Talking about ME ME ME!!!!

@Djbrat (333)
United States
November 19, 2009 10:17am CST
Okay, I know it's really hard to sit and listen to your partner go on and on and on about the subjects that they love. Part of being in a relationship is listening to each other's wants and likes and everything else that is on their mind. But when is it enough. When you can you, will you listen to me now?
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5 responses
• India
20 Nov 09
A very interesting topic you started friend. There's two types of hearing, listening and waiting. When you wait, you just wait for your partner to stop so that you start to talk. In my case, I love it when my gf talks about her things. How was her day, what she did in college, what did each of her friends say and this n that... I feel she's happy and she has this beautiful smile on when somebody's listening so intently. the next time you feel that your partner is talking on and on, just try to listen to them instead of waiting. Take interest in the topic, even if you find it boring there must be something in it that makes it interesting for your partner. Just find that interesting part and start talking on it... Else, you can just cut when they are talking and say, "My turn ! My turn !!!" All the best buddy, take care...
@Djbrat (333)
• United States
20 Nov 09
Great advice. Yes I will try it. I don't know how well it will turn out but I'll never know unless I try right? Thanks... :o)
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• India
20 Nov 09
You do that friend, it works all the time for me, my girlfriend just keeps on talking and talking and talking
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
20 Nov 09
Hi Dj! I think there should be a mutual understanding and a keen interest in listening to each other. When we talk out our day we must also listen to hers or his. The power of listening is immense. I can understand your grudge there but then we have to be assertive and let the other person understand that we too have a day to share. What is a relationship without sharing and being with each other! Have a nice day.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Nov 09
You will do it alright Dina. Trust me, you are the best, just believe in yourself. You are the best. Love and hugs
@Djbrat (333)
• United States
20 Nov 09
Absolutely, your so right. I have a little bit of a pride thing. Right now going through my hard times, my self-esteem is low and I don't want to start an arguement. I know what you are saying and that is the advice I would give to someone else in this situation. I guess I'm just working up to it. Thanks so much... :o)
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
16 Mar 10
Hi, Djbrat. I know how this is. If my husband constantly just talks about himself all the time, I will get pretty annoyed. I will end up telling him about it. I would tell him that I want him to focus more on me as well. And that I would want to be included in his conversations too.
@Djbrat (333)
• United States
17 Mar 10
yes, I know what you mean. I love listening to him talk about things he is excited about. It makes me happy to see him happy. But, when I talk about the things I'm excited about, I would like the same return. Just sometimes I feel like I give and give, but when it's my turn to talk, he seems like he just can't wait for me to stop talking, so I just stop and then I feel resentful. It's not a good feeling. We need to work on this.
@shadow41 (2351)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
Hi Djbrat. I have this feeling that you're upset with someone. I assume you're upset of your partner. No? Well if you do maybe you should try to tell your partner that you wanted to be listened too. Tell your partner that listening to him all the time sickens you. Maybe he's used in you listening to him all the time. Don't you think it's time for you to complain? I'm sorry if I assume so much on this one. I just hope I'm on the right track. shadow41
@Djbrat (333)
• United States
19 Nov 09
Thanks, yeah you are right, it's just very hard to tell someone that listening to them talk about something they love is okay, just not alllll the time. Thanks..
@nimaro (94)
• United States
19 Nov 09
Maybe get with someone who's interests you actually share. Then you can both enjoy eachother's rambling at the same time, instead of taking turns tolerating the other's behavior.
@Djbrat (333)
• United States
19 Nov 09
We have similar interests, just we don't seem to talk about them much. He has a lot on his mind which is fine. But so do I and i would like to talk about what is on my mind as well. thanks for your advice.