodles .or may be order meal from outside.
• Boston, Massachusetts
9 Nov 09
Cooking is a hobby for me. I love cooking especially if i am preparing it for my loved ones. Same with you i used to experiment on food and thanks god i was given a talent to make new dish out of left overs and new dishes from whatever ingredients are available. It's so satisfying and inspiring seeing your family enjoying the food that you prepare. It gives youso much energy to cook more for them!
• India
9 Nov 09
Dear eurekafemme, I too love to cook and experiment with recipes. I've also developed a couple of my own :) It is a true art and one can keep learning for a lifetime. Rabindranath Tagore, the nobel laureate poet from India has said "Remember that the seat of the greatest desire is in your palate". So everybody enjoys good food. I think enyone can learn to put together something to eat but until you love to cook you can't cook tasty dishes. I enjoy cooking. It gives immense pleasure to see the smile of appreciation, the expression of satisfaction, the overall happiness when my beloved ones enjoy food prepared by me :)
• Singapore
9 Nov 09
i like to cook, but it's just that i dont know how to. the reason may be because i'm not require to cook, since i was small. Since being married, hubby may asked me to cook the occasional meal here and there. i will say that i cook for duty, and then out of love. i will try to make all meals special for him. So far, i've not heard of any complain about my food, and he finished it all even. ;)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
I cook for love, because I love myself I want to eat delicious food especially that I cooked and also I cook for my friends as well so I enjoy that very much and the food becomes more delicious because love is the main ingredient for that.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
It's not at all different when you cook for love and when you cook for duty. One cooks for duty when he/she is a hired cook. You no longer see anything special about it because you're there to feed people. It's somewhat a routine, but still when someone compliments you with the meal you've just prepared - it's a great feeling. It doesn't mean either, that when you cook for duty, you're not doing it for love. One good example are those people who cook for charity. I doubt they just cooked it to feed. They cooked too because they want to help - which corresponds to their love transcending in their cooking. On the other hand, it doesn't mean that when you're cooking for the people you love, you're also cooking out of love. There are many instances when you don't get up early in the morning because of love for your family, but you have to get up to cook else they'd be late - it's a duty on your side. You don't cook passionately at those hours when you'd rather do something else, and believe me when you have to get up when you don't want to it's far from cooking for love because your fuse would be too short with any imperfections on your cooking. So, regardless why or how you cook. It depends really in your heart if you're doing it out of duty or out of love. I can cook out of duty and out of love depending on the situation. But right now, since I'm not obligated to cook at all, it's more of 'out of love' because I cook because I want to let them try my cooking instead of me obligated to cook. It's because we have a cook.