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United States
November 22, 2009 9:38pm CST
Later this week, I'm headed to pick up my original engagement ring from my mom's. My son wants to give it to his girlfriend as a promise ring for Christmas. Although, I'm not sure he'll wait that long. When I asked him if he'd like it, he said "Really? You'd do that for me?" I told him, it was very tiny. I think Mike used the term "Diamond Dust" last night when we were discussing it. Do you have something that either your parents/spouse's parents gave to you, or something that you are saving for your kids? I have my original wedding band for Kristen and the small anniversary band that I got for my 5th wedding anniversary for Lauren. They don't know it yet though!
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• Boston, Massachusetts
23 Nov 09
Hi Carpenter, That is also somewhat part of our tradition...although not everyone is doing this in our country but i for one is preparing for this. I have two sons and every time i buy a jewelry i will tell my husband that i am saving this for my daughters in-law. Same with you i am doing it too and they don't know this yet. My eldest is 13 years old and my youngest is nine. I have more years to save for my kids' future wives.
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• United States
21 Jan 10
It's good to be back. I need to concentrate today on catching up with mylot, gather and mypoints. I have a ton of e-mails to sort through and answer. My back has hurt so much in the last couple of months, that I can't just sit down and write for hours on end. Mainly because of the sleepiness and distorted thoughts that the pain medicaion has on me!
• Boston, Massachusetts
21 Jan 10
oh that's nice. you have a great mom and you are a grat mom too! thanks for sharing this with me...! nice to see you back.
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• Boston, Massachusetts
21 Jan 10
so how are you feeling now? i hope everything's fine with you. don't stress yourself too much. take care of yourself though you are happy doing mylot. see more in our future discussions!
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@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
23 Nov 09
My daughter wants my wedding dress, it's at my parents house. She used to say she didn't like it and I always told her that she didn't have to use it if she didn't want to, now that she's older, she wants to wear it when she gets married. Her dad & I were married 20 years, I couldn't take his drinking anymore and it ended in divorce, I thought maybe she wouldn't want it after that but she still does. While going through a lot of other stuff, my 14 yr old son came across the wedding cake topper we had used and the bride & groom glasses, he wanted to know if I would keep them for him. My 19 yr old (20 next month) wants to get married next year and wanted to know if they could have our old wedding bands. I don't see why not. so I said yes to all of them.
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• India
23 Nov 09
In a way, I’ve heard that it’s a very proud and emotional moment for the parents, when their kids get married wearing/using their parents’ wedding dress and other wedding equipments. Most parents have tears of joy in their eyes…I don’t know *shrugs*…my only kid’s just 10 *sigh*
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• United States
21 Jan 10
My oldest daughter (Kristen) was looking at wedding pictures of her dad and I the other day and asked about my dress. It was borrowed, because when we got married, he was in the military, and we had to move the wedding up several months and only had 3 weeks to plan the ceremony. I told her that if she really wanted to use it when it came her turn, that I would try to get in touch with Donna, whom I borrowed the dress. I'm glad you said yes to them. I believe that it will be very emotional to see your daughter in your dress, no matter the situation between you and your exhusband now!
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
2 Feb 10
She used to hate the dress, but now that she is older, she likes it and wants to borrow it. It wouldn't bother me one bit of she decides to wear it, it might bother her step-mom but I don't think her opinion matters much to my daughter. (she seems to lose respect for her day by day)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 09
You are very lucky because you have such loving kids. I've never been treated by my mother the way you treat your kids. In my family, I've never felt true love from my mother, your happy situation now is an impossible situation in my life. However, I am happy for you and I can feel how deep is your love for your kids. I think your kids are asking you for your jewelleries not because they are materialistic, but it is the way they want to see how deep is your love for them. I personally think you never have any doubt in loving your kids, and just keep up doing the same thing until the end of your life. It will definitely bring more happiness and blessings all the time. Love, just me Ladysurvivor.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
23 Nov 09
I have many things that I am saving up for my children[only son and dil].That valuables like gold and silver must be passed on as heirloom is my conviction because I want to preserve what was given to me by my parents and parentsinlaw.It is wonderful that your son is passing on an important piece of sentimental value to his girlfriend[however .God bless them and I wish them all happiness.WHen would the wedding be?
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• United States
21 Jan 10
They have chosen October 2, 2010 for their wedding. I believe that it will be here in the central Arkansas area, but she is from South East Arkansas and they are considering there as well. Her pastor from the church she attended there just resigned his church and went onto the mission field, so she is hesitating. They asked my husband to do the biggest portion of the ceremony.
@AmbiePam (100324)
• United States
26 Nov 09
That is so sweet. It makes me teary to think about it. "Diamond Dust" - like it matters. The importance they'll place on that is enormous, I'm sure you know that. And what a great thing for Lauren! They certainly have a wonderful mother. And I hope their mother's back pain is seen to quickly. I'm really sorry you're going through so much pain.
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• United States
21 Jan 10
Aww...you're so sweet. My back has its good days and bad ones. today is a bad one because it's rainy and nasty outside. When the fronts come throught, I have alot of trouble. I've spent the last two nights sleeping in the recliner, because it is more comfortable for me to sit up than it is laying down. You are exactly right about the sentiment though. The few things I have that belonged to those that have already gone on to heaven are so special to me! I wouldn't give them up for all the money in the world.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
24 Nov 09
I have my wedding dress in a box and my husband thinks I should pass onto my daughter one day which I would be quite happy to do although I think that by the time my daughter will get married she will probably want to choose her own dress! I have a ring that I inherited from my mother in law that I will eventually pass onto my child. Of course all my jewellery, not that I have much, will be passed onto her because she is my only child.
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