Do you think that your present partner is a perfect match for you?

India
November 13, 2009 6:39am CST
I mean your love or life partner. It is quite common that most of us will find the partner perfect during the initial period of the relationship. It will be more meaningful if those whose relationship is at least 5 years old respond to this thread.
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35 responses
• Australia
14 Nov 09
Perfect match? I think a perfect match would imply two people exactly the same, and that would be quite boring. I have been VERY happily married for almost 50 years (in 4 months time). My husband and I might not be the perfect match, but we definitely suit each other perfectly. We fulfill each other, each one's strengths filling the other's needs. I don't know that I would agree that we find the partner perfect in the initial stages of a relationship, although I do believe this is the commonly held belief today. I believe the biggest hindrance to finding a perfect partner is RUSHING INTO a relationship. Love is NOT instant. Love takes time to develop and grow. My husband and I spent many months getting to know each other - getting to know each others' likes and dislikes, characteristics, idiosyncrasies, habits, ideals etc - without any intimacy. We became good friends, sharing mutual respect, and this developed into love and a desire to share our lives. Our love was fulfilled on our wedding night as we committed to a lifetime of sharing together. Now, 50 years later, I can say we are perfectly matched and never once have either of us thought otherwise.
• India
15 Nov 09
I salute your relationship. I don't think any one could explain about relationship better than you.I wish you a very happy life.
• United States
13 Nov 09
Honestly, No. I mean, we get along great as friends, but she has certain qualities, and certain things she does that I don't think I could live with for the rest of my life. She seems to think I'm Mr. Perfect. Even I can admit that I'm not. We all have our flaws, but I think she is too naive and immature to see mine. She's wrapped up in the thought of finding someone she gets along with as well as she does me, and thinks that were meant for each other. Which is why I am having such a hard time finding a way to tell her that I don't think were meant for each other... I wish i could be less of a nice guy. Just a little bit. Not too much lol
• India
15 Nov 09
thanks for your honest and open discussion. I hope your relationship will become stronger soon.
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
I am currently in a 5 year and 11 months long relationship after a 3 year span of not having a girlfriend after I experienced too much pain in my past relationship. I can say that me and my girlfriend are match made in heaven since we like the same things and do the same things and we do have common goals that we share in life. We've been through some storms in our relationship but luckily and with the blessings of God, we were able to surpass those trials and became stronger and better. I can say that she is the one I want to marry someday.
• India
15 Nov 09
Don't delay the good event entrepinoy. Life is short, grab the opportunity at once and never get it slip away from your hands.
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
15 Nov 09
I do wonder why it would be more meaningful for those whose relationship has lasted five years or more to answer. I believe that whether it five years or five months, some relationships take very little time to develop! My husband and I have known each other two years, and have been married 1 month and 19 days and we love each other dearly, and are very happy together... I believe him to be my perfect match!
• India
15 Nov 09
Five years -within this period you can find the flaws of your partner and your flaws will be known to your partner as well. Now you will be able to say whether you both match.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
15 Nov 09
Our flaws are known already as we live together many others I feel could say much the same. Whether they lived together before marriage or only after marriage, flaws are to be known quite quickly I believe.
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
hello vijayantjs! although i believe that nobody's perfect, i believe that my husband & i is perfect with each other... i believe so, coz i think he's the one that God gave to me, although there's some more better man than him, but he's the best man for me! we are already five years married and been in the relationship for 11 years, and i can say that we do better with each other. we already seen each other in our good & worst, and with all that, i think we compliment each other & that makes us a perfect match...
• India
15 Nov 09
wow, I am so happy for you ckyera, what else one would need in life? Wish you Happy for ever.
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
thanks!
• China
13 Nov 09
Absolutely,she is the best and sweetest,her character is as unique as her pretty.I like being with her,it's better than not being with her.sometimes,maybe a misunderstanding,sometimes,there will be a quarrel,but I have to say she is the girl who will stay with me forever.
• India
15 Nov 09
wow, that is the spirit, lichee. best of luck,long live your love.
• China
15 Nov 09
thank you,hehe.
• Spain
13 Nov 09
you can say it when your kids reach at least 6 to 10 years old if you had a perfect combination.
@rhayde29 (126)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
ouch..what if the husband and wife married at the age of 30+ oh my god!!! its very late ^^
• India
15 Nov 09
In general the time period is correct I think Kumar, thanks for the response.
@zandi458 (27947)
• Malaysia
13 Nov 09
I think it is a mismatched relationship but worked hard to straighten the rough patches in my relationship. It has driven me to a long winding 27 years of marriage and surprisingly it still survived to this date. From this union it had taught me a lot of patience and love is not all about loving the good points of a partner but also to accept all the flaws of human characters that he brought along into the relationship.
• India
15 Nov 09
Well said zandi, I like your way of thinking about married life. Accepting all the flaws of the partner can only save any relationship.
@Agoenxz (554)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 09
Wow... Experienced! Nice way of thinking! @zandi i think we have some things in commons... Keep up the good works! And God bless you.
