What would you do if....

@levite (1062)
Philippines
November 23, 2009 3:23am CST
you have found out that he really does not love you and married you only because of your inheritance. Will you get mad at him and file a divorce (or annulment in some countries) or will you forgive him and give him another chance to save your marriage?
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@coolcat123 (4391)
• India
23 Nov 09
i am such a person that I would consider myself very unluckythat i got such a selfish life partner but i have to manage my life with him as there is no other option here left in our community as girls have to go on with the goings without any complaint.
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• United States
23 Nov 09
I am sorry, and I feel for your situation.
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@levite (1062)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
So it's part of your culture and the only thing you have to do is to endure the pain of having a selfish partner...sigh...
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@sutent (1061)
• China
24 Nov 09
Hi friend, This is hypothesis as well as a cituation in reality. As to me, i have that reality and i would firstly forgive her primary purpose and save our marriage. And if her is still prefer inheritance than me and i would file a divorce. By the way, i am a not wealthy man.
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@levite (1062)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
Communication is still the first thing to consider here. Good for you, you want to save your marriage first before ending up in divorce.
@yan_blue8 (1438)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
That would be unfair if you are still going to be together just because he is going to get something from you. If you love him, you will probably think twice about it but for sure you'll end up having a divorce. For me, you can't save your marriage because on the first place he has no love for you at all.
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@levite (1062)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
What if you had already made up your mind to file a divorce but suddenly, he told you that he had made a serious mistake because of his greed for money and he told you to give him another chance to prove that he could love you.
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• Philippines
23 Nov 09
Well first of all, i will consider my feelings to him first, if i really do love him and he only loves my money, i think i could still give him a chance. But if he really does not love me in return and is having an affair with somebody else, i think that will be the time that i will file a divorce or annulment.
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@levite (1062)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hi friend kp. Sorry, I responded just today. Anyway, you have already married him, meaning, you already loved him and your feelings suddenly change? Won't you defend your love? But what if you already filed a divorce or annulment and here he is asking for forgiveness, will you change your mind and give him another chance?
• India
23 Nov 09
I think i will give him a chance once to change his mindset and i will love him in such a way that he can change his opinion and love me in that positive way i will save my life and make my married life more happier.what do you think about it?
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@levite (1062)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
That's great if he could really change his mindset and love you in return and forget about his greed and selfishness. But what if suddenly he left you and brought all your money with him and you could no longer find him?
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• India
23 Nov 09
though i get mad in the begining i have a hope that u can change the persons attitude with true love .so forgiving and giving a chance to change their attitude is not a bad idea.
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• United States
23 Nov 09
I don't have time for games. I am getting old. So yeah, i would file for divorce. I did my 16 years of time in a worthless marriage, not one more day will I live another lie. Cheers!
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@skysuccess (8880)
• Singapore
23 Nov 09
levite, In the first place, how did the both of you end up in marriage then? Can you remember the rationale of your decision? And since your discovery (I wonder how) what does the other party want? If he is really after your heirloom, then I don't suppose anything other than a generous divorce settlement will solve the problem between the both of you. Whether this marriage could be saved is not your lone say as it will need two hands to clap and mutuality for this marriage to thrive. Yet, even if the other party has awakened and willing to continue, there's still your acceptance part to consider. Take care.
@levite (1062)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
There are some people (girl in this situation) who is really madly in love with the guy and whether or not the guy loves him or not and whether she suddenly found out that the man just wanted her inheritance, she won't mind it because of her so-called "love" for him.
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@levite (1062)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
Additionally, there are some guy(s) who is expert in fooling the girl that he had really loved her until they settled down only to find out later that he had fooled her. The man used her inheritance to buy a faraway home (for her true love unknown to the girl)and build his own business. The guy still showed the girl that he loved her superficially. The girl still believed in him until one day the guy left her suddenly without a trace.
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