to all mother out there what do you feel when your first pregnancy?

first pregnancy - fears of pregnancy
Philippines
November 11, 2009 9:09pm CST
i am planning and trying to get impregnated but we still can't make it.i want to know what to feel carrying a child in your womb.i am so nervous and afraid of labor and delivery.to all mothers out there..any feeling when you know you were carrying a baby and how do you feel when your tummy is growing?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Nov 09
neelinoscet well remembering way back, first morning sickness for a few weeks plus excitement, and joy too. and loved watching my tummy expand, and loved buying my first maternity outfit. I had to laugh at myself for getting angry over not being able to see my feet.also you must develope a sense of humor. this is a normal natural thing,not an illness so let yourself enjoy carrying your first bAby laugh and be happy. be p roud of your baby bump and take good care of yourself. listen to your doctor and mind his advice.keep doing mild exercises and again listen to your doctor about that too. also be sure to take your prenatal vitamines and do not gain too much weight.
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• Philippines
12 Nov 09
hi hatley this us wrongly posted. It is not suppose to be my question then the other computer of mine is uses by my friend when she log in, then when she submit it her question goes to my own discussion. How do I remove this?? Sorry for the inconvenience. This is mistakenly posting.
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• Philippines
12 Nov 09
hi hatley, since it is already posted I have no way to remove it. I think it would be good to heard all of the respondents reply supposedly it would happen to me in the future. Those things you mention are all good reminders and i would see to it that i remember it when suppose to be I am going to be pregnant someday. Thanks for sharing your wonderful pregnancy experience.
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
13 Nov 09
With my daughter I knew the exact day I got pregnant, I just felt different, went to a Dr. for a bad ear infection and told him there was a possibility I was pregnant, he told me it was too early for me to know that and they would have to do blood work in order to know for sure, told them to do it and I was! I was happy with all three for the most part while I was pregnant, I think it's the state of mind someone puts themselves in. I had morning sickness with my boys, not with my daughter at all. I worked out and lost weight quickly after I had my daughter and looked better than I ever did, when I was pregnant with the boys, I gained more weight that was harder to lose. The labor and delivery was different for all three, the only thing that was the same was the length of time it took but once you see that lil one, you realize it was worth all the pain that you somehow, quickly forget.
• United States
12 Nov 09
Each person experiences different things depending on how they are built, family heritage, etc. You should definitely start reading about the birthing and delivery process. The more you know about this process, instead of relying other's stories, I think you will find that it is something that every child must go through in order to come into this world. Fear many times comes from being misinformed. This is not to say that labor is easy but nothing in life worth having is easy. I suggest that you inform yourself on this subject so that your fear does not take away from what ever experience carrying a child would give you and your husband.
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• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi sysdexlixwriter, that is very informative and i do appreciate your advices.Nonetheless being pregnant is a wonderful feeling and a greatest accomplishment every women experience is different form their body reaction, Thus,it is right to consult a professional who have more knowledge on this matter. thanks.
• United States
16 Nov 09
Yes, always consult a doctor. But also read, read, read so that you can understand what the doctor is talking about and be able to ask good questions. All that is learned can be taught to the children later for when they experience the same thing. In the meantime it is the beginning of a lifetime experience.
@Lakota12 (42602)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Just a natural thing to happen when you get PG you get a belly! lol. relax you will get that way when the time is right. My daughter was afraid of labor too but ended up with a C section for the baby came into stress.
@Lakota12 (42602)
• United States
14 Nov 09
thanks and ys do and tell her good luck in every thing she does!
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi lakota, that is still a plan and anyway this discussion is really from a friend of mine who is excited to become pregnant. I do care to share with her those things which you have mention. Do care. thanks.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
12 Nov 09
I'm not a mother, thus i wont know the feeling.. hehe ^_^ BUt for one like u, who's trying to get pregnant, u should be feeling happy when u find yourself pregnant.. hehe ^_^ The stress and shock will be there for sure, but as time goes by, u will learn to live with it.. And even cherish it, because it's your flesh and blood ^_^ With the right mentality, all u want is something good forthe baby in u, and thus u will be taking very good care of yourself in the process, as the baby in u does not come easy ^_^
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• Philippines
13 Nov 09
well, this is so funny..though, i am not a mother to be.. this post is an accident..lol.. I think if ever I'll be a mother every member of my family would be happy.. it would be a welcome sight... imagine having to hold in your hands those adorable tiny babies, little tender body, cute face and hands..then heard their small beating from their tiny hearts.. it is an amazing sights and the feeling is wonderful.. although, at this moment, even though I may like it.. it would not be possible coz I have no husband yet..hahaha.. even though it would feel nervous and excitement when the day comes it would not be easy just like in a dream.. it would be full of responsibility and commitment.. \being a responsible and loving mother taking care of the baby..
