What is the right age of a person to be consider mature?

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Philippines
November 13, 2009 5:56am CST
In my country, person are consider mature once they reach the age of 18 years old. But, in my opinion, I highly believe that maturity is not solely measured by age. rather, it is the the set of experiences that one encounters that transform a person into becoming a mature individual. If you'll only be relying on a person's age, you'll be exposing yourself to encounter great disappointment. There are many persons who are already in their late 20's or early 30's yet they still act and think like they are only 12. How about you, What do you think is the right age for a person to be considered mature? Kindly shares your thoughts. Thanks
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@Lakota12 (42607)
• United States
13 Nov 09
Here it is 18 for girls and 21 for the boys. BUt you are right it to depends on how they handle themselves in doing certain things at a point in their life time. YEs I know a few that act 12 when in 20s and 30s even 40s sometimes lol
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• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi lakota, Yup, ant he numbers of ages could not be a right measurement of maturity as some act below than their ages and some act advance with their real aged. I do think to some youngster are more mature in their perception compare to their adult counterparts that they are more successful both financially and emotionally. thanks
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@Lakota12 (42607)
• United States
14 Nov 09
that could be from their choise of work they do to make them more influencial
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
yup..becoming famous for them is measured by wealth most of the times...
@bjcyrix (6905)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
Maturity cannot be quantified by age. Its not even quantifiable. Period. I do agree with you that the "set of experiences" that we acquire through our years of existence ripens or develops our maturity. It would also depend on how these events in our lives affect us. There are those who are not affected by these things in any way at all, thus in your words "There are many persons who are already in their late 20's or early 30's yet they still act and think like they are only 12." There are also those who seemed to bear the weight of the world on their small shoulders. These are those children who had to grow up fast because there is the urgency to act like a grown up just to survive. They have to be mature fast that they have no time to enjoy their childhood. In some of these cases they tend to act out or relive their childhood innocence and playfulness when they are already in the middle life. That's just what I think anyways.
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
hi bj, Yup..and most of those children are expose to poverty at the earliest stages that they develop a sense of being productive to work most of the times to bring home the beacon or else they would greatly suffer from extreme hunger when they are not able to find work. Though maturity entails a good sense of responsibility and decision making skills. Whereas some people refuse to be call mature as they think of it as equivalent to mean an aged look that they become angry being call mature. While in a literal sense being mature is in accordance with the state of mind and just like what you pinpoint some look mature on their ages and yet they think backward for for acting and thinking like a child...
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@bjcyrix (6905)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
Yep, the mindset about the affinity to work or do other productive things just begins with the person's foundation. Meaning one's family, and while growing up, the person has to experience every stage of development cause if he/she skipped a stage or two, he/she would go back to try and experience it later on in life.
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
Yeah, and the early exposure to life trials makes any young mind mature in advanced thinking and the manner he/she handle a situation based on the relevant of the events could be a great foundation to mold her/his character..
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• Philippines
13 Nov 09
Yes I agree with you, maturity doesn't depend on age but by the life experiences they been through. On how they act when problem arise and how they handle their own life. Being mature is only 10% on your age and 90% on how you react.
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• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi mrssator, Yeah, your right and i do think the same things as being mature if based on age is useless as it is not the ultimate basis that a person is well accomplish and successful unless it is clearly evident form her/his working experience that he really struggle hard to achieve his.her goals at their own efforts, perseverance, patience and couple with love, support and prayer..then all the good things lead to great achievement..thanks
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@jzeL0291 (24)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
i think maturation comes not only when you got age of 18 because first you can only say your mature enough if your mind and body really mature enough i mean maturation is not only in body mechanism maturity starts in mentality before body reach its maturity .it will start in your mind its process is collaborative while your growing up your mind and body also growing and maturing...and you can say your mature enough if you can decide thing on your own w/ responsible of what will be its effect..
