what your attitude toward cohabitants?

China
November 13, 2009 2:49am CST
in china, it is unaccepted that boyfriend and girlfriend live together when they do not get married. at least, most of people think so. most people especially the girls are wondering this deserves or not? what do you think about this my friends?
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@maximax8 (31055)
• United Kingdom
13 Nov 09
In my home country is it usual and quite acceptable for a girlfriend and a boyfriend to live together. I think that my sister lived with her boyfriend and then they got engaged to be married. Once she was shore that he was the right man for her she got married to him. Many people get divorced so some couples decide to live together first to see how compatible they are. Some people don't believe in getting married and happily live with their boyfriend or girlfriend. I know a guy that has lived with his girlfriend for the last fifteen years. They have three children and are a perfectly happy together.
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
13 Nov 09
I believe its a great idea because then you get to see if you both will get along or not. Living together is a big step and if you wait to get married to find out if you can live together it could end up being a big mistake. Either one could have really bad habits that the other person can't or won't deal with. Living together you will see if its really love or not.
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• Singapore
15 Nov 09
lelin1123, Going along with your line of thoughts here, is it any easier to break up during cohabitation than marriage? I am sorry but I just do not find living together to be a good advocate gauge for compatibility or living together as it just lack common purpose between couples. I felt that premarital counseling to be a better advocate here. Sometimes. a popular option does not mean that it would be the best option. Take care.
@allknowing (130088)
• India
13 Nov 09
Nowadays it is more a matter for survival than wanting to shirk responsibilities that go with marriage. One lives unconditionally and therefore can breathe easy unlike the shackles of marriage that say 'for better or for worse'. Also live-in relationships do not opt for children which in a way controls population which is the biggest problem in the world today. The liberated lot do not think that it is a way of life that should be looked down upon. As long as they do not work towards destroying the earth why should anyone point a finger? '
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• China
25 Nov 09
firstly, I would like to express my attitude. I can accept this. but have condition. the two are mature, responsible , and love each other. My husband and I are all the first boyfriend/girlfriend of each other, and we did live together before marriage, and now, we have got married. the cohabitant course can make the two learning how to communicate and live together, and make the life after marriage more harmonious.
@grkelly (1206)
• Malta
5 Mar 10
Cohabitation is increasing in most countries. This is very negative in my opinion. I do not agree with cohabitation at all. This trend is undermining the true value and beauty of marraige. Cohabiting couples are not truly in love in my opinion as otherwise they would just get married as they would want to give oneself to one another. Cohabitation provokes instability and insecurity in my opinion. And most problems in society are arising through it.