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Hi neelianoscet! I had one pregnancy only and it was so wonderful. Soon as it was confirmed that i am pregnant, there is nothing i could think but what to do to keep that pregnancy healthy. Im always careful in everything that i do so as not to harm myself and the baby. I followed my obstetricians advice and i was so excited. I kept on looking at my abdomen observe the movement especially when my pregnancy was on the 5th month onwards. I have mixed emotions at that time, sometimes happy, sometimes depressed and sometimes excited. I made my list of baby dresses and things she needs, early in my pregnancy. I read books also about baby care. I had a delivery plan and i also prepared a bag with baby clothes and other things needed any moment i have my labor pains.
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi triplejazz, Well, that is so awesome story and I do feel excited to that someday i would also become pregnant like what you experience. It is a wonderful feeling to bring another human being into this world and becomes co-creator. thanks for sharing your wonderful story. it is greatly amazing indeed.
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
Well, hurry up before its too late. Good luck.
@kjess77 (40)
• United States
19 Nov 09
My husband and I used an online ovulation calculator to find the best times for us to get pregnant. You type in the time of your last period, and it will tell you all of the best days for you to conceive a baby. We tried one time, and we got pregnant, so I highly recommend trying it. Also there are many great cookbooks out there that are focused on helping you to conceive through eating the right foods. You can also try slightly elevating the hips with a small pillow after you do it to help gravity move the sperm to reach the egg. For many years I didn't want to get pregnant because I was afraid of how weird it would feel to have a baby in my womb, and labor and delivery sounded wretched. But once you are pregnant you will find that you have such a connection with the baby. Inside it feels a bit crowded (but I am petite so I don't have a ton of room) but not unpleasant.
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
hi kjess, Being pregnant is a wonderful feeling and I know when my friend and i decided to get pregnant it would be a amazing experience. Those things you mention are good story that any women who wish to get pregnant need not to be afraid to undergo such changes in their life. As having baby is a great opportunity and a privilege it completes a family. thanks for responding.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
14 Nov 09
Someone telling you cannot compare to the actual experience. It's something different for everyone and it will feel different and mean different things to different people. It's best if you read books by the experts if you want to know what to expect. It should not be a time when you are anxious and nervous but rather a time of excitement, joy, anticipation and enthusiasm. If you continue to be stressed about falling pregnant, I can guarantee you...it won't happen. Just forget about it, relax, be happy and nature will take its course.
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
hi ms tickle, Yup..that is so true and i do know that my friend to would appreciate it best to ask her other friends who are pregnant or already a mother as they could even give her better understanding of the complexity of being pregnant. That would really be a mixture of different emotion when the time comes as the event happen. thanks for responding.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
12 Nov 09
It's been a long time ago since i had my first child.I hope u get w/child soon if that's what u want. It is a wonderful experience & i wouldn't trade it for anything. Being afraid is just normal. I am so glad i have 2 sons. always wished for more. I now have 2 grandchildren & they are just wonderful. Good luck.
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi antique lady, This is a plan in the future and it still under process and my friend too made a discussion like this to know the other expectant mother and those who had already given birth that she know to compare. And just me are too very excited to be a mom in the future. Thanks for sharing your story.
@wahmivy (776)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
In my case, I was very happy and excited upon discovery. A month later, that's when the hyperemesia happened and I was perfectly miserable for 5 months. After that, the anticipation was immense. And the discomfort too. Mine wasn't an easy pregnancy. Then there were moments of doubt about what kind of mother I would be. There was some trepidation as to the pain of labor. These feelings were all over-rided by my desire to finally see, meet, and take care of my baby outside the womb.
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi washivy, I too excited to become pregnant but for now it is just a plan and i do hope someday it would come true. I wish you more luck and regards to your baby. This is a wonderful story of your experience being pregnant. thanks for sharing.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
12 Nov 09
Ok for me its been 31 years since my first pregnancy. The first symptom was nausea. I was having dry heaves every morning for about a month. It was not a good feeling at all. After eating a few saltines I would feel better for the most part. My tummy didn't get really big till the 7 month but it was strange I guess but it felt wonderful. The biggest problem was trying to sleep with the big belly. The best was when you feel the first kick of the fetus. That is when it becomes real not to mention the first time you hear the heartbeat. Good luck to you on becoming pregnant.
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
hi lelin, That is a wondeful description of your pregnancy. Anyone who undergo such period would be really feel proud knowing another human being would be brought up to see the ray of light and enjoy to see the wonderful world full of happiness. thanks for responding.
• United States
12 Nov 09
You feel lots of different feelings. But what I can tell you it is something you will never forget and as for your feeling about labor everyone has it until they go through it. I have had 5 baby's and everyone was different. I had epidurals for first 3 and they did not work, went nature with my 4th and was best one of them and 5th one had another epidural and it worked wonderful but would of preferred natural again. Yes there is pain but that truly goes out of your mind when you see that baby believe it or not. I wish you the best luck conceiving. I will tell you cut out caffeine like pop add some vitamin E oil rub it on tummy daily and see what happens worked for a women we knew with in the year of doing this and her baby is now 16.