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• Philippines
13 Nov 09
hi jzel, Yup, and you got a point there and do think so that the mind have to do with the right act as the brain really instruct a person to determine exactly what she need to accomplish or else the thinking without further analyzing would likely go to drain wasted. I do believe to one could decide according to her/his conscience without any dependence for the other to be the one to lead or decide for them as they may be good as sources of second opinion and more than that is pointless. At the end it is the person concern who will decide on your fate as what you are now are the after effects of how you did a job done well.thanks
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
19 Nov 09
Well well, alot depends on each individual.. Age is just like a guideline, and we are just following majority.. haha =D There can be kids as young as 8-10, and yet they are much more matured?? Just because they have been thru alot and seen alot in life?? Thus, maturity cant be measured using age and numbers.. ALl in all, it's the experiences that counts ^_^
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
hi kun, Yup...the guidelines and policy which also breakable... And ages should not be the ultimate basis as it could even be deceived.. Though, the matter of gaining maturity could only be define by the mentality of thinking and acting knowing the right decision to take...
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
19 Nov 09
Yup ^_^ THus, age does not really matter.. One will be suprised to see those kids in poor countries, to be even more matured than adults or any teenagers here, for htye have to earn a living at a young tender age, exposing themselves to dangers etc..
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
Well,it is a matter of understanding and communication which matter most... yeah..it is true most children grow in poverty is more mature in their disposition and the way they view life with lot of common senses.. as even here in my place most children strive to earn even a little penny just to help augment the family income...
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
14 Nov 09
yes, you are right.my son is seventeen years old.i wish he could mature enough.it's ok if he is eighteen years old he would become mature.in fact,it's impossible if he always lives with me.he always thinks he is a child.
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
hi zhouxi, proper guidance is what every child want and they could get an inspiration from the word of wisdom which you is able to partake on his mind as best samples seeing you as a mother who have learn to live with lot of accomplishment by being responsible by seeing it on you every day he would realize that not all things comes easily as he like to be. Their is a need to make an effort to struggle and persevere if one like to enjoy the result of his hard work by making him realize that for a longer period of time need to be both responsible toward his thinking and action taking knowledge to differentiate the wrong and right then knowing to start a plan without backing off as in exploring he could test his own potentials identify both his own weaknesses as well as his strength. Thus, he could accomplish something and be proud of rendering it from his own efforts becoming proud of oneself. thanks
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@zhouxi (1754)
• China
14 Nov 09
yes, you are right .thank you very much.my husband and i work hard and want to be good examples for my son.but my son is different with us.he likes to do something which has real meaning in our life.for example earn money.interesting ,enjoy and so on.he don't like to do complicated work.how could we deal with it?it's really a trouble.we have different view and mind.
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
hi zhouxi, Nevertheless you son frame of mind is still immature although you like him to be mature as fast as you could see clearly where he is going on with his life it could not be forced upon his self as the maturity goes through cycles and definitely it is gain through experience letting your son to both taste the pain and glory giving him a lot of exposure. Thus, he would realize what his been missing on and become mature would comes to him as every person nave their own free will to choose to start at fast or to delay though inside his mind he would consider a lot of options and that is including being to establish his own niche when he identify his goals taking it seriously. Maybe at this moment it would be less noticeable but I believe he would be able to identify what he like to after realizing to love by one need to learn to accomplish before he could earn and reap the things he like to obtain duly rewarding his self upon achieving his goals in life. Then, as a parents you should guide him and never engage in heated arguments as it would never inspire him and would only lead to despise your ideas.
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@aerous (13452)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
In my views is that 18 is the proper age of maturity. Because this is base on the presumption of our ancestor and corroborated by scientist that this is the exact legal age of maturity and not depend on our assumption...
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Yup, that is the age where one already know to decide for his self like the right age to drink, and decide for themselves..then becoming mature is develop with the manner of thinking and acting knowing to decide for his self even without the advices of other people could have the right to decide for their own life..
@aerous (13452)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
That is really true. But becoming a mature is one of the basic for us to know what really the basis of our creation...
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
yeah, maturity have to deal with the way a person react and accept dealing with the world reality.
@balasri (26545)
• India
20 Nov 09
You are absolutely correct.My daughter is less than half my age and she seems to be more mature than me most of the times.
