Love hurts...
By yan_blue8
@yan_blue8 (1437)
Philippines
November 17, 2009 9:22am CST
Me and my partner have been together for quite a while now. He is always there to support me in all ways and always there to show me how much i really mean to him. We know we love each other. He never complained to me at all.
At times, i feel guilty because I'm not giving him enough reasons why am i acting weird at times. Enough to grasp; that would give him understanding of what I'm going through. I just don't want him to swallow ALL of my problems. But nonetheless, he is still there.
Last night, we had a big fight. I am having such a big problem about my family and I'm texting him about it and he never even came to my house to comfort me or what. I was so sad that for the first time, he wasn't there. I am hurt because it feels like he didn't even care at all. Or is it just my feeling?
I am really upset on him not with me during that time. I can't understand his explanations. Love hurts, really really hurts. I am in the point of giving him up now. But i still love him. Any advice on what i need to do with this situation?
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11 responses
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
it wouldn't be fair if you'll only think about your own needs. you're partners so it's a must for the both of you to balance things in order for you guys to have a healthy relationship... when he explains, listen to him. when he's excuse can convince you, forgive him. apologize to him for being mean... lower down your pride because if you'll practice it you won't lose him in the end.
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@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
Yes, i used to have a comfort from him and I am used to it probably! 
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@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
I do still love him and hopefully as soon as time possible we can have this fix. Maybe I am just truly mad, that's why I am acting this way now. Sorry about that!
Thanks for commenting bentoyhk!
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@oasis_9 (831)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Did he tell you his reasons why he didn't show up?probably he's facing some problems of his own as well and he doesn't want you to know it also for you are having quite a lot of burdens. In a relationship there's need to be a team work between the two of you for it to work so if you feel like he doesn't have time for you anymore think about your time for him? what have you done for him to make him happy or to comfort him?
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@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I never listened to his explanations when we have an issue. But things worked out fine now. Thanks for responding!
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@Drsunny21 (556)
• India
18 Nov 09
No don`t do tht,if on one instance he is not with you,so you are ready to give up...Remember the many times when he is with you.I dont understand people does not remember the thousand good things we done...but they just remember the 1 bad things we had done...My gf was like this....I had cared her and loevd her vry much...But one day i said something but it was in different sense and she took in other sense and then got angry and then i dont want to talk wth you and all...I said thousand time sorry to her...it was not my mistake then also...But she never understand this things tht i love her,i care for her...She doesnt see all this....Wht she had said i cant marry you i had problems in my family....It hurts vry much but still i make myself strong and said its ok dont worry...I just said her i will be with you forever when ever you need my help just call me out....Before falling in love you make any agreement...No...Then why all this...
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
I know I just need sometime to think about this over and over again before i make my actions. Its true that often times people tend to forget the thousands things we have done and concentrate on our fault alone. But you also can help it. If you're mad, you can seem to think of the right way and at the same time forget those wonderful and good things that person have done.
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@lynnzheng (89)
• China
18 Nov 09
maybe sometimes, both of you need to be calm down. being calm down can help you think right thing. your partner always support you, but this time he does not, maybe he is as sad as you. just keep silence for a night or for a day and talk with him. hope everything will go fine.
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@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
He has his own reasons but i can't seem to listen to it. Or even i do, i don't accept if for now. Hopefully we can work this out really soon and we could be together again. I'm missing him!
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• United States
18 Nov 09
Love defiantly does hurt... but don't give up on him take some time and think it over eventually things will get to what you want them to be.
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
I hope it will eric!
Thanks for sharing. Welcome to mylot!
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
18 Nov 09
Sounds to me like the two of you need to have a face-to-face talk with each other. Ask him what is going on? Tell him that you don't want this kind of tension. You love him and you don't want to be angry at him. Right or wrong, if you love him, you have got to make-up with him somehow. You two need to work out things before they get real sour.
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@sincere4frdship (2228)
• India
18 Nov 09
Well, you are right .....Love always hurts ....
but I have got one thing that there is no way other also ....
Its like .....if you alone also ...its hurts to not getting anyone to share you emotional weakness and when you with some one ...they hurts you ...
I prefer to be with some one ...
I have also got so many trouble in my past ...and I have written to much here also .... But everything is ok now ...as I have got some one else who cares for me ...
Thanks :)
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@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
18 Nov 09
If you love him, you'll care about him. You will not treat it as a 'problem solver engine'.
Now, immediately contact him and apologize. Then change your attitude to him. Build a relationship of mutual respect and appreciate balanced.
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Thanks for your advice hsofyan!
Things are working good on us now. 
You're right, I should have not treat him as a problem solver
You're right, I should have not treat him as a problem solver1 person likes this
@smallcloud (338)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 09
hi yan_blue8
first of all, i will ask you a question. if there someone will keep always beside you 24 hours? and the second, are you willing to give up of him becoz of he is not with you once?
there is nobody will keep always besides you or appeared in front of you when you need him. he already tried to do his best for you, have you ever see it?
he is also a human being, he has also emotion, mood, and temper. anyway, he already give in to you many and many time, do you sense it?
there is a phrase saying: fight is let you more understand each other. treassure each other, treassure the one truly love you
happy mylotting,smile~~
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
Hi smallcloud!Thanks for your input!
I never say he should be beside me 24 hours but at least he should be there especially when i need him the most (and that i mean i really need him that time) but he didn't appear.
Are you willing to give up on him because he is not with you once?
No! Its just that I was mad. I am agitated because i expected too much from him.
Can you enlighten me? Why did you say he give in to me many times?
I just love that phrase about fighting, but i can't help it to be mad. I am human too, and I'm hurt because of what he did.
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@goldenteardrops (747)
• United States
17 Nov 09
If this was the first time then be patience. it might not be as bad as you think. Sometimes when we get to involved in things we overlook the other needed things.You said you know he loves you..He is there when he can? but there is a limit being to pushy, to much father figure, to much all I hear about stuff..sorta think things out before speaking and being to quick to judge. If you love him to be a little understand also. there use to be an old saying..walk a mile in their shoes, ask yourself if it was reverse what you would do but be real to understand. Maybe it will work out sit calmy down and ask to talk to him and talk it out tell him first you love him and want things to work but you need to talk to hime for he is someone you trust and need advice. Most men like to give advise and want you to ask, right or wrong then you can talk it out..to the best answer. good luck..
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@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
Thank you for your comment! I appreciate it. I understand him but its just that it makes me upset of what happened. He keeps contacting me earlier and calling several times but I do not answer. I am not yet ready to do it for now yet though. But probably i can see him soon so we can talk about our issues. Thanks again. Have a great day!
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