should i settle for an ex while i am going through a mid life crisis
By smallcloud
@smallcloud (338)
Malaysia
November 14, 2009 10:28am CST
my uncle was 41 years old, never married, great career, and for the most part, happy with life, that being said, he is very lonely while midlife crisis is hitting him pretty hard lately, the last two women he dated ahd everything a person could want. they re kind, smart ,funny, highly educated, very attractive and they wanted(he didnt date both at the same time)to take their relationship with my uncle to the next lever like marriage or cohabit, but he jus wasnt in love with them. he has always compared every girl he has dated to his first love which he dated 17years ago, only for a one year and have not seen her since they broke up.. he googled her recently and tried to contact her through a site that they both belong to as a member. however, he didnt get any response from him. he is very curious what she will response to him and imagine it several times
here is his question"why does thiie bother him so much? hsould he settle and get vack with one of the girls he mentioned. all the men he know think he is crazy for not marrying one those girls and that they would do anything just to date them.
3 responses
@ishme4nowz (679)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I think that your uncle is still in love with the first girl, which is why he keeps comparing other girls to her. I don't think that your uncle should get back with one of the two girls unless he really wants to give it another shot because it would be unfair for the other girl to think that he really does want to be with her when in reality, he's just using her as a way to cope with his mid life crisis. If he doesn't love any one of them, he shouldn't marry any of them. It wouldn't be very fair for either one. It should be up to his feelings as to if he should try to date one of the girls again, but he should also remember that it's also not as if he can date them whenever he wants. They may have moved on. So, he is not in control of whether they will accept his proposal to date each other again, so there is no guarantee he can get either one of them back.
@eLsMarie (4477)
• New Zealand
15 Nov 09
it could be possible that the woman already forgot about her experience with your uncle or it could be that she's no longer interested with him. seventeen years is a very long time and things have change for the both of them especially that the girl and your uncle in the past didn't really have that intimate relationship with each other. it's too bad that your uncle always compare those girls to that woman but he only made a move of communicating to her after seventeen years.
@olepmis (840)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
No response from his ex so how could he settle for his ex. How could he settle for any woman he is dating if he is not in love to anyone of them. If you get married, love should exist between the 2 persons. However, love develops as time goes by so he must choose between his 2 gfs since he is already 41 and time to have kids.
