How can i stop them in underestimating me?
By sebastian94
@sebastian94 (34)
Romania
November 19, 2009 2:04pm CST
Ok! Here's my problem. Some of my classmates understimate pretty much (not all though). This is really getting on my nerves because they think im weak altough they forget that i had some problems with one of their friends last year from which he got pretty messed up i kinda lose all my control when i'm nervous and that's actually my true problem if they continue this and push me too far it might get ugly and i don't want to hurt them and i'll also have problems with my teachers and parents. So how can i solve this more peacefully. Can anyone give some advice? Thanks a lot!
4 responses
@my_name_is_coco (4334)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
I think the issue here is you being concerned of people underestimating you.you don't have to fight them back physically.just do what you what you are good at.show them that you are capable of things they never thought you'll be.you do not have to fight anyone to prove you are good at something.just keep doing what you are good at and improve yourself.the look of shock and amazement on their face is the best revenge you can get.
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
People can sometimes be rude to you. That's part of life. There will always be people who will see negative points about you no matter how hard you try to be nice. You cannot please everyone as they say. And with your problem, you cannot stop them from underestimating you. You can't control them. The only advice I could give you is to show them you are not affected with their reactions, just mind your own thing, and do your best with everything you do. This way, they will see that there's no point in underestimating you because it's obvious that you are good in your stuffs. :)
@rhemsley (27)
• Canada
19 Nov 09
your issue isn't being underestimated because in the end of things, that doesn't change a thing about you, not your performance, nothing. Your only issue is that you asked this here. It shows a level of insecurity and a low level of confidence. Start asking how to repair those things, rather then something that you have no control over.
@dessylatief (4)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 09
Dear Sebastian,
I kinda got similar problem when I was at school. I did not know it then, but I do now, that we actually do not have to prove ourselves to anyone but us. However, I remember 'the itch' to do so.
I suggest you to stay away from those classmates to avoid regrets, from you especially, just in case you cannot resist the 'temptation'. It might sound lame, but TIME will prove your quality. That is what has happened to me. I tried so hard to prove myself to my peers that I did some things I regretted afterwards. Then I tried to prove things only to myself, but people noticed it!
I believe once you are happy and proud of yourself, your surroundings will get the 'vibe' and never question you again. Oh, I almost forgot, having a true friend to be there for you helps a lot, too!
