Talk or ignore?

Philippines
November 21, 2009 4:34am CST
When someone offend you in one way or another would you talked or ignore that person? Is it best to ignore the person 'til the time when you don't feel the pain anymore? Or it good to talk the person and tell him/her what you feel?
9 responses
@Ravi446 (57)
• India
21 Nov 09
You are right.You should share your feeling with that particular person.Tell him what your feeling about his comments.First of all dont look him like an enemy.Accept him if he is saying True.May be he is saying true.But there are some persons who really like commenting others.Just dont bother about them.If he is irritating you much.Inform it to your elders.But dont try to quarrel with him.If you do so Problem becomes bigger.Try to make him your friend if you can.
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
Yeah, you're right! It's not good to let our emotions control our actions. We should not let our heart ruled over our mind. Because it only bring us to shame and destruction. That's why it's not advisable to talk the person when your head is high. You need to cool down your self first. Be sober, so you could deal the person in a sensible way. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Lornal (113)
• China
21 Nov 09
Most of time, i choose 'ignore', i always try to forget the unhappy things and my memory is bad. But if the person is very important to me, i will tell him/her my feeling.
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
Well that's good for you. If it's possible to forget the unfortunate situations from the past. Then why not? That's the best choice of action anyone could do. Even if it's the person who's close to you. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@2babita (1072)
• India
25 Nov 09
I will try to ignore fast,if that person can understand then the matter ends.But if not,then i will take that person in some resturant,we will sit and talk.I will try to clear him/her not to disturbe me anymore.
@etioewe (142)
• Mexico
21 Nov 09
well I have tried some things in the past I try to ignore the person but I found out that some times i get depress over not talking out how i feel about some issues when offended, well it depends on the issue, if its some thign you know you can not change then just ignore the person, but if you know if you dont talk the issue will continue offending you , I suggest you speak your mind and clear it all on how you feel, becuase some poeple are just out there to reduce you and make you feel bad all the time, and this might cause depression if you dont act. so I better say study the situation and see if you have to speak out. you some times when you dont express how you feel some poeple just take you for granted. So I will say react according to the mood you are.
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
Yeah, I's also experienced that before, not talking to the person who offended me. It seems like it was my fault. The more I keep distance from the person the more I felt guilt. So it's really best to talk the person and let him/her know what you felt, express your inner feelings and emotions. It's not good on keeping and holding back. Although in some cases it's best not to talk especially when your emotion and pain is high, as you might say words you'd rather regret. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• India
21 Nov 09
It depends on who the person is.. If he is close then explai him.. if not leave the place
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
Yeah, it greatly depends on the person. And when it comes to someone whom we know, it could be better to talk though it's inevitable not to ignore. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
23 Nov 09
i would rather talk to the person. the best you can do is to talk about the conflict in a calm manner.. Give way to the person whom you have conflict with..Let him/her listen to your side as well.. Open communication is the best way..But still there are also words that are left unsaid and can be understood already.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
21 Nov 09
just depends on things. my best mate from school ditched me for her now husband, it was only when i was about to have my son and we met, at a friends party was i good enough to talk to again. things were fine, then she was about to have her 3 rd child when she had a dig at me about my parenting. with my son about being strict, my son has learning problems and i have to stay on top of things. hence now i don't even bother to speak to her or her husband, it was really insulting what she said. i just steer clear of them, i don't need friends like that. i find also if depend on attuide, like i showed my bro's g.f. the other week her horse is ride able, with having to send it to the trainers, i also trimmed 3/4 inches of his tail so that it will grow better. any way she seems to have gotten s....y with me, over it. i be polite round her, but she's not bothered about talking to me so i leave it and do my own thing with the horses.
• India
21 Nov 09
i don 't care abount the person who offends it is best to avoid such person and go on your way .
• United States
22 Nov 09
No one really ignores anything. We are only fooling ourselves. Take some time if you need it, but always try to resolve the issues at hand. Let the person know that you are upset with them, and are going to take some time to think.