Can you change your religion if you married with somebody who have other religio

@icesmile (7160)
Romania
November 15, 2009 6:05pm CST
Is fair? Is correct? Is religion just something what somebody can change even he or she are in love? Is fair to change your parents religion, who teach you about your traditions and religion, for somebody who you love, but with who you will live all life? If he or she try to convince you that you must your religion you will accept this, or you must first see if you can accept something like this? Are you one who can change everything for your life love?
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• Canada
16 Nov 09
No you shouldn't have to change your religion if you are married with somebody who has another religion because the he or she can work things out and be faithful to one another and just talk about their religion together as a couple. Look at it this way if no one wants to change their religion just keep your faith and work together as a team try going to each other's church like one week he goes to yours and then the next week you will go to his and see what they do differently because it won't hurt to see different types of religion.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Nov 09
So, in your opinion, both can be happy if everyone respect other religion, ..is my opinion too
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@elokps (138)
• Indonesia
16 Nov 09
I can't change my religion even i'm in love with someone cause it's matter of your believe of God. I always talk about it to someone who in love with me at first time that I can't change my religion for him. and then decision is in his hand even he still want to continue relationship with me or leave me after knowing that. But it's ok for me whatever his decision and i appreciate his decision. religion is principal.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Nov 09
Do you think that every religion have other God? Not religion make us to believe strongly in God...just our faith
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• Pakistan
16 Nov 09
if u are week in your relegion u change your relegion but muslim not change our relegion
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Nov 09
Hi, i am sure that here i don t talk about to be weak or not;in my opinion, all believe in same God, even this word is different in different religion; Why do you think that a muslim can t be "weak" if he or she is in love? Maybe i am weak in religion, but for sure that i am very strong in my believe in God
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• India
16 Nov 09
i dont think i will change my religion for someone i love. i can give my life for her in a heartbeat but i cant change my roots. but as you know its an indivdual choice on whether u want to compromise with the religion or not. but if you change your religion there is nothing wrong in that. i am telling this right now cause i love someone of my religion may be i would have changed it if she was from other religion.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Nov 09
This is a nice answer in religion spirit...so, to understand what somebody can or not, this is a real faith
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@nawanta (328)
• Indonesia
17 Nov 09
Though I'm not a religious person, I won't change my religion just because being asked by someone.
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
dear ice, in my opinion it is always your decision to go changing religion. it is what you believe. if you are not happy and you have doubts on the religion you are in, and then you get to know other religion and you feel contented with the teachings there, you know that you will have to transfer sooner or later. i will not transfer just because my partner is of a different religion. ann
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• United States
16 Nov 09
Hi, Ice. Our religious difference caused John and me to be apart for many years, although we were close friends. Now we've been happily married for many years, respecting each other's religions completely. Neither of us would be willing to change, nor would we even consider asking the other to do so.
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@xannebull (1800)
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
I think it depends on the religion, i don't like religions who are so strict with their rules. If it's just okay, then i would rather change it if it's a must.
• Romania
16 Nov 09
i would not change my religion for anything in the world even though i loved that person.My religion is sacred to me.
• Canada
29 Jan 10
Some people do, but I woudln't. I am a Presbyterian and I married a Mormon. Neither one of us changed our religions. We go to both churches, his one week, mine the other. We are both interested in eachother's religion, and enjoy going to eachother's churches together, instead of our own separately.
@rhayde29 (126)
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
are you from the philippines???coz i know that here in the philippines,,,the religion is important to every religious people, well the one like INC (INglesia ni Cristo) woman marrying a catholic man,, man must change his religion,, ahyyyyzzzzzzz i dont like it
• India
16 Nov 09
It is very unfair and selfish for one person to force another person to change his/her religion in the name of love. This kind of pressure tactics reflects the parochial nature both of the person who is enforcing the conversion and also the religion that the person is following and forcing his/her partner to convert to. Both love and religion are beautiful concepts that should aim at fostering unity and good nature amongst people… the moment you denounce another religion and force your partner to convert, you are belittling and insulting the other religion…nobody has any right to insult and belittle another’s religion without any provocation. And loving a person truly means to love after knowing everything about that person, religion included. If you cant accept your partner’s different religion, then you obviously don’t love your partner…you only want to possess your partner. Personally, I would never change my religion for love and I believe all religions should ban conversion in the name of love and marriage…it is just another trick to increase the number of followers of a particular religion.
