Men

United States
November 9, 2009 9:43am CST
Do you ever like try to get your husband or boyfriends attention and he just totally ignores you o.k. I dressed up relly nice and fixed ny hair this weekend and H=he did not say a thing.This hurt my feelings.Should I just ignore this?Has this happened to you and what do you do about this?
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5 responses
9 Nov 09
Did he ask you to dressup or fix your hair? Do you congratulate him when he cleans his teeth or combs his hair. You chose to get dressed up, you did it for yourself, not him. You'll probably tell yourself that you did it for him, but you know that isn't true. He gets absolutely nothing out of you fixing your hair, it benefits him in no way and you should understand that if you are going to do something for someone else, they should gain not you. Make him a big mug of coffee, he gains a drink and the action will elicit a favourable response from him. Men don't come home, say "darling, I lost $500 betting on horses today, it was great fun for me, but I don't do this every day," and expect you to be grateful or to complement him on having had a nice day.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
10 Nov 09
Ah Men! Your problems sound quite common! Men don’t think like we do, hence the Venus versus Mars thing. If they feel there is no need to comment they won’t and I don’t think it is to intentionally hurt our feelings. If a man is watching something he is interested in on TV forget about getting his attention; the same goes if is focusing on something he is doing; men don’t multi skill so they only do one thing at a time well. If you dress up and want a compliment from him you have to clearly ask for it or chances are you may not ever get one!
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
10 Nov 09
Sometimes, or perhaps most of the times, guys tend to act like that. It's actually alright, and there's nothing much to worry about. I know you would appreciate perhaps an acknowledgment or some sort... so how about you ask him the next time. I'm sure he will have his comments. Sometimes, guys don't say anything when an opinion is not needed..
• United States
9 Nov 09
If your husband or boyfriend is concetrating on something like football on TV then your not going to have his attention at all. But try doing that during the week when he comes home from work dress nice and look cute and have dinner ready for him then maybe he will pay attention to you and have a good conversation with him. My boyfriend is all about basketball and it just started and right now its all about that and when it is on i bother not to even talk to him as he is totally focused in on that. It important of course to talk in a relationship, you just have to know when the right time is to talk to him so that he will pay attention to you.
@Craicha (801)
9 Nov 09
nah happen to me yet but hope so not..... i think chnage ur style or looks get a new haircut thats fits in you...choose dresses thats what in style this days of course the sexy one..in that way your hubby or BF will be surprised to see your new looks...