• Philippines
21 Dec 09
well, that exactly mean the opposite of you so it is still good your daughter think more mature than you that you would never every worry that she hook up with the bad girls as she know herself better than anyone else..
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@balasri (26545)
• India
22 Dec 09
Thanks for saying that.
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
Your very much welcome and happy Holiday then..
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
There is no such thing as a right age or particular age for maturity. Because there are some 30s or 40s are still immature in their decision making. It is through the experience makes us mature, on how we deal on it. This is the way we look at the things that surround us and how we react on the things around us. It could be as early as a child or teen. Some children talks maturely because of the environment they have. And how their parents brought them up.
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
hi feodda, i do believe to that the maturity should never be depending on the numbers of age that a person have but rather on the way he treat life full of understanding that know to identify his strengths and weaknesses then able to accomplish each goals weighing every thing in a balance. As they are people who look mature and yet their thinking are beyond the thinking of the youngster having difficulty to act responsible and committed with fear of facing reality. Thus, remain childish through out life with nothing to brag on as he is afraid to explore with little experience to improve itself tend to shy away remaining stagnant with no fighting spirit lacking determination. While they are people who look young even in their real ages and yet act more advanced beyond their real ages and could handle a lot of challenges then take a drive to explore taking all the risk and possibilities of ending as a winner despite the competition. thanks
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@feodda (579)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
Definitely taking risk and competitions in life has a great factor for maturity. It is the why they think on things.
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
Yeah, and one could not just stay/hang on stand by or keep waiting which should not be the proper way if one like to be mature should take an action moving toward relentless non-stopping pursuits to know the differences in all aspects of life.
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• Philippines
13 Nov 09
I definitely agree with you neelianoscet! Age cannot tell if the person is mature already. It is the persons attitude towards life and the people around him. There are young people whose ages below 18 years old too that are mature enough to handle serious problems. The experiences made every person strong. Experience molded our characters and attitudes.
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
hi lovelyn, Yeah, and look is very deceiving citing the onset of technology the old could look young and stay acting like a immature one. Though, it should still not be the basis as i do believe each person irregardless of age could be acting below or beyond his/her level of maturity. As age could be a wrong way to be judge a person as mature as their are many older people who still a problem of the society being a menace as something that have low morale values and act childish most of the times. Do not recognize commitment and responsibility and despise being a hard workers as they are merely lazy and depend on other people to feed them. While i see a lot of youngster who are well accomplished and great provider able to help self and the family is proud of him for helping them. thanks.
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• Philippines
14 Nov 09
You are absolutely right neelianoscet! There are really people who never acted rightly for their age, and as we often tell them to "GROW UP"!!! And yes, we cannot really address a person as mature if he doesn't know how to take responsibilities of his actions!
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
The discipline itself is a learning process and those who refuse it is bound to be immature for the rest of their lives unless they make the change to itself before they could reap the many benefits that comes out for being mature.
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@zed_k4 (17618)
• Singapore
13 Nov 09
Perhaps it's my age? . Just kidding. I think once an individual is able to earn for himself or herself and able to differentiate bad and good decisions, then it can be said that he or she has already matured. The way they talk can also be taken into consideration and if someone is mature, he/she will not speak immaturely. Good topic here, Neelia..
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
hi zed, Prestige is gain from being mature in thoughts, action and in using word which speak of the things which comes out naturally from the perspectives of a mature mind that the looks maybe deceiving even the number of age, as the accomplishment varies per person as the way it is done in actuality rendering performance of highest quality which stand out from among the rest without undue imitation. Thus, maturity is per see as action done well and result effect bring more growth and learning rather than disruption.
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@zed_k4 (17618)
• Singapore
14 Nov 09
That's right..
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
yup..maturity deal with the state of mind...
