what did people do to get married without much money?

@hobegao (136)
China
November 22, 2009 5:20am CST
there are many questions pop up with my age growing,love ,marriage ,houses ,and kids later(now i don't have any kid)? if i want to marry somebody ,first i must have a house then i could get married ,and if i don't have any house so i could not marry somebody,so for me house is a disaster ?almost everything bases on money ,no body could earn the money of all the world ,and it's really impossible? i just wonder how did people get married without much money to buy a new house,and both parents did not agree to marry without house? should marriage like this? i want to know that how did you guys make it work without parents’(his or her)agree ment and without a house ?
10 responses
@maximax8 (30579)
• United Kingdom
22 Nov 09
A couple could get married on a weekday at a registry office. They could have a party in a park and friends could bring along food plus drinks. Then the couple could take a train to the coast and go camping in a tent at a small quiet campsite. Then they could live in rented accommodation. It would be wise for them to save up to get a bright future.
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@hobegao (136)
• China
22 Nov 09
that's sound great,but i can do this only in my dream,thanks for coming by?
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 09
It all has to do with what society thinks. Is having your own house really important before deciding to get married? Many will say yes because they want to live independently. Others would marry and live with their parents first while they work hard to get their own houses. Personally, I think parents would not mind if their married children and husband live with them temporarily until they're financially capable of owning their own homes.
@hobegao (136)
• China
22 Nov 09
thanks?if love could create miracles,then i belive that house is't important anymore,if love could not ,i have to face the reality?in my country,any parents would not like to marr their daughter to a man who without his own house,i think that is a kind of sadness?
• United States
23 Nov 09
I know my parents would not mind. Actually, my sister who is divorced with four children lives with my parents. She helps around the house and has her children do light chores (the oldest is 7 and the triplets are 4). Actually I called my mom today and my niece got on the phone and told me that Sandy Claus (she calles Santa Claus Sandy Claus) will only come to my house if it is clean so I have to clean up. I thought that was so cute. My husband lived with his mom after he had divorced because she was elderly and she needed some companionship. If she had not passed away before we got married she would have moved in with us and I would not have wanted it any other way.
@umer5222 (724)
• Cyprus
22 Nov 09
Dude love is blind, They is no value of money and wealth for true lovers.
@hobegao (136)
• China
22 Nov 09
love can create miracles
@llyyaa (14)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
umer5222, love is not blind at all, it's the lovers who turns a blind eye and accept all imperfections. Love is kind, perfect since it comes from God. Peace!
@getbrowser (1715)
• China
22 Nov 09
As you have said above, there are many people who have met the similar bad situation. Living in such a society, most people are becoming more relastic and it is difficult to get married without money and other material bases. Without them, I think it is difficult for most people to get married and enjoy a better life wirh our partners. You see, I think I should work for more than 10 years before I get married with my love. Love is not the whole thing for a couple because these material bases are necessities too.
@hobegao (136)
• China
22 Nov 09
if i work for 10 years befor i get married ,i think that i could lost my love perhaps,this could happen?
• China
22 Nov 09
It's absolutely that people could get married without having a house.They can live in a apartment,earning salary to pay for it.But in fact,seldom of them want to do like this,mostly won't be married.
@hobegao (136)
• China
22 Nov 09
if they can't get married just because no a house ,what a pity,that's so sad? should love or marriage be like this?
• India
23 Nov 09
Well dude im not married and i cant answer all off your questions but as far as im concerned from what i have seen all i would say is this first of all people get married not because someone else got married, they dont get married cause everyone is the socity and in their families want them to get married i think there are two reasons for why people get married one is no one wants to grow old alone and die alone people get married so that they can take care of each other when they grow old they get married to be there for each other and help each other out in every walk of life as they get older. That is the first reason the second reason is people get married because they met a gurl or a guy who they wanted to be his/her husband or wife, well i have seen many gurls some i would like to talk to some i would like to go out with on dates some look like one night stand chicks and some i would want to spen my whole like with and when u meet a gurl who u want to spend your whole life with then thats the right time for u to get married everything else is crap your age your finance your house everything im sure u have a place to live right now u would just have to share it with ur spouce All i would say is dont get married just cause ur running out of time or your runin out of age get married when u meet someone you would want to share your entire life with unless then dont even think of getttin married if you get married cause you think ur gettin older or if u get married cause u think the socity would talk bad about you or if u think you will never get married and get married in a hurry u will never be happy till the day you die and i relly dont want that to happen to me or anyone for this instance so get married only when u have met the right gurl untill then just be single and save your body and mind for that someone special Cheers !
@mchavez11 (1406)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
Well all i can say is that you have to start somewhere. Money, things, etc. can be solved tangibly. In order for you to produce money is to work dilligently and properly. While on the other hand if your problem is on the humanity side like you can't bear a child, you can't find a partner for mysterious reasons and you're a bit old to get married. Well in my opinion, those are the serious problems that have narrow solutions. So if I were you focus on what is on the human side beause again money can easily be earned as long as you desire and work for it.
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
22 Nov 09
When my husband and I got together we lived in different states, he was a US Marine, so once his time was up, we would move intogether, problem was... one of had to move. I choose to move to his home state for better opportunities. We didn't have much of a house, small little thing but we loved each other and that's what meant the most to us. No amout of money, no big house, fancy car could ever change my feelings for my husband. We have built our life on love, and that is what has helped us make it threw the hard times. If you truely love someone and they return your feelings as equal, then being with a shabby home, a car that don't run well, and living pay check to pay check is all well worth it.
• Indonesia
22 Nov 09
well...just maybe you can talk about it with the girl's parents.. i believe most of the parents looking the best partner for their daugther, by word the best not always about of wealth you have but also how much care you have for their daugther. if you can prove to them that you are a man of your word, that you'll do your very best everytime to make their daugther happy, i think you can get married without having a house first. A renting house can be a temporary solution. good luck!
@bryanwmc (1052)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 09
I got married with practically nothing except bit of savings...but i suppose my situation is slightly diferent than most people,cos both of us live and work in a resort,so we just got a free room compliments of the boss.few years ,still ,now doing own thing in city,but renting apartment,never really stressed ourselves out over money or lack of it,no big deal,as long as necessities are provided for,and we have each other for company in a small family,i am cool, to me all the worries about owning house,disapproving parents ,having more than enough money etc b4 we can settle down is so meaningless,we live for ourselves,i dont wish to lose focus on whats really important, feeling contented and satisfied, and just make do with what we have..things will always work out,my priorities now are doing what i enjoy doing with my family and thats all..! Whatever else , deal with it as it presents itself..! One day at a time..