Will you tell your spouse about your close mylot friend?

hello there... well, i have a husband and i also have few good friends here in mylot from opposite gender... i tell my husband what's happening here and share with him the fun that i am having here...im lucky to have a husband like him who understands me and just let me enjoy...hehe and, my husband knows who are my friends on & offline and i tell him almost everything...and besides, i also let him become friends to opposite gender online...hehe

My wife knows a lot about Mimpi.

I am separated now. But what the heck. I most definitely would. I would like him to trust me. Marriage is based on trust, is it not?

Yes, I think so.LOL Im not sure because I dont have a spouse. Im not even in a relationship so there isnt anyone who might be jealous of the correspondence that I have with my close myLot friends. Hypothetically speaking, if I did have a husband, he would know about my close friendship with some of the myLot members. Chatting and emails could be unnoticeable since these are normal activities done with friends. Laptops or computer accounts are also private property to an extent so unless he snoops around and not ask me directly, he wouldnt know about it. If its up to the point of calling on the phone, or even over the internet, then of course he will notice that. Out of curiosity he would ask who I was talking to. I wont hide my close myLot friendship to my husband. He would probably know about it even before it got that close to the point of voice phone calls. I would tell my husband that there is/are (a) myLot member(s) who gave an interesting response to my discussion that we got engaged into debating or extensively discussing the topic at hand. I would probably even show him the discussion thread so he can read for himself. But of course, with the closeness that I could have with my myLot friends, my husband might probably be jealous about it. I will be totally honest and open about this friendship to him. He is after all my husband. Wouldnt it be a twisted turn of events if those 2 myLot friends would end up together..? Im kinda waiting for that to happen. I mean, as a collector of peoples' stories, it would be very nice to see a discussion saying that they met in myLot, then they became husband and wife.

Sure why not? What would they have to be jealous about? I am sure that they have their own 'friends' also!

O well even if i don't tell her, she will knew it. Cause she is always on my side always when using the internet, we both are working on the internet, and beside, why not to tell here, if it is really nothing. My wife is not a jealous type and besides she trust me so much and i am doing my best for that trust not to be destroyed. Have a nice day.

I am not married but do have a b/f who I have been with for 6 years now, but we do not live together He knows everything and he knows what I do on here I have no reason to hide anything at all and he trusts me totally So yes if I did have a Friend like that I would tell him with out a second thought

There would be nothing to tell. Whenever my husband was in the same room (which was usually) I would be reading the best discussions, responses, chats, and e-mails aloud to him while he watched the TV. No secrets, nothing to hide. One person's friends were the other's.

Hi, mimpi. Well, if I do, the first thing that he would ask me is why am I telling him about another man that I am talking to. He does not want to hear about any of my friendships with another man.. He feels that I may be bragging about him. And as my hubbie, he may get a little jealous.. But he does not want me to know that he is jealous.. He is not violent or nasty with it.. I would probably have to keep this away from him, just to keep confusion down.

I would be honest enough to tell my spouse about this online friend. Actually, I've done that, I have my BOF (Best Online Friend) and I've told my husband about him. At first, he was really jealous but I assured him that nothing is really going on between us. It's really pure friendship. HUGZ my friend.

Hey mimpi! I do tell my "man" about my "friends" on mylot! He doesn't pay any mind at all! He doesn't care if I have male friends who call me on the phone or if I go out with them! I'm the jealous one! I hate that he has female friends who call him on his cellphone! He just doesn't get upset no matter what and doesn't seem to understand when I do! He is much more laid back and calmer than I am! So there isn't anything that I could do that would make him jealous! He has seen me talking to men on mylot or online and it just doesn't phase him! So, what can I do?

I had such a friendship a while ago with a fellow MyLotter that, yes is a fellow! (LOL) He was having a few problems and we emailed each other a few times. This guy lives on the other side of the world and I doubt very much that we will ever physically meet any time soon but I did tell my husband and kept him up to date with the conversations I was having with this guy until my husband became quite interested and every few days he would ask me how my friend from MyLot was doing out of genuine interest. My husband has come a long way because years ago when we were dating, he had a rather jealous nature but we’ve worked through it and that is why I feel I can share things like this with him with the knowledge that he will be rational about it and the same goes if the situation was reversed of course...I think...(LOL)

If this person is for real just a friend like you say then yes of course I would tell my husband. This person is calling my house and emailing all the time so I am sure that if I didn't tell my husband about this friends he may get suspicious...I have yet to talk to a person here on mylot other than responding to their discussions. I have told me husband about mylot and he doesn't mind that I am on here and spend most of my time on her but I think that that also has to do with I pretty much let him use the money I make on here with paypal LOL....

Sure mimpi1911, i'd tell my spouse about it. When you've made good friends it'll be selfish on our part to not share the good fortune of having made such wonderful friends from any part of the world. I'll definitely share it and also introduce them to my spouse, if they're willing. Thank you.

Hypothetically if such a situation was ever there,Yes I would. I would have nothing to hide from my spouse and would tell her everything about the friendship. Yet at the same time may I add, i would probably not get into a very close friendship with someone of the opposite gender if i was married, even though there is nothing but just friendship. It may sound strange, but that's me.

Honestly, no. My husband would never understand and that can create friction between us. But the case is not the same if it is the other way round (though my husband thinks otherwise). He has told me about friends he has made (of the opposite gender) and it's not a problem for me....but I know (from past experience) that it's not the same if I was to make a friend...and be very close to him. Call it double standards, if you will...but that's the way it is..and I'm resigned to the matter.

OF COURSE! I landed on myLot quite by accident 3 years ago, while searching for information and one of the results was a discussion here. Because the discussion was the exact opposite of what I believe, I joined so that I could reply. That was a VERY long discussion/debate and many more followed. EVERY discussion was conducted with utmost respect and courtesy and we became great friends. We also emailed each other. My husband read all the discussions and emails. We were FRIENDS who respected each other. I have been married to my wonderful husband for almost 50 years. We have no secrets from each other.

Hi mimpi.. yes I tell my husband everything.. because we dont have any secrets.. He also has an account in mylot but he is not active due to lack of time.. But I share my fun of mylot with my husband I have here with my dear friends.. so that he can enjoy a bit since he has no time for internet.. I check his mails and he check mine.. and we both have a common mail account which I use for chatting to some common friends which we both have..

Hi mimpi1911 Waw, your username means "dream" in my mother language! Yes, I'll tell my spouse about this. If he is only close friends, then I think it is good if my spouse know about him. It always good to let my spouse know my friends, either offline friends/real-life friends and online friends Hmm, maybe my spouse can make friend with him too? I think that's good and I don't see any problem..

I told about my close mylot friend to my spouse, and tell him everything. It's not secret for me and him.