Between money and life...give your decision in a split second!!!
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39142)
Philippines
November 14, 2009 5:38am CST
Hello friends and dear mylotters,
This week is a way too emotional for me,my sister in-law was rushed to the hospital and is now in a very crucial condition.
I haven't recovered for this unexpected event,and here again...another sad event.
Last Thursday night,a good friend of mine was hit by a speeding motorcycle,she was badly hurt...she's in a dilemma.
Her ct scan shows some head trauma..blood clotting and the worst is,she can't recognize anyone.
Her movements were uncontrollable,her condition is getting worst every hour.
She badly needed to be operated after 24 hours if her condition doesn't show any progress.
We do(friends and organization) our best to give our best help.
We choose a good hospital that we know can give her the proper medication.
Then,this morning,i have learned that,her husband signed a weaver to transfer her wife(the victim) to a government hospital(which is cheaper).
I ask his husband why he had to that,and he directly replied me
" i can't afford the high bills from that private hospital"
i tried to hide my tears upon hearing his statement...
How could a husband utter such word?
Her wife's condition needs proper care and medication.
Her wife's room(at present in that government hospital) has no any medical facilities for her condition...when she needed a neuro intensive unit.(like from her previous room in a private hospital)
I don't understand why he has to do that...when we give our 100% assurance of help regarding financial matter.
Even the downpayment for that private hospital we provided it,so,why he worries too much about money...when her wife's situation is between life and death.
Up to this moment...my heart is in pain...thinking their kids(4 kids aged between 15 and the youngest is more than 1 year old.)
Now,he sends me a message asking "shall i need to bring back my wife to that private hospital?"
Maybe becoz,he sees his wife condition is getting worst.
This morning...her face (left side)is swollen,she can't open eyes anymore.
A tube was inserted to her nose for food passage...very sad and heartbreaking image of a mother.(gosh...really my heart is breaking)
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8 responses
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
hello jaiho...
that was really sad...and sorry to hear it...
for me, of course i will choose life... we can always earn money, but we can never bring life back...and it will just leave us in regret.
its just sad that it seems that when we don't have money, we also don't have the right to live...huh! that's really happening around us, many instances that some poor families just let their love one pass for a reason that they don't have enough money to pay for a better hospital...and usually some government hospitals don't have good facilities to use to save a patient's life...
i wish & pray for the recovery of your sister in law as well as your friend...
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
Hello cykera,
Hello friend amiga,i know you really knew about what i mean with some government hospitals here in our country.
One thing i really can't understand is the husband's reaction,i can't imagine a husband thinking about the bills first than his wife's safety.
If i can't bear to see her condition and situation,why her husband can't feel the way i feel?(i think i am getting paranoid /too much emotional,that i don't know)
I know you can understand very well what i am feeling dear,and thanks for your response.
Thanks a lot.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
the only option here for us is to pray and to have a deep faith that God will spare her life and allow her to recover smoothly.remember nothing is impossible to the lord if we asked him seriously about the things that really scare us and things that we feel we can't handle. God doesn't give us trials that we can't handle and am sure their family can get over this trial, with the help of the Lord.
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@kunizzul (1066)
• Malaysia
14 Nov 09
i'm sorry to heard about that but if we need to choose between money and life its better to choose life. money you can find it again but life you can't get it anymore if you lost it. sometime when people doesn't have much money while their kids is sick and need treatments its very sad you know. we the one that have some money sometime need to give something to them. this how we show our love and humanity to others.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
Hello kunizzul,
Money is nothing compared to our loved ones life.
But i wonder why some people think about how much they're gonna spend and that makes them feel the need to think of it rather than thinking the welfare of their loved ones first and foremost.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always friend
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
17 Nov 09
Hi jaiho,
You posted this discussion 3 days before and I am just going through it. My eyes are wet by reading your description
. I can't understand her husband's stand. He can make money later but what he will do for his kid's mother and the younger is one year old really need the care of a mother. How about your sister in law? Hope she recovered from the critical condition. I understand your pain dear and I am joining with you. Here I am sending my prayers and good wishes to both of them.
. I can't understand her husband's stand. He can make money later but what he will do for his kid's mother and the younger is one year old really need the care of a mother. How about your sister in law? Hope she recovered from the critical condition. I understand your pain dear and I am joining with you. Here I am sending my prayers and good wishes to both of them.
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
I understand my bonita the feeling you have felt right now...yes, that would be my feeling if I would be in your situation..I don't know if I am right or wrong with my suggestions.
Why don't you ask the attending doctor the chances of the victim to still live normally? If the chances to survive and live normally again then it would be right to put the victim into a good and well facilitated hospital..but if we go on practicality in terms of financial status then I think the decision of the father would be right.
