having children today, isn't it crazy?
By smallcloud
@smallcloud (338)
Malaysia
November 10, 2009 12:02pm CST
just now posted in wrong place, so sad and sorry
many people ask themselves this question. one can understand why when looking at the problems we face in the world:economic crisis, ecological deterioration , under development, war,etc.
but the question is more involved than this(parent told me de). in a way, it is alwasy a rish to have children, it is a leap into the unknown. iwll we be able to educate them, to give them the necessary means=materially and also spiritually- to live?can we give them the means to be happy?etc. and turn back to ourselves:are we happy?if not, how do we justify giving to others twhat we do not even have ourselves?
is it true?it sounds so sad,especially for me who eager to have my own child. but seem like i lacks of considerations.
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5 responses
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
having a children isn't a crazy, what's crazy about it is that when you know for a fact that you have financial problems but you tend to make a number of children. economic crisis shouldn't be a hindrance of having a baby especially when you're much confident that you can give the child a brighter future. being educated affects the level of thinking of every human being. being educated helps people to be aware of reality that's why most educated people prefer to have few children.
@smallcloud (338)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 09
yaya..the most important here is to able to give the child a brighter future..
but economic crisis cant say not a hindrance of having a baby ba. like my bf's mom said to feed a child is impossible without ten thousand ringgit, at least.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Nov 09
I believe that there are always people who feel like having children is crazy, it doesn't matter if it is today that we are talking about or if it was twenty, thirty, or even more years ago.
Yes, there are always going to be risks to having children, but the most important thing to take into consideration when deciding if you'd like to be a parent is your heart. If in your heart you know that you want to be a parent, then it isn't crazy to have children in today's world or any other time-frame in the world.
@smallcloud (338)
• Malaysia
10 Nov 09
but can i ignore those reality problem?especially if one want to be single mother, it sounds hard and will be critized by the public. the social still limit our behaviour do you think so?
now feeding a child is so tough and i cant imagine i am still able to be a good mother when i really to be. it makes me scared.
@derek_a (10874)
•
11 Nov 09
Having children always has been an emotional issue. A man and woman get together and it is a force of nature that they want children. Different people feel this force of nature at different strengths, some hardly at all and have no interest but then some very strong that they will risk their own lives to bring a life into the world.
If we look at it rationally, yes it is crazy, but so is all of nature if you look at that also. The animals have young who are very vulnerable to predators who will target the young to eat, because they are slower and not experienced at running away. Such is life. It is not rational, but crazy.. 
- Derek
- Derek @Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 09
There is a saying That "People who are always afraid will never succeed in life". Bad times are always there, and there also will always be poor people. The important thing is to be wise about it. If you have a good education and you are sure that whatever happens you can still make a living, go ahead and have children. One or two is enough. Whether our children become happy people or not depends on what we teach them since they are young. teach them to honor education, the nature, healthy living, wise at spending money, etc, and they will be alright
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Economic crisis are all over the globe & some were laid off from work, some schedules were adjusted working three days a week. Its normal for us to get depress when will think if we will be able to educate our children but I believe that everything has a ways and means for us to fulfill our obligation to out children. Its just for us how to find it out. We just have to believe in our selves.