• China
16 Nov 09
i don't have religion ,my boyfriends too . buy here i want to say ,if my boyfried's relion different than me , i am not change mine for him ,and i think if he love me enough ,he won't force my thougt and will repect me .he love you ,love your eventhing.
• China
16 Nov 09
I have no religion and my boyfriend also have no religion.So, I am not puzzled by the problem. It's a pity to hear that somebody is puzzled by the problem. Maybe they can find a suitable way to manage it. Hope everybody has a happy life.
• China
16 Nov 09
Hi, Ice, I won't change my faith. I think I won't marry somebody who has other faith. It's really troublesome. Once I imagine that marry a non-faith man, if he don't interfere me on religion, that's okay. This is the bottom line.
@fg92416 (19)
• China
16 Nov 09
Well,it is a huge issue that lovers have to confront to various religions, and it is hard to reach old age. In addition, i do not think that lovers will change his religion. Hance,I am sad to tell you that it is impossible.
• India
16 Nov 09
HI, If you really love someone, religin is not issue for relation. Religin is important no doubt, not singgle religin oppose intercast marriege. Religin and love are two different thing and both are equally important.
@getbrowser (1715)
• China
16 Nov 09
religions - For a couple, if they want to have a long and steady relationship with their love, it is a necessity thay both hunband and wife should believe the same religions.
If I get married with someone who have different religions with me, then I think I will have to make a choice between the religion and love. In my eyes, if a couple have different religions, even if they have built a good relationship with each other, then getting married, they may meet some troubles in their daily life someday. That is to day, if one wants to have a long and steady relationship with the love, it is a necessity thay both hunband and wife should believe the same religions. If I have gotten married with someone who have different religions with me, in order to enjoy a better life with her, I tend to change my religion.
@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 09
Nope, I don't think I would. I'm a Christian, while my hubby is a Buddhist. We respect each other's beliefs and celebrate all the festivities together. We don't preach to each other; however I find that I learn and appreciate Buddhism this way. Had he insisted on changing my beliefs, I would have rebelled or worse, close my mind and hate his religion. So I can't understand why some people can't respect others' religious beliefs, instead of tearing families apart or killing people in the name of religion.
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
Well for me, i don't care if my wife will ask me to change religion, if it is the rules of their church why not? But as much as possible of course i will try to talk to her, but if there is no chance then i will change religion, that is how i love my wife, anyway it will not happen cause we have the same religion right now, that is only what if. And anyway, i really do not care, cause for me what important is i believe that there is a loving God, and a God that will never let us down and a God whose only rules is to love!
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
This is actually one issue we have to go through before we get married - my partner and I. We have different religions and neither one of us would want to shift religions. But he isn't an active participant of his religion while I am. We have talked about it several times and truly thought that a family with different religions wouldn't work out well. Not just because we'd not have the same faith, but there'd be confusion as to why mommy goes to another church while dad goes to his church during Sundays instead of having the family together. Though we haven't come up with a solution. We have talked that before we do get married, we'd give each of the religion a shot and choose one. The choosing hasn't started yet because of our busy schedules and apart from the reason that he's far in another country for work. But I'm hoping things would be resolved before we do choose to get married someday. As for your question of changing my religion. If I would see, from our 'testing the religions' activity that his religion would be equally good for our family and there's a strong reason for me to change religions, then I would. Provided that we have truly laid out all the points well. For I would fight for my religion, but would definitely do anything to keep my family intact.