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@MrKennedy (1992)
5 Dec 09
I do not judge the level of somebody's maturity based on how old they are, I instead base it on how they act and what sort of person they are. I believe that to be mature, you must be able to take full responsibility for your actions and accept the consequences when things go wrong, not burden them onto others. Remember being a kid and breaking that super-expensive vase that your mother thought was so precious and took lots of pride in? Remember allowing your younger sibling to take the blame because you knew they were too young to defend themselves? This is what I am talking about. Also, you must be able to consider other people's points-of-view and their perspective. Whether or not you agree with them is another matter entirely, of course. Also, when they finally start taking responsibility for themselves personally, and can live a fairly independent life without having to rely on others too much. However, some people just don't have it in them to ever mature, and will remain a child trapped inside an adult's body forever. You know, the kind of person that it seems you are constantly telling to "grow up" and "stop being so childish."
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
That is the real problem which society were judging people maturity through their age beyond the exact level of maturity. I think the people who judge people based on their age are the real immature and it is quite bit insulting to those younger generation who act more mature to their adults counterparts. Although, the same feeling is express by adults when being compare to younger generations which heighten the gaps. Adults now day are still playing children games as some refuse to grow up and sometimes they act or think like a child to eases the stress which every adults have face with the seriousness of life is still normal as long as the act of being childish is for fun and not for a lifetime is tantamount to irresponsibility as per see.
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@mythociate (19698)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
11 Nov 12
I disagree. People are responsible for their own experience-quality. One of the main factors in experience-quality is ... experience-volume (length-of-time times experience-density). Since one cannot know the 'density' of someone else's experience (how much experience they've had divided-by how well they digested that experience), the only sure 'measuring-stick' there is is "age." The 'age of maturity' is not necessarily that age at which one is ABSOLUTELY ALWAYS mature (just look at the characters that comedian David Spade plays); it's the age at which one is deemed responsible for whether they're mature or not!
@Canellita (12045)
• United States
16 Nov 09
Age has nothing to do with maturity. There are people in their 50s who still make decisions as if they were teenagers because they have never matured. It takes work to be responsible and do the right thing at all times because it is right and exhibit integrity. Maturity is the ability to discern what is appropriate.
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
I do observe too and even at my age I think not at the level of my maturity as sometimes I ave exhibit child like qualities not the childish qualities which are very stubborn most of the times as i love to have fun and that is the playful side of me is shown when i am get at ease with any person whom i could trusted. But still have a better understanding of myself and other people that I could not easily brainwash as i have my own freewill unlike when still a child does not yet have confidence to decide for themselves...
@Canellita (12045)
• United States
23 Dec 09
It's ok to be child like when it comes to certain things like creativity or starting something new. That is very different than being childish and behaving like a child. Children are fearless with approaching many things and they are energetic, enthusiatic, curious and inquisitive. Sometimes adults get bogged down in responsibility or how they think they should behave and forget to be child like in good ways. Of course there are those few who just refuse to grow up and take things to the opposite extreme no matter how old they get.
@cloud31 (5810)
3 Feb 10
Its not about age can consider person as mature, it deals upon his/her behavior. A girl or boy who is able to understand what is good and what is likely to be bad can consider matured, it has nothing to do with age, A person who is willing to accept life and what's life brings can consider matured...maturity is simply the way how you deal with life and the acceptance of life imperfections is called maturity. Happy Mylotting..God bless!
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
hi cloud31, That very true it is based on the character and the manner a person deal with with any situation with the right thinking which is both acceptable as the right manner and conduct as being shown as judge by the public as well behave and not the childish, immature type which often the characteristics found in immature person who reuse to changes because they are afraid to face the failure and success when it comes to their family or lovelife.
@cobradene (1171)
• India
21 Dec 09
It's fine to be childlike, but not childish. There is a difference. You can act mature, but continue to be childlike, and pure at heart. That's how we should be. And, according to me, there is no particular age to be mature. I have seen many people who are immature even at 50. They behave still like their own children. Only wisdom makes you mature and it can come to even a 5 year old kid or a 500 year old man or woman. Maturity comes with learning and experience. How many of us are learning from life's experiences and maturing with time? That's more important. Age has not much to do with maturity. The general maturity and growth of the mind is there as the body ages, but still, maturity has higher levels which most of us ignore. That maturity comes with wisdom and learning. Not many achieve that. Most of us get stunted after a certain point in life and don't grow beyond that stage. So according to my experience, maturity is based on experience and not on age.