Isn't it that we did not own our lives? No matter what we do at the best we could beyond on our capability if it would be given by our Creator then there's nothing we could do.
In your own way of thinking (practically) would you still spend a lot of money when the doctor said she could not live anymore in a normal life in spite of lending and borrowing big amount of money for the medication?
Would it be an additional big burden of the family?
That's only my opinion...
I hope your friend and her family could survive their trials...
Mobhomeir
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
Hello amigo,
I can understand your stand here,i can understand what you to mean.
Her condition is very crucial,she is under observation for a week(it's 3 days now since the accident happen)the doctors were giving her first option of medication,if her condition would respond then,there is no need for an operation(that we hope for the best)
But,what i am saying amigo is,the hospital where we take her is one of the best and with complete facilities with regards to her condition...the surgeons,the neuro facilities and all needed for such condition(head/brain injuries)
The doctors give us assurance that she might survive 75%...and brain damage should be considered depending the patient's way of reacting(if she will fight or not).
Consequences are...she might lost her memory but still be a normal(amnesia like),or if she might have permanent brain damaged and would be acting like a child again.
But to hear from a husband a word like that...thinking about the bills first,is one reaction that i never expected to hear.
And,he doesn't need to borrow a big amount of money,just like what i told you,we are providing him financial help(our organization).
Some volunteers even take turns to be a watcher at night time so he can go home and attend his kids.
Whatever his reasons...i hope he won't regret anything in the end.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always my dear amigo
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
Well, my bonita, if that would be the case I will take the chances as long as the percentage of living than dying...Yes, i will take all the consequences as long as my wife would survive. I mean, I will reverse my option...thanks for the BR my bonita...Mobhomeir
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
yes dear amigo,the doctors give him big assurance of living,thu there were consequences to be considered.
But when he heared the amount in case an operation will be needed (200-400 thousand)that's the reason why he withdrawn his wife from that hospital.
Well,updating her condition...doctor's sees changes and reaction,but still not reliable enough to feel happy...but,still a good sign for us.
Have a great weekday ahead amigo
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@zacharyzeng (22)
• China
15 Nov 09
i am awfully sorry to hear it and hope ur friend would recover ASAP
Money is nothing compared to life as long as there is a thread of hope of savine beloved one's life,which is deserved to do anything.
From ur statement,i judge/like to believe that it is not her husband's first reaction cause he agreed(i guess)to send her wife to a private hosptial,then(After one day)decided to tranfer her to a cheaper one.During this period,i believe,in fact,he truly withstand lots of pressure and face the innermost struggle...
Subsequently,he sent you a meeage so as to get ur advice,which at least can explain that he realize life is first and foremost
High expense of treating is indeed problem for the poor family,i am not trying find an excuse for him,i guess that he suffer most because the victim is his beloved one-his wife.
i will,definitely,put life before money!
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@TickleMeBreathless (590)
• United States
15 Nov 09
Oh my gosh... I'm so sorry you're going through such a difficult situation. I'm praying that she makes it through. As for choosing between money and life, I'm proud to say I would choose life. If my husband was in the same situation I would have him in the best hospital available. I would get three jobs if I had to, and I would ask for loans that I could slowly pay off from family and friends. Anything to keep my loved ones alive.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
Hello friend,
You are such a loving person,giving it all to save your loved ones life.
Getting three jobs of necessary,you are such a great person willing to do all kind of sacrifices for your family and love ones.
Thanks for your response and have a great weekend ahead dear
@Nagappan81 (13)
• India
15 Nov 09
Life is more precious than money.Money can earned anytime, but life can't be brought back if its gone.Life is more important than money because we can't buy love with money, but we get that love from our fellow beings.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
hello friend,
you are right dear,life is more important than anything else.
We can't buy love ,most of all,we can't buy life either.
And life is only once given...so,it should not be consider to gamble with.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
there's nothing i can do regarding this situation jaiho, so am really sorry about the things you said today about your friend. i believe in this case, you can think of life and just to preserve of life and instead pray for her recovery. life is so short, i hope that driver makes a karma out of himself and get's a bad luck for life..i cannot believe that such motorcycle guy can do this damage to a woman's life.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
Hello dear brother,
Thanks dear,a prayer is the most powerful weapon and medicine for this situation,and you are right there...God only knows what's best for us,and that HE will never give us trials that we can't bear to carry.
The motorcycle was speeding according to witnesses...80 something,and there is some related case too why that motorcycle's been overspeeding.
One incident is,it is being chased by a respondent,becoz,there was a hold-up in a nearby place...and that motorcycle is running away from the first crime he committed,and again...another crime,he hit my friend and run away too.
If this two incident will be find out related,i hope his conscience will haunt him.
until now,the case is still on the progress...
thanks for your response my dear brother and have a great day always.
thanks for your response my dear brother and have a great day always.