@getbrowser (1715)
• China
13 Nov 09
perfect love - Love is not about to fit for each other,but to cherish each other. It is next to impossible for us to find a perfect love and what we should do it to learn to cherish each other.
When it comes to partner, I have to say that I am a so lucky man who has met my girlfriend. Yes, I can't agree with you anymore. It is quite common that most people find the partner perfect during the initial period of the relationship, but then, when they are getting familiar with each other, there are may some diffences appear between the relationship and then, some people tend to find another one because they think they are not fit each other or they are not perfect any more. In my eyes, love is not about to fit for each other,but to cherish each other. It is next to impossible for us to find a perfect love and what we should do it to learn to cherish each other, which is very important to keep the relationship steady forever.
• India
15 Nov 09
nice to note you have a great partner. wish you both live like this for ever.
@Agoenxz (554)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 09
Well... Congratulation my friend! But, not all people are so lucky as you do... I just feel happy for you. Have a nice life! And say my hi... To your girl friend okay!
@ilyzium (1204)
• Canada
14 Nov 09
I would also agree that there isn't anyone that's a perfect partner, but rather someone that compliments you so that it brings out your best qualities. I think we all know if we're with the right person or not. The right person for you will encourage you, compliment you in life and grow with you. The one that's not so perfect will just basically hinder you and bring you down in life. No one relationship is perfect however, but it's how you deal with your issues that determines how well you are as a couple. And this year we'll be married for 8 yrs so I think I have some knowledge on this.
• India
15 Nov 09
You definitely must be having knowledge to comment on this thread. thanks for your response
@NIECIE21 (365)
• United States
14 Nov 09
My partner is a perfect match for me. We have know each other since we were young kids, lost touch for a number of years and found each other again. When we found each other, we started off as friends until we realized that we were meant to be. Now, its not always easy, but I know that while he is not perfect, he is perfect for me, and I could not be more grateful for him.
• India
15 Nov 09
this is like a interesting love story. Keep loving each other for ever, thanks for your response.
• India
14 Nov 09
Hi, Yes, my life partner is perfect match for me. our marriage is arranged one. Now its more than two year, we love each other, we trust each other.
• India
15 Nov 09
Nice to hear that tanajimengawade. thanks for your response.
14 Nov 09
We have only been married 52 years so we'll have to see how it goes
• India
15 Nov 09
Only 52 years? maidangela? this is not a little too humble? Wish you continue the success.
@rg0205 (2638)
• Hong Kong
14 Nov 09
I don't think there is such thing as perfect but we compliment eachother's personalities. We've been together for 5 years and counting and we get along great. As time passes, we learn more about eachother and we accept the short comings of one another so overall, I think we do make a good match.
• India
15 Nov 09
that is really good to hear. keep it up for ever.
• India
14 Nov 09
hey till now i have not selected my partner for me but yes soon i will be and i will try i will find someone very like minded to me and that person should make me happy during my hole life. i now this time can wish for my better future.
• India
15 Nov 09
Wish you for a very happy married life in future.
• China
14 Nov 09
I think you put forward a good point over which I'm afraid many people have given a thought now and then. Most of us may be in relationship with at least two other people, which is a process of looking and justifying because we may always find some deficiencies in our current partner. As for me, I'm not yet content with my present partner. Actually, I've discovered a lot of defects in him the two-year relationship. I'm an optimistic person and I always like to look on the bright side whatever difficulties I encounter, so I want my partner also to be an optimistic and outward person. The fact, however, is he's really a pessimist, always complaining and worrying. His job, his cowokers, his boss, etc.. are all things he complains about. I'm a woman, and I want him to be a backup for me. But instead of supporting me and be my backup, he often leaves delicate things for me to deal with even when it should and must be him who deals with that. Honestly, I'm thinking of breaking up with him since he's not the right guy for me.
• India
15 Nov 09
Thanks for the detailed discussion chenxiaoyue. Nice to note you are highly positive thinking woman.I wish you could make him positive too with your efforts, if it is possible. Just a request, thanks.
@jugsjugs (13038)
14 Nov 09
I have found that over the years lots of peoples common interests all change and i am sorry to say that neither of us have much in common only our children.I have been married 13 years.
• India
15 Nov 09
wow, this is a rare combination then. Then I wish you two to stay with conflicts as it seems tow ork for you both, hehehe.
• United States
14 Nov 09
we almost been together for a year sofar every thing is good but i can't realy tell with this little time.
• India
15 Nov 09
I fully agree with you pesona, wish your relationship will become stronger soon.
13 Nov 09
yes i think pernt are partner is perfect
• India
15 Nov 09
Nice to note that, thanks for your response.
@rcombos (58)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
I am married to my present partner for 12 years now and I am grateful to God that it has been a good and happy relationship. I really cannot say if we're a perfect match or if there is such a thing as a perfect match, but we are happy ang still in love with each other. We do compliment each other. It's not all happy times though. There were disagreements along the way, but I guess that is part of a relationship. With regards to a partner changing over time, I am happy to say that the change has only been for the better. I guess I am one of the lucky ones.
• India
15 Nov 09
Well said rcombos, disagreements are definitely part of a relationship. Nice to note you are among the few lucky people.