When is the suitable time to get married?

@kaka135 (14921)
Malaysia
November 11, 2009 7:53am CST
Today, my colleague asked me this question. She is wondering when it is the suitable time to get married, whether it depends on the stability of the relationship, whether it depends on how many years the couple have been together, whether it depends on the financial independence, or whether it depends on the age. I replied her that, when she doesn't have this question in mind, then she is ready to get married. When you have doubt, that means you are not ready for marriage yet. I didn't ask myself this question before I got married, I just knew that we were ready for the marriage. How about you? When do you think is the suitable time to get married?
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41 responses
@thuynhu (661)
• United States
11 Nov 09
I do agree with you on when you have no doubts is when your truly ready for marriage. Unfortunately, I did have my few doubts here and there before I got married. It's just sometimes you get afraid but that's why you have your other half there to tell you that its going to be okay and that everything is going to work out. But both sides needs to be able to feel that they are ready for it. Just like you said I just knew it when I was ready to marry my husband.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
I agree with you it depends how ready are you emotionally and financially. If you have still doubt I think you should think about it carefully before you going to get married. If you believe that you are ready to be committed so go for it.
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
15 Dec 09
personally if I had to define an age, i would say the best time i would like to get married would be at 26. that is an age where i know what i want, and there would be enough time to enjoy couplehood before planning for a baby. if i get married too near my 30s, then there would be less time for couplehood before having a baby because it's dangerous to have kids after 35.
• India
13 Dec 09
Hello my friend kaka135 Ji, In our cases, it was worry for our parens and never with us. But you are right, if someone has some questions still circling their minds then let them make up their minds first. But, I think, age does matter, else the very motto behind marriage would be defeated. It is said thatwomen faelot many difficulties and may risktheirlife if they becoome motherafter 31-32 yrs of their age. It means, for a women medically they should not prolong. Further, let's plan syuch a way that all our parental duties come to end by the time we retire, even one or two yrs earlier. There again age playsimportant roll. Paople are veryvise enough to apply such yard sticks. May God bless You and have great time.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Age is not a basis on when to get married. You have to be emotionally and financially ready when you do this, getting married may sound good but there are a lot of responsibilities related to it. So you have to think long term. Marriage is a new chapter in ones life, this presents a new set of challenges that only mature people should tackle head on. That's why there are lot of failed marriages everywhere, its because the couple are not yet ready and only learned about it later and ruined their life and the life of their children along with it. Cheers!
• Malaysia
24 Nov 09
In my opinion, each elements that you specified above stand a portion of importance in deciding when to get marry. Stability determine whether your relationship mature enough to step into another stage. Number of years being together provide you the confident level regarding this relationship. Financial independence relate to your future comfort life with your partner. Age is another factor that urge you decide. When all these elements have been taking care of, you will have the courage to decide for marriage. You will know when it is the right time when it come.
16 Nov 09
the best time to get married is when both of you are stable...age doesn't matter but as long as you both are ready and prepared enough for your future family..
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
12 Nov 09
My husband and I didn't talk much about anything. We were worried about finances but not too much, and really we had to have help with paying for our wedding. I think that you are right, questions don't need to be answered, we felt we were ready and we got married... Your colleague will also get this feeling when she find Mr. Right, or maybe she'll have the questions but somehow eventually I feel she'll know.
@haiershen (1080)
• China
13 Nov 09
thank you for you very interesting discussion,those days i also wondered to know the answer of this question,as in our partents eyes, i'm too large to get married, that means you said that it depends on the age, as when the girl's age reach to thirty, it is very hard to find an good mr right. so face their worried, i'm very bother,i thought that the person who is suitable for me is my Mr.right, we will met my Mr. right in the coming days but no need to worried more. the god would be arrange the date.maybe you are right,when a person do not worried more, that is the time for married as our heard find a peace.good luck and have a nice day!
@harmonee (1228)
• United States
13 Nov 09
I think it is different for every relationship. There are so many factors to consider that it's going to be different for everyone. It depends on the stability of the relationship, the age, the career, money, kids, and countless others. My husband and I were together for almost 3 years before we got married, but I know people who have been together shorter and longer than that before the time was right.
@happy6162 (3001)
• United States
13 Nov 09
If a person has doubts whether they should be getting married then that definitely in not the time. When you know in your heart that the person you are marrying is the one you want to be with the rest of your life and would do anything for that person then I think you are ready for marriage.
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
14 Nov 09
It is almost like having a baby! If you plan and wait for the "right" time it will not happen.... I think when you love someone you will know when it is time to get married.... If you have to ask all those questions you are probably not ready... Gosh to get all that done it would take years... I do know some people that have been dating for 4 years with the same thinking ..... IF you have been together that long it may or may not work .... No one can predict the future.
@olepmis (840)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
The time to get married is that you really love each other or the couple has a job, financially stable, and like to tie the knots. Both their parents are blessing them to get married. Happy wedding!
• United States
12 Nov 09
You are absolutely correct telling your colleague that she is not ready for marriage if she is asking those type of questions. This is a voice of experience LOL I use to ask the same things all the time and then one day said ok for our childs sake (he was 2) and our other 4 children from previous marriages well long and behold it didnt work. We are now seperated and fileing for divorce after 13yrs of marriage, mind you we were together 4yrs prior to that. (took me that long to say yes). Now I am unexpectedly involved with a man that was actually a friend when we were just kids (12-15). We are now best friends and I have never asked once if we are ready should we, what if's..... He is everything to me best friend, confidant,equal,you name it he fits the bill and we have only been together for 6 months. If it wasnt for the legal system Id be married to him already. God finally pointed me in the correct direction to my soul mate. When she's ready she'll know, those questions will never enter her mind. They can both be broke young, old what ever the case she'll know that she never wants to be a day let alone a moment without him.
16 Nov 09
the best time to get married is when both of you are stable.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Never sounds prefect to me!!!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
12 Nov 09
i DON'T KNOW IF THERE IS A SUITABLE TIME. NO MATTER HOW LONG U HAVE KNOWN THEM U NEver REALLY KNOW ANYONE TILL U LIVE W/THEM. That changes alot of things. I don't have a good record when it comes to marriage but will say this, it's the hardest job u will ever have trying to make a marriage work, it takes two to do it.
@suzzy3 (8342)
12 Nov 09
It is different for everyone ,financial,babys birth,years together.ect.It is something personal that only the people involved know.If someone is asking that question then maybe they are not ready yet.Nobody should be getting married if they are not ready it will only end in tears.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
If we base on material on entering a marriage. I think I agree with you that it should have first financial stability to get marriage. But If we base on the age. The suitable and best age are 26 to 29 because on scientific study. Most born babies in that age is smart...Have a nice day!
12 Nov 09
I think actually has no any fixed time to get married. Coz It fixed from only god & we just do it as our situation. Sometimes it happened suddenly after u fall in love first. And sometimes it will happen by taking a lot of time after u be established & arranging all. Although I think, at the age of 20-25 is the suitable time for get married. Coz after pass this age a men or women can not be fully interested to get married I have seen it.
• China
12 Nov 09
I think it stability of the relation