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
Well, maturity is what the mind produces from a lot of experiences that is gather and though many remain child like it does not hamper their ability to be talented and skillful to their choosen career. Just for fun that is not to become too boring when things become so serious that child like attitude exist as being childish as you mention remain acting in a child like manner which is ever dependent on other people opinion. Their are who look mature and yet it an added bonus if they have store some child like behavior as a way to cool down helps a lot in combating stressful life and whereas having a good face and yet mature in thinking is an asset to be proud of as rarely combine when one grow graciously with a wider knowledge being smart to know the right or wrong decide for themselves without the undue influences from other people is a mark of maturity..
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@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
13 Dec 09
Hi neelianoscet I do not believe that the age has something to do with the maturity of a person. In my neighbourhood, the lady is not that much intelligent where as her boy of 10 years, advises his mother and she obeys him. But he guides her very correctly in all the household related things and shopping especially the money matters and he guides her in the right path which his father also appreciates. his father is a very intelligent person and takes the decision correctly
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
That really very funny but the turn of events really highlight that maturity should not be decided by the age in numbers but on how well a person act mature thinking beyond his age which really the other person could judge based on his decision to see the right or wrong in good perspectives...
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• Philippines
4 Dec 09
i think it is the same age most of the times the only difference depending on the person acting like a child or being mature they need to be aware of what is right or wrong. maturity is hone through the time experience based on the quality and not based on the quantity.
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
Yup, that really the essence of being mature able to decide for yourself as seen by others as correctly in their eyes which have more benefit to the person even being young is not a hindrance to become successful as being mature is seen on the way a person struggle to achieve her desires and dream in life without being able to do some outrageous mistakes taken only as a life experience then if one have able to surpass it then one could learn from the lesson and becomes more mature in her undertaking in life.
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• Philippines
2 Dec 09
I still act immature at the age of 29, poor me. I feel sorry for all the mistake I had done before. I agree with what you said, it is not based on the age. At the age 18 it only means you are giving a chance to walk outside the real world, without parents consent. People still make mistakes, even mature ones. Mature person is based on their life experience and what they had learned about it. It does not base on the age, it is just a numerical value. It depends on what you have been through. I have a friend she was only 17 but I can depend on her based on advices, because at that tender age of 16 she starts working for her family and her family starts to depend on her. She knows what is right and wrong I am really proud of her. She said she have no choice but to be mature because her whole family depends on her.
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
The situation which you mention only describes the school of life the lesson which everyone should undergo but only few realize its worth unless one have experience being on the same boat as you friend have see life in its full perspectives. With her experience she is able to develop maturity in thinking and acting despite of her tender age which is a good role model for her fellow peers. Whereas, even adults whose age is beyond her age are unable to accomplish what she undergo which often tested her patience beyond disbelief and yet through one hardship have accomplish something which unmatched compare to her contemporaries have set a sense of maturity in everything she have to deal with..
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@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
no right age for me as their are 40 years old acting as a 4 years old with a pea size brain that sucks deeply immature who like to annoy people, insensitive and think like abnormal freaking retarded. wasting other people and makes a lot of nuisance. maturity is knowing right or wrong without pestering other people.
• Philippines
21 Dec 09
yup, you are right they are older people who are childish most of the times and it getting worse when they grow old as they return back to their own young ways. Then, they are there to make an insulting comments, or disgusting remarks..
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• United States
19 Nov 09
I totally agree. There are many 15 year olds that are more mature than some 40 year olds. Age is just a number. It is life that makes you mature or you Never will.
• Philippines
21 Dec 09
Yup, maturity is a matter of thinking and knowing to act upon one free will as right or wrong as identify without even asking for other advices. The one who know to defend self and gives right reasoning which still acceptable with ideas which are more nicer than the adult counterparts.
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