HELP im in love with my best buddy
By mgblue11
@mgblue11 (6)
Philippines
November 10, 2009 5:13am CST
Its very sad to announce that I'm in love with my own best friend who already had a girl friend.. How should i handle this situation? How can i be friends with him when Im feeling something else for him? Should I stay in this position or should I leave him alone for my feelings still bloomings everytime Im with him.
6 responses
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
hi welcome to mylot my dear... :D from what you observed, is he happy being with that girl? if he is, then i guess you should learn to forget your feelings for him and end up as a friend. if you want to lessen the feeling, tell him everything and assure him that you have no plans of wanting him to be your lover. tell him so that he won't think that you're angry at him when you start doing other stuffs just because you don't want your feelings for him to bloomed more.
@mgblue11 (6)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
well, he is not happy with her current gf. he calls me when he needed me,and he ignores me when he is happy. i guess he is not into me.. because he would just show up everytime he needs me and when he doesnt he would just disappear. its weird because im always there for him. he would said that im close to his heart because we're best friend. do u think he is just using me? Should i stay at this position?
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
well i can't advice you stay with him or not but if you're no longer happy with it then leave the hell out of his life. you see, you have a life and he has too but he's no longer being fair to you. you deserve somebody else... sorry for the late reply... :D
@canesfan1964 (544)
• United States
18 Nov 09
I would not ignore your feelings. You want to be respectful but I would tell him how I felt. He probably feels the same way. If you communicate your feelings to each other you can work this out. Friendship, a good one is an important foundation for a really good relationship. If you are good friends then you can get through anything together. I think maybe you have found your soulmate. Maybe you are suppose to be together. Take it from someone who is old and has been through this many times. Talk. Talk it out. When people hide their feelings so much is lost and hidden. You are taking a risk revealing your feelings but if it is right he will already know and then maybe you can discuss how the two of you will handle this.
Life is about discovery and risk. Go for it!!
@djoyce71 (2511)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
He has a girlfriend, so you should not enter into the picture. If you have feelings for your bestfriend, might as well keep it, because you might become the reason for misunderstanding between them. Learn the art of letting go. It will hurt, but for sure it will heal. The right one will come in a right time.
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
Try to ignore the feelings. If avoiding him will help you to forget your feelings, just do it. As long as you stay focus on his presence, you wont be able to find the one for you. Since he has a girlfriend your chance right now is very slim. Find your own man, now :)
@winzkiedevz (38)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
we have the same situation..i'm also inlove with my best friend but the sad thing is that she has already a boyfriend..how i handle this? everytime i saw her with her bf, i'll just walk out and find something that could enjoy me.