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi birdlady, that is a very interesting pregnancy story and i do appreciate your sharing. I do hope someday being pregnant would be an easy one with less worries just like what happen to you. Well, you advices is well absorb and i do care to do it in the future. Do care. thanks.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
i am still not a mother but i am planning to get pregnant next year and i am so nervous and mix excited to feel how is being pregnant.and i hope that child is healthy and i am willing to sacrifice for my child.i cannot say anything about what is experience of being pregnant and i think it is just a wonderful experiences to be a mother.
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
hi amyson, That would be a great thing and i wish you good luck in advance. may you have an easy pregnancy without too much complication. Being mother makes anyone feel nervous with a lot of mix emotion that seem not easy to explain unless you are the one who personally experience being pregnant that you could explain it better in your own point of view. thanks for responding.
• Indonesia
12 Nov 09
Wrong post? That's okay, I'll still respond anyway lol. I am not technically a mother yet because my little one is not here yet. I currently am heavily pregnant and it's only about one month ahead that before I give birth. I love being pregnant and I am one of those lucky mothers who never experience morning sickness at all. I didn't even realise that I was pregnant, not until I took the test lol. It's amazing to have a living baby in your tummy, the way he/she kicks, punches, rolls and even hiccups. Believe me, it is really cute! Oh, I almost cried when I first saw my baby during ultrasound scan lol. Do not be scared of labour or delivery, all mothers went through that. Being a mom is not an easy job, but that's what makes it wonderful. Good luck!
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
hi alwayzz, yeah, the title itself could be an inquiry of the experience of a woman after being pregnant up to the period of pregnancy up to the day of labor. Congratulation to you for being pregnant. It is nice to hear from the own experience of a would be mother the things that happen in a woman body. It is a good things that you never encounter annoying signs which other pregnant women have experience as they are all full of complains. I do appreciate your sharing and i am looking forward to that exciting event to happen to me in the future. have a nice day!
• Singapore
13 Nov 09
Pregnancy is a learning journey for mother and unborn baby. Initially, you may not get used to pregnancy. Both you and your unborn baby are adjusting to each other. The journey of pregnancy is wonderful and beautiful. The pregnant ladies are very beautiful as she in growing in motherhood - learning to bond and cherish love. If you are nervous and afraid of delivery, you can start to share and communicate with your unborn baby so that he or she can work together with you to make you have a wonderful experience. If you want to find out more about prenatal training, you can refer to my website http://wiseparents.net In addition, I also give some pregnant tips, activities on http://twitter.com/pregnantcoach I hope the information will be helpful for you. God bless you and your unborn baby.
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi sllviamak, That sound exciting and though it be a wonderful things to know some information from real and accomplish mother who undergo the experience of being pregnant is very special time for every woman to undergo. Though, their may be constant worries about the pain of labor as from what I know all things would disappear once the baby comes out. thanks for sharing.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Nov 09
When I first found out that I was pregnant with my daughter I was already 16 weeks pregnant. I never had to deal with the morning sickness or many of the other early signs of pregnancy. It didn't even occur to me that I was pregnant because I'd always been so abnormal with my periods and such. It was just a few days after I found out that I was pregnant that I was able to feel my daughter move. It was the most wonderful feeling ever. It was truly amazing. Then, as I got closer to my due date, I did become scared of labor, but for me all of those fears were unfounded because I had a relatively easy labor and delivery. My daughter was born without having an epidural and only one half dose of pain medication. Best of luck to you on your journey to motherhood.
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi dorannwin, i am glad that you have easy labor as some women I know have difficulty giving birth that it almost cost their life. thanks for sharing your amazing story. Becoming pregnant really is a great feat which every women should be proud of to show to the world they become pregnant to bring another human being to enjoy this world. thanks
@samrie29 (112)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Hi! I got mixed emotions when I found out that I was pregnant. It's a combination of excitement, happiness,anxiety and nervouseness. I was excited and couldn't believe that there's life growing inside my tummy. I was also scared since I had to be extra careful in everything I do. I had to watch what I eat, I shouldn't get stressed out at work since it can cause contractions and might affect my baby. It's normal to feel afraid especially when it's time for you to give birth. You just need to channel your fears into excitement. Believe me, the pain is all worth it once you get to carry your baby for the first time.
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi samrie, Those things you mention are all true.Though, i and my friend would be very glad to be pregnant some day. Though, their may be a lot of mixed emotions as you narrate that is worth to be recall. I think the over all attitude of every women to become successful in being pregnant is to remain optimistic discarding pessimistic thoughts. Thus, it is more importance to know the basic of taking care of the body first then after the birthing the baby care and need should be given a lot of attention. Being a devoted, nurturing and caring mother is a great feat that every women should be proud of. thanks for sharing your story. it is a wonderful one, amazing indeed..