How do I get through to her? When she can't stand to pay attention.
@monicathinks407 (311)
United States
November 12, 2009 12:01am CST
What do I say to my sister who refuses to sit and just listen for a minute? I have watched this girl go through many changes. As an older sister, I feel like I should let her know and I do, but it gets me no where. I truly hope that someday soon she can actually understand where I am coming from. I don't want to see her hurt, I don't want to see her fail. I want to watch her succeed in all she lays her hand on, puts her mind too and does. How do I let go and let her be?
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
23 Nov 09
I have two younger sisters and I know where you're coming from. When we were younger...I was in my 20's and they were in their teens...they thought they knew it all and it worried me a lot. I used to have talks with them while we were doing things together...shopping, riding in my car, at a local sporting event...where the main focus was not on the advice I was giving them. I also made it real clear to them that I would ALWAYS be there no matter what, if they ever needed me. It's hard to let your little sisters go...to make their own decisions and their own mistakes...but keep the lines of communication open and your sister will come to you if she needs to.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
25 Nov 09
Trensue, I left you a long reply in your second Thanksgiving discussion. I never said that you were judgmental...I suggested that you judged the situation too quickly. You were taken in by the lopsided description of events made by someone with a long track record of verbally abusing numerous members of this community. I have always been civil with her. Please don't make me out to be some kind of monster. You had no way of knowing the history behind what you entered into. I, unfortunately, have had many encounters with this member.
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Don't blame yourself, for not being able to get through to her, sometimes, some individuals are just like that, it doesn't do any good to pressure them into listening to someone else!
Sometimes it's just better if they are left alone to 'butt' their own heads for a while, and a lot of times they will realize or look for someone to reach out to!
But always leave the option, that you will be there for them, if they should ever need to ask for help, even if it means watching them suffer!
